Stellar Hitch

11/09/2022

BEST way to stay perpetually single? Make assumptions after a first or second date. Often I hear:
1. "They must not be serious about being in a relationship because he /she's not available for the next 2 weeks". (Please remember that people have lives before you).
2. "He / she's into ............. (insert ANYTHING) and I just don't see myself doing those things". (This is a huge mistake; a good relationship happens when two people share core values and priorities, not every single interest).
3. "He / she shared some things about their past relationship and it sounds like they were a player / party girl / a mess / somehow abused and I don't want that in my life". (Everyone has a past; it's not your job to judge. Meet people where they are now; people change. It's also wildly unfair to judge their childhood experiences).
4. "He / she is not responding quickly enough; they must not be into me". (Give the benefit of the doubt in the beginning ~ you have no idea what they're dealing with in their life because you are still a 'stranger'. See #1.

Don't put the cart before the horse unless you prefer to stay single for a long time. Dating is one step at a time. After each date, ask yourself one question: Am I still curious about this person? If yes, then you owe it to yourself to see them again. You gain much more insight about someone on a second date. Tip: Plan something different than you did on the first date.

10/28/2022

Feeling the need to be busy all the time is a trauma response and fear-based distraction from what you'd be forced to acknowledge and feel if you slowed down. If you date this way - frenetically, without intention - you will end up with a chaotic (and endless) love life. Be still...and honest. You cannot form meaningful connections with others unless you're connected with yourself.

10/19/2022

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09/22/2022

One of the reasons why it could be so difficult to meet someone and feel a spark is that you've forgotten to cultivate the spark inside of you. We expect so much from people when we first meet them ~ we want to feel moved and 'activated' -- and alive. Few understand the importance of lighting their own fire first (what sparks joy in YOU?). When you have the fire, you will attract the fire.

02/07/2022

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Finding out your partner's love language will uplevel your relationship by 1000%!!!

Matchmaker Cristina Morara shares advice on perfect gift ideas for each of the five love languages.

10/29/2021

Be more focused on bringing your A-game IRL, not just online. Your profile gets you in the door but if you're not prepared (what's interesting about you?) with meaningful questions, a good story, a dash of charm, an easy laugh and authentic curiosity -- what's the point? Online living is just an excuse to hide and feel engaged with the world. It's dulling our conversation skills and making our real life attempt at connecting seem exhausting. Save your energy and bring your very best if you want to build a meaningful life with real people, not technology.

08/16/2021

Everyone wants to feel safe. We give our best when we feel safe. The moment you start questioning your relationship and discussing it with OTHER PEOPLE --rather than your partner-- means that you don't feel secure in your relationship. Taking your intimate issues 'outside' chips away at the integrity of your relationship. If you want a trusting, safe relationship ~ be a trustworthy , safe partner.

07/01/2021

'Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we have become' (Esther Perel)

This couldn't be more true. Our partners are our best (and sometimes, most painful) mirrors. When the going gets tough, it SEEMS like the easiest thing to do is turn the page but it's not. You're potentially trading one set of issues for another. Relationships are complex and bumps are inevitable. The key is to find someone who's willing to do the work --together-- when one of the wheels fall off.

05/25/2021

Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have. Self respect is sexy. To learn how to create stronger boundaries -- a vital ingredient in all relationships -- schedule a personal consultation at stellarhitch.com.

05/05/2021

Dating is SO not a numbers game, especially if you have experience. Quick tip on how to attract more quality over quantity immediately. If you need better access to stellar people, I’m happy to help x.

05/04/2021

Please stop making this mistake when you’re dating; you are missing out on wonderful opportunities when you limit yourself to this one standard.

04/13/2021

You could be one hello away from falling in love. Keep going! Eyes open, smile big and take the risk. Stay curious and connected and EXPECT to be surprised and delighted at what's to come.