09/16/2026
I laughed so hard at this because this is SO Jeff and me. 😂
We’ve been married 29 years and dated 4½ years before that — and this difference has pretty much been there from day one.
In DISC language:
I’m Influence/Dominance. I TALK TO THINK. I process out loud. I tell the story, the backstory, probably a side story… and eventually get back to the original point. 😄
Jeff is Compliance/Dominance. HE THINKS BEFORE HE SPEAKS. He does not have a big need to talk, he never rambles, and when he says something, there is usually a point.
After all these years, we know this about each other.
And honestly, that’s one of the things I love about DISC. It helps you understand that something that can drive you a little crazy about another person may simply be part of how they are wired.
And the reverse is true too. I am quite certain my “thinking out loud” has tested Jeff’s patience a time or two. 😂
33½ years together and still very different. And still very much in love and best friends. (Thankful, every day.)
This video absolutely nailed it:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DdG5P-ihUX_/?stkn=b2dxZGt2b2kwMm9h
P.S. What makes this even funnier to me: the “app” takes her long story and summarizes it for him in two words — then takes his two-word response and turns it into the longer, loving response she wants to hear. 😂 Basically, communication-style adapting in both directions!