01/30/2024
If you find yourself by default often asking others for opinions before making any decision, it is time to start asking yourself - Why do you do that? Often this need to seek out for others first in any decision making - even if it is a casual or 'jokey' question, hints at a behavioural pattern stemmed from childhood that fail to wean off at the rebellious teenage years. In most cases, it involves a parent who holds 'all the power' in a house - or with other members of the family. The two most common family dynamics are :
(Type 1) One or both parents who are 'over-caring' for the child to the extent of making every decision, down to every little detail on the belief that 'parents know best'. The child grew up with insecurities of feeling 'incomplete' on his own in whatever he plans to do till he seeks out others' opinions.
(Type 2) One or both parents with anger or even violence management issues, and the child grew up fearful of doing anything wrong or disapprove by the parents.
These are the 2 most common types, there are of course other root causes. Learn about them. Reprogram yourself. Seek out professionals if need be. Take control of your mind and reclaim your life. It is liberating. ~ Gloria* Allure x Alchemy
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