01/23/2025
What's Magic? How I can be with what's real inside me.
How can I make myself, my personal life, professional life have more meaning? Something sparked me on a post I just read here on how "Us" men many times are like a ship without a rudder in our lives, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, allowing myself to be pulled in every which way, but with no clear path or guidance. I'll speak for myself as I have found that the more clarity I have with my purpose, I find myself now living with more intent! So many years I have been ruled by my emotions and they would express themselves in reactions to others. Many times towards the people I loved the most. This has all come at a great cost, both personally and professionally in my life. So much was conditioned into me since a boy, but I was blind to it all.
As a man, how am I showing up in my life? Am I present? Do I find myself complaining and blaming others, and everything outside of me for not being at peace with my outcomes? I am the absolute supreme authority over my own life. I am, always will be and always have bee the cause of how "I" experience my life. If I don't like whats happening in my life personally or professionally, it is up to me to find ways to change this. It starts with holding myself accountable, and stop treating myself as a human pinata, mercifully bashing myself and judging myself being my own worst enemy! We heal, learn and grow in community not in isolation. It takes courage to go inward and take a look at all the dark nooks and crannies of the things I have pushed down, hidden and denied for so many years. Shining light on it all starts this most meaningful journey I as a human could take. The Hero's journey. How many of you men, no matter how much success you may create, suffer in isolation? Suffer internally? Do not know how to express your true emotions for fear of being called many of the things we were conditioned into us as boys? Here is Tony Porter's TED talk on this: https://lnkd.in/eypTJVKS
How many of us men have people we can really speak to what's really going on inside us? How many of you women out there wished your man could get more emotionally in touch with his feelings and know how to communicate them?
How can I be a better leader? Better father, friend, manager, coach, husband, business owner, etc.? It all starts with internal world and having outlets where we feel safe to express them. For me, my journey began by answering the call at a New Warrior Training Adventure a few years ago. I am proud to be a member of The Mankind Project. It has changed my life for the better. It cracked the door open and once I saw what the other side could be (Accountability, Integrity, Healing and Emotionally Literacy) I could never go back to my "old operating" system.
We want to make the world a better place, It starts with me the individual. Finding the right person(s), group or organization to have that "safe" space, is critical and needed. What say you?