10/14/2026
When I tell my clients that they are their own worst critics, they always react.
Some laugh. Some smile. Some just look down.
So, why are you so hard on yourself?
Well, no one is perfect.
But focusing on your flaws, particularly in your speaking, is going to escalate your anxiety.
You have to pivot from focusing on what is wrong with your speaking to focusing on what is right.
When I began coaching decades ago, I thought my job was to tell my clients what was wrong with their speaking.
I quickly learned that identifying their flaws increased their anxiety.
However, when I coached them on what was right with their speaking, they blossomed.
If you watch yourself on screen or in the mirror and look for what’s wrong, you will stay stuck.
If you watch yourself and focus on what’s right, you will get beyond that root of reluctance that is holding you back.
When you focus on your strengths, you will build the trust in yourself you need to speak with power, precision, and purpose, authentically.
If you want help shifting gears from wrong to right, let's talk: https://calendly.com/execspeak/30min