The Addicted Mind Podcast

09/28/2026

09/12/2026

One of my favorite episodes! Sometimes our own shame gets in the way of our healing!

TAM+ EP 107 From Self-Blame to Self-Compassion: Breaking the Addiction Shame Cycle by Duane | Apr 23, 2026 | Addiction, Recovery, self-addiction, TAM+ Are you your own worst enemy in recovery? This episode tackles the hidden barrier that keeps many people stuck in addiction – a harsh inner critic....

08/28/2026

Check out Christian Struthers on TAM!

"I didn’t plan to become a speaker.
I was just telling my story at Dog Dash events - and then people started coming up in tears.

Tag someone who needs this reminder: your pain can become somebody else’s hope.
That’s when it clicked.
This is why my seatbelt was cut.

This is why I stopped bleeding out.

This is why I can walk again.
Not just to survive it - but to use it.

And honestly?
Filling other people’s cups might be the most fulfilling thing I’ve ever done."

What’s a moment that turned your pain into purpose?

08/20/2026

Finding out your partner is struggling with po*******hy or s*x addiction isn’t just a relationship hurdle, it’s a profound rupture of trust that can leave you experiencing real, debilitating betrayal trauma.

When the truth surfaces, the spotlight almost always lands on the addict and their recovery. But what about you?

Healing can't be a one-sided equation. Before a couple can even think about rebuilding a shared future, both partners need a safe space to rebuild themselves individually.

If you are navigating this, here is why your own mental health support is just as critical:

Processing Betrayal Trauma: Discovering compulsions or secrets causes shock, grief, and anxiety. Therapy gives you a dedicated space to process these intense emotions without having to filter them for your partner’s comfort.

Establishing Healthy Boundaries: Healing requires safety. A professional specializing in betrayal trauma can help you identify, communicate, and hold firm boundaries that protect your emotional and physical well-being.

Reclaiming Your Identity: Trauma often leaves partners feeling erased, hypervigilant, or doubting their own reality. Personal support helps you rediscover your self-worth separate from the addiction or the relationship.

Creating True Readiness for Repair: You cannot repair a "coupleship" from a place of active, untreated trauma or resentment. Both individuals must do their own heavy lifting first so any future reconciliation is built on genuine health, not codependency.

You didn't cause this, and it isn't your job to fix it, but you do deserve a safe place to heal. Taking care of your mental health isn't selfish; it’s essential. 🤍

If you are a resident of California, Florida, Texas or Virginia, our Partner's Betrayal Group may be a helpful healing resource for you! Our group is held online, every Thursday, from 12-1 PM PST.

https://novusmindfullife.com/support-groups-for-spouses-of-s*x-addicts/

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08/20/2026

Novus Mindful Life Institute Counseling and Recovery Center founder, Duane Osterlind, LMFT, CSAT shares another video in his Shame to Resilience series explaining why a common question. "Why can't she just move on?" misunderstands the betrayal injury...

Her brain is refiling every memory of your marriage — and it's doin...

08/20/2026

The Addicted Mind Podcast creator, Duane Osterlind, LMFT, CSAT shares another video in his Shame to Resilience series explaining why a common question. "Why can't she just move on?" misunderstands the betrayal injury...

Her brain is refiling every memory of your marriage — and it's doin...

06/10/2026

The Addicted Mind Podcast Creator, Duane Osterlind, LMFT, CSAT breaks down Betrayal Trauma...

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04/02/2026

🚨 FREE LIVE WEBINAR — TONIGHT at 5pm PST 🚨

Is your relationship still suffering from a betrayal that never really healed?

Whether you're the one who cheated... or the one who stayed...
this free workshop was made for BOTH of you.

TODAY, April 2nd at 5pm PST, licensed therapist Duane Osterlind
(host of The Addicted Mind Podcast — 1M+ downloads) is hosting a FREE
live Zoom workshop:

👉 "HOW TO HEAL AFTER LIES, AFFAIRS, AND BROKEN TRUST"

In this free live webinar, you'll discover:
✅ How to rebuild emotional safety after betrayal — without walking on eggshells
✅ What your partner REALLY needs from you (whether you caused the pain or are carrying it)
✅ The 4-stage framework that's helped countless couples move forward — with real hope

🎟 Registration is FREE — but this is TONIGHT, so save your seat right now.

Register here 👇
https://webinar.shametoresilience.com/

💛 Tag someone who needs to hear this. Healing is possible.

11/27/2025

✨ 5-Day Thanksgiving Peaceful Co-Existence Series ✨
For individuals and couples navigating relationship distress, betrayal, or infidelity—who still want a grounded, meaningful, and family / child-centered holiday.

🧡 Day 5 — Thanksgiving Day: Create a Peaceful, Present Moment. Today is not about the past—it’s about the next 12 hours.

Research Base: Mindfulness-based stress reduction + positive psychology.

You’ve made it to Thanksgiving. No matter what you’re navigating, you deserve a day that feels grounded and meaningful. Today is about presence—not perfection.

Action Steps:
1. Choose your “energy anchor” for the day.
Examples: calm, gratitude, steadiness, kindness.
Return to this word whenever anxiety rises.

2. Engage in mindful micro-moments.
Notice the smell of food, the sound of laughter, a child’s smile.
These small anchors calm the nervous system and bring you back to the present.

3. End the day with a simple repair ritual.
This is not about fixing betrayal—it’s about emotional safety.
Examples:
A brief check-in: “Thank you for supporting a peaceful day.”
A gratitude statement.
A calm moment of acknowledgment for teamwork.

Call to Action: If you’re entering or leaving today with difficult emotions, know that support is available. A skilled therapist can help you process betrayal, rebuild trust, or find clarity about the next steps in your healing. Reach out anytime for guidance and grounding. (562) 431-5100. If a call feels like too much, you can send us a simple text message and speak with a real human who can answer any questions you have.