Refined Parenting

04/17/2024

"Discipline is more about training kids how to relate rightly than it is about punishing them for not getting it right." Dr. Karyn Purvis, Empowered to Connect

02/04/2024

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05/04/2023

Our children need to know we like them.

Mister Rogers offers children a place where they feel accepted and understood ...

09/18/2022

Try de-escalation methods during a meltdown. You will feel calmer and more able to respond.

12/01/2020

The holidays can be hard for kids who learn and think differently. Things that are supposed to be fun can be really stressful. There are also unspoken (or even spoken) comparisons to other kids. All these demands can lead to behavior problems. One way to avoid problem behavior is by planning for holiday challenges ahead of time. With this worksheet, you and your child can do that together.

Download this worksheet to help your child identify holiday challenges and come up with strategies for keeping behavior in check.

10/17/2018

Tired of being angry at your child and their behavior? When you learn to reframe their behavior, you will be able to stay calm and focus on a response that teaches skills and increases their capacity. Think "can't" instead of "won't."

02/16/2018

A great way to explain how our brain functions - the owl, dog, and lizard.

Helping kids with executive functioning challenges can take one part instruction, one part practice, one part mindfulness and one part patience. For the instruction part, I have created fun visua…

02/13/2018

“If trauma is not transformed, it is transmitted.” Richard Rohr

08/08/2017

Make sense of what your child is really asking from you.

Here's a key to secure parenting in less than three minutes.

08/04/2017

“Challenging behavior occurs when certain demands and expectations exceed a kid’s capacity to respond adaptively.” Ross W. Greene, Ph.D.

Dr. Ross Greene is the originator of the Collaborative Problem Solving approach -- now called Collaborative & Proactive Solutions -- as described in his books The Explosive Child and Lost at School. He founded Lives in the Balance to provide free web-based resources to help people understand and hel...

04/11/2017

“We have been asking the wrong questions, which can only lead to feeling utterly unsuccessful. We have been asking whether our children behaved…If you ask the wrong questions, you'll get the wrong answers…Your ability to give love and stay mindful is the new outcome.” Heather Forbes

04/04/2017

Research shows you tend to expect that your child can do more than they can really do. Adjust your expectations and you and your child will experience less stress.