10/06/2026
This is why many people feel as if they're working and still sliding.
And I think that's where a lot of the arguments about money are missing the point.
Of course people are responsible for their own choices, and of course smart budgeting and avoiding unwise debt and learning the value of saying no is important. No one is being helped by suggesting that none of it matters.
But we have to be realistic about what causes financial stress for average Americans.
For many people, it's not a case of discretionary spending outpacing their income. It's a situation where rent, groceries, insurance, car payments, medical bills, utilities and other things all decide to come due at once, and the advice they need isn't coming from somebody who bought a home in an era with wildly differing costs and wages and insurance premiums and interest rates.
Not that past generations didn't have their struggles, or that they didn't sacrifice massively to provide for their families, or that they didn't have difficult choices to make regarding their careers or living situations.
But I think we have to admit that giving someone living in 2026 financial advice based on how things were done in 1995 is potentially incredibly irresponsible.
The right answer isn't that people should just stop buying coffee, or that everyone should give up their subscriptions, or just stop entertaining themselves in whatever way they do. It's more nuanced than that.
The right answer is making smart financial decisions, budgeting carefully, and learning to be as efficient as possible with your time and money, without spending more than you make. It's avoiding as many discretionary expenses as possible, and making sure that you don't spend more money chasing an item than you would on just purchasing it. It's planning for your future self, making smart decisions today that make your life easier later. It's having boring, normal jobs that still pay well, and sacrificing now to enjoy later. It's a lot of things.
But the reality is a lot of people are stretched too thin, and could use a reminder not to overextend themselves. And I think we should all be careful about brushing aside their concerns in favor of lecturing them about how they just don't know how to budget properly.