04/24/2024
Our Founder & Chief Diversity Consultant facilitated an antiracism training yesterday with a male cofacilitator. Upon meeting this cofacilitator in-person for the first time, he asked her - a person he does not know personally outside of a few prior virtual work engagements - "when the baby was due," proceeded to point at her stomach, and tell her that "she was definitely pregnant" and that she "looked pregnant in the face." To be clear, she is not pregnant (not that this matters), but she is
Now, we are sharing this not to complain or to drag this person. Nor are we feeling sorry for ourselves. We are sharing this because even within the diversity, antiracism, and inclusion space - even among Black facilitators in this space - there can be a lack of inclusivity and a lack of respect. Even while working to advance equity, those who work in this space are oftentimes the recipients of
Additionally, and importantly, we are sharing this because women's body's are *CONSTANTLY* the subject of undue, predominantly male attention. Women's shape, size, and general appearance seems to always be fair game to be assessed, consumed, and commented on.
Commenting on people's bodies (especially if you do not know them, but really in general) is unacceptable. This includes telling people they "must have lost weight," or "look exhausted," or asking if they are pregnant among a litany of other unnecessary and unsolicited comments. A good rule of thumb: Don't comment on people's bodies. Period.