06/15/2021
6 Things women want in a man!
#1 Women love a man that makes us feel safe.
This does not mean that you fight another man for us, or pick fights to show the girl you’re macho. Nothing like that at all! You don’t want to pick a fight with someone and show a woman that this is the way of you being macho. I can guarantee you the moment you do that, she’s dying to get away because that is exactly what you don’t want to do.
There are different ways you can show a woman that she can feel safe or secure around you. And it’s not about being physical. Let’s say you take her out to dinner, and you see she’s cold. Offer her your jacket. Or if you don’t have one, just ask the waiter if he can turn down the AC. This shows that you care about the way she feels. Make sure you hold her hand or even have her walk in front of you while you hold her waist in a crowded area. Ask her if she’s feeling okay and having a good time.
Also, walking her to her door, or even calling her an Uber and walking her to the Uber and asking her to text you when she gets home is a way that you set the boundaries for a woman to feel safe. Let’s say she forgets. She gets home, gives you about an hour, never texts you. This is when you text her. Maybe she fell asleep, but guess what? The moment she wakes up, she’s going to see a text from you, asking if she got home okay. This shows a woman you take control of her safety.
Also, a woman wants to know you will stand up for her and make sure she is treated well. Meaning, with friends, family, coworkers, everyone.
#2 Women love honesty and trust.
Trust. We love honesty, presence, and trust. So many men think that they have to play hard these days. I’m a true believer if a man and a woman really like each other, they do not play games because it interferes with trust, and sometimes honesty. You start building your foundation of trust by showing up to your dates on time and calling when you say you will.
Listen, women remember when you tell them, “I will call you tomorrow,” or saying, “I want to see you tomorrow.” So, if you say this, do it! I hear so many women dating men and they have a great date and the man says, “I would love to see you tomorrow.” She confirms politely, and the next day, he’s going to happy hour with his friends. This does not look good, guys! This is what happens in a woman’s mind when you do this: “He isn’t serious, and I don’t want to dedicate my time to him.” Men wonder why this happens, and it’s because a high-value woman will not want to set a date with a man that does not stick to his word.
Men, if you cannot stick to your word at the beginning of setting a date, then a woman is not going to take you seriously.
#3 Women love a man that can carry himself well.
Make your presence known. How you carry yourself matters. Walk into a room with her proudly. Introduce yourself to her friends with confidence, and maybe even tell a joke from time to time. A lot of men tend to think that presence is only about showing up, and yes it has a lot to do with showing up, but it’s about how you show up.
#4 Women want to feel important to you.
If you’re in a relationship, she wants to feel like she’s number one. You hear me, men? Women want to feel like they are number one. If all men could get this right, so many of us women would be happy. Tell her and show her you love her. You do this by involving her in things with your life, like work, your friends, family. Not only are you telling her, but you’re showing her too. She feels important when you’re including her in your life and you want her to be a part of it.
Open doors for her. Wait for her to sit down before she does. Offer to help her with bags in her hand, especially when she’s shopping. Men, a woman does not want to be carrying bags when she has a man that can be doing this for her. She does not want to be loading the luggage while you stand there and watch. These are just little ways of being a gentleman that shows her you’re there for her and wanting to help.
Compliment her and bring her flowers. Know her favorite color. Tell her what your favorite outfit on her is, and remember it. Know her favorite artists and buy her concert tickets. Remember what she likes. Make that masculine energy known.
#5 Women love a man that makes them feel heard.
Communication is key. Now, for my men in relationships, this is what I hear a lot: “I provide for her, and she has all the money to do all the activities she wants with her girlfriends, and she can shop whenever she wants. Why isn’t she happy?” This is where you get it wrong because it’s not about things. Women want to be heard. They want you to communicate with them. Don’t just come home, put on that TV, and just ask, “What’s for dinner?” Involve your partner in conversations when you get home. And yeah, I get it. Even if you have a hectic day and you don’t want to talk, because I know, we’ve all been there, this is when affection comes in. Just hug her, and kiss her, and tell her you love her. Tell her you had a hard day and you’re happy to see her. These are the things she is going to remember. I can guarantee you she will have a hot meal on that plate in no time. And if you’re lucky, maybe even a back rub.
#6 Women value maturity.
Most importantly, maturity. Maturity is sexy, guys. When speaking to so many women out there, the number one turn-off is a man that is immature. Call her and text her with conversations and not just one-line responses you can copy and paste to another girl. We want to see an effort. What I mean by this is don’t text her and say, “Hey, how are you doing?” She replies, and you never reply back. What is that? That’s not a sign of a loyal, respectful man. Get straight to the point, and do not sit there and text her all day. These types of virtual relationships are not healthy.
Now, there is a difference between dating someone for a while and texting a couple of times here and there. But I have seen so many people text all throughout the day. And what I mean by this is at least 20 text messages every 30 to 45 minutes throughout the day. Listen, a woman wants your attention, but a smart woman will see this as a red flag. So, don’t interrupt her day, especially if she’s on vacation with her girls or out with her girls for the day, whatever the case may be.
Men, don’t text a woman and ask her to meet you for a drink, and then say, “You’re buying,” then laugh afterward. I mean, the woman might offer to pay after your date, as she might want to escape as early as possible after going out with someone who isn’t maturely stable. But if you do want to come off as a mature man, don’t joke like this early on. Yes, I’ve seen this. It never works out well.
Also, please don’t tell her she’s beautiful just like your ex. Yes, I’ve seen this too. These are all clues of immaturity, and not somebody ready to settle down.
With maturity, a woman looks for a man who can provide. This isn’t always about money, men. We look for a man with ambition and determination. But let me be real with you, women want to know that you can handle their basic needs: dinner, travel, fun activities, and just simple, basic needs. Something that you can enjoy doing together. When getting in a relationship, many men I speak to date women sometimes that make more money than them, and that’s okay. But let me tell you something, men, this does not change the fact that women want to make sure she’s provided for. Do not make this a permanent habit. Depending on the situation, you might not always make more money than her. But you need to make sure you’re standing your ground and taking care of your part.
I see so many women helping their men out, and then they just become resentful. Listen to me, if there is anything you can do to stop this, you need to take control. Do not move into a woman’s house, use her car, and expect her to pay your phone bill. She will become resentful, and this is not the way a woman wants to be treated.
