07/25/2013
This is a tough one - Rejection is God’s Protection
Have you ever been rejected by someone you’re interested in and then internalize your feelings? I am sure most of us have gone through this once or twice in our lives.
In my mid-twenties when I was a new believer, I met this great guy at my Church. We spent time together, had Bible Studies at my house, danced in parking lots, hung out with our friends, had beach parties etc. This went on for about 6 months.
One night, I decided to ask him if he was interested in me for anything other than a friend. He said to me, “You know Terri, some people like Chocolate Ice Cream and some prefer Vanilla. I like Chocolate and you’re vanilla.” Ouch! I couldn’t get over that sick feeling of being ignorant to the fact that he didn’t and couldn’t ever care for me in that way and I began to feel unwanted. You know those terrible feelings and thoughts, (I am not good looking enough, skinny enough, tall enough, smart enough, etc.) The list goes on.
Even though I learned a lot from that experience, I could never figure out why God wouldn’t have wanted me with this man of integrity. He ended up marrying someone else and became successful, had 3 children and is serving the Lord. I came to the conclusion that I was just not the right woman for him and moved on.
I have had many healthy relationships since and yet I am still single. I never really understood what God was doing until about 4 years ago. I was talking with my good friend, John Kouri, who is a Single’s Pastor; he said four words that changed my life, Rejection is God’s Protection. When you think about it, God loves us and why would He want us to be in the wrong relationship, if the person we are interested in is not in His perfect will, or in His timing.
God is our Father and He covers us, putting a veil of protection so we are not as appealing to the wrong person. If we are truly following after God’s own heart and His will for our lives, He will shield us from the ones who are not Equally Yoked. We can choose to be in His permissive will, but why would we not want God’s best for our lives.
When the timing is right, the Lord will lift off your veil so you may see and be seen by that person for whom God has designed and intended for you be united with for the rest of your life.
So the next time you’re feeling discouraged because someone is not interested in you, say to yourself ~ Rejection Is God’s Protection!
In His Service,
Terri