carlton logan insight coaching (clic)

10/08/2016

I know. It's been awhile. What can I say? Everybody says "I'm busy". For me, that is true. But I guess the time is now. There's so much to say.

And I guess I have a lot to say...and we need to talk. A salon would be great for all of us to enlighten ourselves.

If I say the word SALON, most people would think of a place where people, mainly women, go to get their hair done. Or maybe get their nails done. But when I say the word, I’m thinking of som…

01/12/2016

When do we put self-control into place?

An image of President Barack Obama was captured last week during his announcement of executive actions aimed at reducing gun violence. It is impactful because of its intimacy. It is moving becaus...

12/17/2015

"Good intentions become tragic action when delivered without careful thought."

So, I've learned...

10/16/2015

Up until now, I've not spoken a word about the Bill Cosby issue. As someone who has been a volunteer for an organization providing services to survivors of sexual assault, I do have an opinion. But...

09/25/2015

Today's Lesson: Be The Thermostat

This is a repeat. Or a remix. Because I know I've shared this before. But I shared it for the first time with someone yesterday. It was a new concept to her. So it may be new to you, too.

Pictured below is a thermostat. We all have them in our homes. If it's hot outside, we cool down the house. If it's wintertime and cold outdoors, we want a warm and cozy home. That thermostat is responsible for making your home comfortable. It sets the tone.

A thermometer reacts to its circumstances. Stick a thermometer under your tongue and it should register 98.6. If it registers 104°, you need to be heading to the clinic.

The young lady I spoke with yesterday described her mood swings. And as we talked, I noticed her mood was heavily influenced by people and situations. She got upset when someone made a negative comment to her. When she shared the story with a co-worker, the co-worker's POSITIVE comments made her feel better.

But actually, it wasn't the co-worker. The co-worker's comments influenced her and she CHOSE to feel better.

No ONE can make us do anything. We CHOOSE.

That's why I always say: Be the THERMOSTAT, not the THERMOMETER.

Be consistent in your feelings, emotions, and thoughts. Set the tone in how you will be treated by and spoken to by others.

If someone's in a bad mood, don't let it affect you. YOU are the thermostat not the thermometer.

When you walk in the room, YOU set the tone. And if no one is on the same level as you are, they'll either adjust accordingly or leave the room...because they're uncomfortable with tone YOU'VE set.

Be blessed,
Carlton

08/17/2015

Whether you know it or not, we all have super powers. We may not be able to see through walls or jump over buildings with a single bound....but we all have a single trait we are capable of doing better than anyone. It is unique to each one of us individually. Yes, others may be able to bring people together or make people smile. But not like you.

Make sure you are using your superpower for good and not evil. Be the one who diffuses situations instead of creating havoc. Be the one who lights up a room instead of sucking up all of the air. Whatever your superpower is, it is a gift. Use it wisely.

06/01/2015

In the past few days, I learned a lot about love. Several situations presented themselves where I got to see love in action. Or in its absence. Or in its maturity...or childishness. What I learned ...

03/21/2015

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03/17/2015

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03/16/2015

Don't let someone change who you are to become what they need.

03/07/2015

Recently, there was a lot of discussion about the importance of Selma - the movie. It is significant for several reasons. It was first, and foremost, a cinematic depiction of a time in American h...

01/02/2015

Plan A didn't work....

HAPPY NEW YEAR! The party's over and it's time to back to your regular life. Or maybe you don't want to go back. Every year, we make a resolution, or several, of how we are going to change THIS YE...