01/07/2023
Something that almost ANY business or life coach, or motivational speaker, or consultant of any kind will tell you in one form or another.
DITCH the victim mentality.
You will not ever fulfill your potential if you constantly look at or bring up how bad things were for you or how hard you had it.
Add to that, victim mentality's sister, blame, or in some way putting down others.
"What? I don't put down others!"
Really? When someone makes a comment like, "I didn't have all the "ins" like other people" or in anyway making it sound as though YOUR journey has been harder than another persons then you have made them "less than". You have minimalized another's journey.
In essence, you have put down another in order to elevate yourself.
People have a tendency to be ok with this as long as they are in the group being elevated instead of put down.
It happens all the time. Especially in the current trend for everyone sharing their success stories online in hopes of promoting their brand. Which I LOVE. I want to hear your stories.
I want to hear and read about your successes and your overcoming of your obstacles.
Just leave out the parts where you minimalize everyone else's struggle. Because they were only thinking of your success until you reminded them that in some way you did it but they didn't and they, in your eyes, had it easier.
Your motivation and your story should have nothing to do with stepping on others to be an overcomer.
Those who legitimately held you back, or put you down, or hurt you on your journey, stop letting them live rent free in your head and in your story.
Let them get theirs from God, or karma, or anyone else.
I may not have had to struggle with the same things as you, but you haven't had to struggle with the same things as me. We are all built different and have different story lines.
Let your story be told without putting anyone else down in the telling.