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10/04/2026

**Are we really listening—or are we just waiting for our turn to speak?**

The newest article in the **Listen to Lead** series explores a word that can completely change the way we approach conversations:

**RESPECT.**

Respect doesn’t mean we have to agree.

**“Respect does not ask me to surrender my viewpoint. It asks me to make room for yours.”**

That distinction matters—in leadership, in our workplaces, and in everyday relationships.

Sometimes the person across from us has experience we haven’t lived yet. Sometimes their perspective challenges our own. And sometimes the greatest act of respect is simply quieting our own thoughts long enough to truly hear what they’re trying to tell us.

**How much wisdom do we miss when we listen to ourselves while someone else is speaking?**

Respect creates dignity in both directions. We can disagree. We can challenge one another. We can have difficult conversations—and still make sure the other person knows their voice matters.

We’ve officially reached **word 10 of the 20-word Listen to Lead journey.**

**We’re halfway there.**

So before we move forward, here’s a question worth considering:

**Has anything changed in the way you listen?**

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09/28/2026

Nearly 30 years on the pool deck taught me this: resilience isn't about never getting knocked down. It's about how fast you get back up, and whether you're listening on the way.

I've watched plenty of swimmers miss a goal they trained all season for. The ones who bounced back strongest weren't always the most talented. They were the ones who climbed out of the pool, asked "What did you see?", and really listened. Then they got back to work.

Business works the same way. Whether you're in the water or in the office, you build resilience by developing your skills, strength, strategy, and endurance. You practice until they hold up under pressure, put them to use, learn, and do it again.

And you don't do it alone. The people around you, their feedback, and their push are what turn practice into growth. After all, if you never step outside your comfort zone, how do you grow?

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So I'm curious: do you think resilience looks different in sports than it does at work? Tell me in the comments 👇

09/19/2026

🎧 Listen to Lead is reaching more listeners around the world! 🌍

Exciting news for *Listen to Lead: The Secret Art to Building Teams, Trust, and Success*!

Beginning **October 16, 2026**, the audiobook will be available through **Audiolibrix**, expanding its reach into Central Europe, including audiences in the Czech Republic and Slovakia.

That means the message at the heart of *Listen to Lead* is traveling even farther:

**Better leadership begins with better listening.**

Leadership may look different across organizations, industries, and countries, but the need to listen, build trust, and create meaningful connections is universal.

It’s exciting to see *Listen to Lead* continue finding new audiences — and new opportunities to start conversations about what effective leadership really looks like.

💬 **What is one lesson about listening that has changed the way YOU lead?**

Drop it in the comments. I’d love to hear your perspective.

🎧 *Listen to Lead* by Jeff Kincaid
**Same message. A bigger audience.**

08/16/2026

🎧 **What does better listening look like to you?**

We talk a lot about trust in leadership, business, and relationships—but trust often starts with something deceptively simple:

**How well we listen.**

So, I’m curious:

**When it comes to trust and better listening, what would you most like to learn more about?**

1️⃣ How to listen without planning your response
2️⃣ Reading what’s *not* being said
3️⃣ Turning listening into action people notice
4️⃣ Rebuilding trust after a communication breakdown

👇 **Drop your number in the comments—or tell me what you’d add to the list.**

I’d especially like to hear *why* you chose your answer. Your responses may help shape some of the listening and leadership topics I explore next.

And if you’d like to follow more of my leadership conversations and **Listen to Lead** content, connect with me on LinkedIn:

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08/08/2026

Every conversation carries two quiet questions:

Do you understand me?
Do I matter?

Empathy answers the first.
Validation answers the second.

It's one thing to understand someone's experience. It's something else to show them that experience actually matters.

Validation doesn't mean agreement. It doesn't mean approving every idea or avoiding hard conversations. It means acknowledging another human being with dignity.

Sometimes it sounds like:

"I can understand why you feel that way."
"Thank you for sharing that perspective."
"I appreciate the time and effort you put into this."

None of those promise agreement. They communicate respect.

Here's what I've learned as a leader: not every idea gets adopted, not every recommendation gets followed, not every decision satisfies everyone. But every person deserves to know they were genuinely heard and thoughtfully considered.

That's how trust begins. Not because everyone agrees — but because everyone knows they mattered.

When was the last time someone made you feel like your voice truly mattered?



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07/28/2026

Listen to Lead: Building the Foundation

Every great leader starts with a strong foundation.

Over the past several weeks, we've explored the **five Foundational Listening Skills** that strengthen leadership, communication, and relationships:

✔️ Awareness
✔️ Focus
✔️ Silence
✔️ Patience
✔️ Comprehension

These aren't separate skills—they build on one another.

Awareness helps us understand ourselves. Focus teaches us to give others our full attention. Silence creates room for trust and meaningful conversation. Patience reminds us that understanding takes time. And comprehension ensures communication isn't complete until true understanding has been achieved.

One of the biggest lessons from this series has been realizing that listening isn't something we ever fully master. It's a skill we continue to develop throughout our lives.

When people feel heard, they begin to feel understood. When they feel understood, trust grows. And trust is the foundation of stronger teams, healthier relationships, and more effective leadership.

Now it's time for the next chapter.

In the coming weeks, we'll begin exploring **Emotional & Relational Listening**, starting with one of the most important leadership skills of all: **Empathy**.

💬 We'd love to hear from you: Which of the five Foundational Listening Skills has had the greatest impact on you—and why?

Don't forget to follow along on the journey on LinkedIn.

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07/13/2026

🚨 BIG NEWS... IT'S ALMOST HERE! 🚨
The countdown has begun!

Very soon, you'll be able to listen to our audiobook on many of your favorite platforms, including:

🎧 Audiobooks.com
📚 Barnes & Noble (Nook)
📖 Everand (Scribd)
🛒 Kobo & Walmart
🎵 Spotify
📻 TuneIn
🏛️ Bibliotheca
📚 LibraryOne
📚 OverDrive

Whether you love buying audiobooks, streaming them, or borrowing them through your local library, we've got you covered.

🎉 The official release announcement is coming soon!

Drop a 🎧 in the comments if you're excited, and be sure to follow our page so you don't miss launch day.

07/08/2026

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Most people think listening is a communication skill.

I've come to believe it's something much bigger.

Over the past several weeks, I've shared five foundational listening skills that have transformed the way I lead and the way I build relationships:

• Awareness – Notice before you react.
• Focus – Give your full attention with intention.
• Silence – Create space for others to think, process, and share.
• Patience – Allow understanding and growth to develop naturally.
• Comprehension – Seek to understand before seeking to be understood.

These aren't just techniques.

They're habits that shape how we connect with other people.

When we practice them consistently:

✔ Trust grows.
✔ Respect deepens.
✔ People feel genuinely heard.
✔ Conversations become more productive—and relationships become stronger.

To me, that's the foundation of emotionally intelligent leadership.

As this series continues, we'll move beyond the fundamentals and begin exploring Emotional Listening—understanding not only what people are saying, but what they're experiencing.

Thank you to everyone who has followed, commented, and shared your own insights throughout this journey. Your perspectives have made these conversations richer.

If these posts have been valuable to you, I'd be honored if you followed along as we begin this next chapter.

I'd also love to hear from you:

Which of the five foundational listening skills has had the biggest impact on your leadership or relationships?

07/04/2026

As we celebrate Independence Day, we're reminded that freedom has always depended on people who were willing to listen, lead, and serve.

The strongest leaders don't just speak with confidence—they listen with intention. They seek understanding before making decisions, build trust through meaningful conversations, and bring people together around a common purpose.

Whether you're spending today with family, friends, neighbors, or fellow service members, take a moment to appreciate the conversations that connect us and the values that unite us.

Wishing you and your loved ones a safe, joyful, and meaningful Fourth of July.

Happy Independence Day from Jeff Kincaid and Listen to Lead.

🇺🇸 Listen First. Lead Better.

07/02/2026

Patience.

I've been reflecting on this word a great deal lately.

As I continue my Listen to Lead series on Foundational Listening Skills, I've come to realize that patience isn't simply about waiting.

It's about becoming.

Growing up, my dad had a favorite saying whenever my impatience got the better of me:

"Patience-ass."

At the time, I didn't fully appreciate what he meant. Looking back, I think he understood something about me long before I did.

Life has a way of teaching patience.

The Army taught me.

Swimming taught me.

Coaching taught me.

Leadership continues to teach me.

Many of the most meaningful changes in my life didn't happen overnight. They happened one conversation, one lesson, one challenge, and one day at a time. Looking back, I realize growth was taking place long before I recognized it.

In my latest LinkedIn article, I explore what I believe are Four Types of Patience Every Leader Should Practice:

🔹 Patience within Conversation – Listening without rushing to respond, allowing space for better questions, deeper understanding, and more thoughtful communication.

🔹 Patience to Grow – Recognizing that personal and professional growth is rarely immediate. It develops through consistent learning, experience, and reflection.

🔹 Patience in Leadership – Trusting the process of developing people, allowing others the opportunity to think, struggle, discover, and ultimately grow.

🔹 Patience through History – Appreciating that meaningful change, whether in our lives or throughout history, often requires vision, perseverance, and time.

One thought continues to stay with me:

"Patience isn't simply waiting for tomorrow. It's allowing today to prepare us for it."

If you'd like to read the complete article, I invite you to visit my LinkedIn page, where the Listen to Lead series continues each week. www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-kincaid1502

I'm also excited to share that Listen to Lead is now available as an audiobook on Spotify, Audible, Barnes & Noble, Walmart - Koba, as well as in print and digital editions on Amazon.

I'd love to hear your thoughts:

Which of these four types of patience has shaped your life the most?

And, if you want to measure your listening skillset, take the free Listen to Lead: Impact 40 on https://www.kincaidconsultinggroup.com/listentolead/

Jeff Kincaid