10/30/2026
I love it when people say she’s not “Christian like” or she doesn’t act Christian enough. What does that even mean, being Christian enough? Just because I’m not preaching the Bible from a pulpit constantly, and my life looks different than yours, doesn’t mean I’m not a believer. Do you really even know anything other than what I show you on social media?
What measuring stick are you using?
Some people live quietly and keep their faith mostly between them and the Bible. Others are more outspoken about offense, boundaries, and not letting people walk all over them. That doesn’t make them less Christian.
Overlooking minor offenses is wise (Proverbs 19:11), but it is not the same as becoming a punching bag for ongoing bullying or poor behavior. “Turn the other cheek” was about refusing to retaliate to personal insults—not a command to stay silent and keep absorbing harm. Jesus confronted wrongdoing, and He told people to leave places that rejected them and shake the dust off their feet.
Scripture supports standing up for yourself:
• Exodus 22:2-3 — Self-defense is recognized as legitimate.
• Luke 22:36 — Jesus told the disciples to buy a sword for protection.
• Proverbs 31:8-9 — Speak up and defend rights.
• Proverbs 25:26 — A righteous person who gives way to the wicked is like a polluted well.
• Romans 12:18 — Live at peace if possible and as far as it depends on you.
• Galatians 5:1 — Stand firm in the freedom Christ gave you.
Forgiveness is required. Enabling ongoing harm is not. You can release bitterness without volunteering to keep getting hit.
Everyone walks their own path, and mine looks different from others’. I’m simply trying to hold gently to the faith and values that feel true for me. Putting some of this into words has helped me sort through it—I know many people stay quiet for their own reasons.
Sharing about hard things doesn’t make anyone’s faith any less. It can help if we each take a quiet look at our own hearts before we consider someone else’s.
Who we are doesn’t have to be decided by other people, even when they hold a title or carry a Bible.
**ediva
