06/15/2026
After working with almost two hundred students, here's what I know to be true:
1. This is not the time to procrastinate. Students who use the summer to work on essays, activity lists, and resumes experience significantly less stress during senior year. The work doesn't disappear. It just gets harder to do well when the classes are demanding and sports practices are daily. Waiting until the deadline to write the essay doesn't allow enough time to develop your thoughts, edit, and improve. A rushed essay is a lost opportunity to show a different side of you. I have also seen students become so overwhelmed at the last minute that they fail to apply at all, or submit after the deadline at 12:02. Planning ahead makes all the difference.
2. A balanced college list can change everything. Students who apply on a whim or simply to test the odds often face a wave of rejections in March. Beyond being defeating, the harder truth is they probably didn't even want to attend most of those schools. Applying just to see what happens is not a strategy. Spending time thinking about why you are applying to each school, visiting the campus, and considering whether it is truly a good fit makes the process more meaningful and the outcomes better. It is also important to find schools that aren't uber-selective but still offer what you are looking for. I understand having a dream school and needing to apply, but I recommend only applying to 3 to 4 reach schools and spending more time identifying why those reach schools are even on the list. Then students can find similarities at less selective schools.
3. The rules keep changing. After Covid, things seem to change daily. Deadlines shift. Essay prompts change or are even eliminated. Test policies evolve. Whether demonstrated interest or legacy matters varies by school and by year. Schools have gone from test-optional to test-preferred to test-required within a short time. New deadlines continue to appear as well. This year, Washington University and Syracuse added Early Action. Last year, USD, USC, and University of Michigan added Early Decision, and University of Florida followed suit this year. This is genuinely hard to keep up with, especially for working parents who are already busy.
4. Results can be unpredictable. Every year I see decisions that don't make sense on paper. Institutional priorities and yield protection are blamed but the results are still disappointing. A student who did everything right, denied. Another admitted to a reach school after not getting in a school with higher admission rates. At the IECA Conference this year, an admission officer from Penn said that they used to make sure decisions made sense from a high school, ensuring top students were admitted over those with lesser qualifications. She said they don't necessarily do that anymore. After seven years, I've made peace with the fact that the process will always have surprises and that is why a thoughtful college list is so important.
5. Everything works out. There are real highs and real lows along the way. Students change their minds about what matters to them. A school that once felt like the only option becomes less important. But when students take the time to understand what colleges are looking for, build a thoughtful college list, and prepare, the process works. At the end of it, students land somewhere great. With over 3,000 universities in this country, there are remarkable opportunities waiting at every one of them. Students join clubs, find mentors, build friendships, and graduate with skills, confidence, and knowledge that prepare them for careers and independence.
The process is hard. The outcome is worth it.