11/20/2025
Your baby isn’t “supposed” to self-soothe, because, spoiler, they can’t.
Not at 6 weeks.
Not at 6 months.
Not really even at 2 or 3 YEARS old.
Human babies (and toddlers!) co-regulate with their caregivers.
Their nervous systems literally borrow ours until theirs matures around age 3–4.
This is biology, not behavior. 💛
So if someone suggests your tiny human should “just learn to self-soothe,” remember:
If your baby could self-soothe, they’d also help you plan your Thanksgiving dinner.
And let’s be honest… even WE don’t want to do that.
Your job isn’t to make your baby independent.
Your job is to be their safe place until their brain develops the wiring to do it alone.
Connection now = resilience later.
🧠💛 Save this for the next time someone gives you outdated advice.
And share it with a tired parent who needs the reminder that their baby is HUMAN, not a robot.