Best Life Coaching

06/29/2023

So many incredible lessons from Ted Lasso. Couldn’t love this more.

07/18/2020

Managing a virtual team that is experiencing burnout?

Check out this exercise from my friend Jack Speer from Delta Associates.

Team Exercise: What Contributes to Well-being for Your Team Members?

One concept we’ve found to be especially effective with teams right now is the concept of Well-Being. What contributes to well-being for your team members? Health? Fitness? Job security? Financial security or wealth? Friends and family? Learning and professional growth? Challenging work? Freedom? Spirituality?

And how would team members say they are doing on those elements of well-being—on a 1 – 10 scale—right now? Would they give themselves a 10 on “challenging work” and a “2” on “friends and family”? Maybe a 3 on “freedom” and a 7 on “health”?

To get you started, here is a sample list of what people come up with for their elements of well-being.

Health
Exercise
Challenging work
Job security
Financial security
Wealth
Fun
Travel
Friends
Family
Spirituality
Community
Service
Work-life balance
Good colleagues
You’ll first want to try this exercise with yourself…and then with your team. As you go through the list you’ll probably discover that there are elements of well-being that are important to you that aren’t listed; the list is just an example to trigger ideas for you and your team.

From the list and any additions you make to it, choose the 10 most important elements of your own well-being. Those are YOUR drivers of well-being. Rate how you are doing on each one on a 1 – 10 scale with 1 low and 10 high.

Then send the list with any additions you’ve made to your team. (But don’t send out your list of 10 and your ratings; that’s to share in the remote team session!) Ask each team member to use the list for inspiration and decide on 10 elements of well-being that are essential for them. Stress to them that they are not limited to the list. It’s just to generate ideas. They might come up with 10 components that aren’t on the list at all…or they might find that the 10 things most important to them are all on the list.

Then they should rate each of their components of well-being 1 – 10 with 1 being low and 10 being high.

Create a safe environment for the team to meet by video. To add to the experience you might want to send everyone a food delivery gift card and break bread by sharing a meal together virtually.

Then be the brave one who starts the conversation by sharing the screen with your own well-being criteria and scores. Let your team know how you’re doing…then ask them to share their well-being criteria and scores.
As everyone interacts with each other, I can pretty well guarantee you a couple of outcomes:

Everyone will be reticent to share at first…and then you will not be able to stop them.
Everyone’s criteria for well-being will be different.
Everyone will be feeling some very significant stress that they have been wanting to talk about, wanting to share and discuss.
Some of what is said will shock you….team members will be carrying some big burdens you are not aware of.
Everyone will feel a burden lifted; they will feel more connected and better understood for the doing of this.
Everyone will feel more genuinely cared about because you made this happen.
And everyone will feel that the stress is a bit less and the work is a bit easier afterwards.
In today’s environment a great question to ask would be if you had done this exercise four months ago, what would they say their components of well-being and their scores would have been and how have those changed over the past months?

I put this out to you as a challenge…and as an opportunity. Give it a try and let me know what you find out about your team and about yourself. And, speaking of YOU, let me know what your well-being components are and how you’re doing on them.

11/22/2019

Best gift you can give yourself is helping others.

I noticed how much volunteering was helping with my anxiety and stress, and there’s science to back it up.

11/17/2019

A simple daily gratitude journal can make all the difference.

Neuroscientists have found that if you really feel it when you say it, you'll be happier and healthier. The regular practice of expressing gratitude is not a New Age fad; it's a facet of the human condition that reaps true benefits to those who mean it.

11/07/2019

Want to find out what you are and how you can use this information to your greatest advantage?

Let me know.

This is me.

The Fieldmarshal (ENTJ): extroverted - intuitive - thinking – judging

ENTJs are the strong-willed leaders of the Myers-Briggs system, with drive, grit and determination to excel. You are usually the most capable person in any room and definitely one of the smartest. Logic and reason are where you shine bright, and you have a knack for figuring out the best way to execute a plan and rally others toward a goal. For this reason, plenty of ENTJs end up in business, tech, and politics. While others often see you in “goal mode,” you’re also a great friend — one of your unsung qualities. While other types might be supportive when a pal is dealing with a problem, you’re actually one of the first to drop everything, show up, and help get them out of the bind. With your sharp mind, wide array of interests, and wealth of insight guiding the way, there’s nothing you can’t accomplish.

Defining qualities: driven, focused, logical, persuasive, smart, determined
ENTJs you know: George Clooney, Nancy Pelosi, Al Gore, Gordon Ramsay
At a party: Telling everyone where to park their cars and how best to navigate the snack table.
In your high school class: Most Likely to Succeed

08/11/2019

Points to ponder.

07/31/2019

Your daily inspiration.

07/27/2019

Very interesting article about facing the potential decline in your career.

I am meeting with a client that is facing just that in the coming week.

Are you doing what you can to get ahead of it?

Here’s how to make the most of it.

06/08/2019

I am meeting with a Freshman in college today who is an ENTP with strengths of Context, Ideation, Individualization, Analytical and Restorative.

Someone with this combination loves to creatively solve big problems.

Could entrepreneurship be on the horizon for him? Can’t wait to find out.

06/01/2019

Coaching a high school Freshman with a top 3 strength of “competing”. Priming the pump with this awesome podcast.

I have a lot of competitive people in my life which makes it extra interesting.

05/28/2019

A couple of times a month I have a conversation with a parent of a child who is a pretty clear Introvert. It really saddens me when I start to engage in dialogue because they have so many negative stereotypes in their mind that they can’t embrace their child’s nature.

If you are constantly worried that your child doesn’t have enough friends and they spend too much time in their room, there is a good chance they are an Introvert and they are going to be just fine.

Check out this TED Talk of Susan Cain, the Author of Quiet. It will explain a lot especially the societal bias against Introverts.

http://www.ted.com In a culture where being social and outgoing are prized above all else, it can be difficult, even shameful, to be an introvert. But, as Su...

03/03/2019

Are there areas of your life that just aren’t working? Stressed out all the time? Relationships not working?

The Clean Sweep could help.

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