09/04/2026
One of the dumbest pieces of leadership advice we keep repeating is:
“Don’t get too close to your people. You won’t be able to hold them accountable.”
That’s nonsense.
Being close to someone does not make accountability harder.
Being unclear does.
Being inconsistent does.
Tolerating drift because you are afraid of upsetting someone definitely does.
If you cannot hold someone accountable because you care about them, the problem is not the relationship. The problem is how you handle accountability.
Trust should make the conversation easier.
You should be able to say:
This is what we agreed winning looks like.
This is where I see the drift.
What happened?
What does recovery look like?
When will I see evidence of it?
That is not punishment.
That is not confrontation for the sake of confrontation.
It is a clear conversation with someone you respect enough to tell the truth.
You do not need distance to lead people. You need clarity, consistency, and enough trust to address drift before it becomes a bigger problem.