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Dying Matters I am an End of Life Doulagiver providing non-medical, holistic support for the dying and their families. Click on services to see what I can offer.

If you, or a loved one has just been diagnosed with a terminal, or life-limiting illness, contact me to see if the services I provide can help you through this difficult time.

You know where the important papers are. But does anyone else?We can be surprisingly organized in our own heads. We know...
10/12/2026

You know where the important papers are. But does anyone else?

We can be surprisingly organized in our own heads. We know which drawer, which folder, and which pile we mean. Then someone else needs to find something, and “it’s somewhere in the office” becomes a scavenger hunt.

Here’s one small task for this week: tell someone you trust where to find your important documents and who to contact if you need help.

You don’t have to organize your entire life this afternoon. Start with one folder and one conversation.

Would the person closest to you know where to look?

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Do you have something you’re saving for a special occasion?The good dishes. A favorite candle. An outfit that never quit...
10/09/2026

Do you have something you’re saving for a special occasion?

The good dishes. A favorite candle. An outfit that never quite seems appropriate for an ordinary Tuesday.

I understand saving things. But working around dying has made me question how often we postpone the things we could enjoy right now.

It doesn’t have to be a major trip or a complete life change. Sometimes it’s having a friend over, opening the good coffee, or sitting outside before you start the chores.

What have you been saving that you could enjoy this weekend?

“Let me know if you need anything.”We say it because we care. But when someone is caring for a loved one, figuring out w...
10/07/2026

“Let me know if you need anything.”

We say it because we care. But when someone is caring for a loved one, figuring out what to ask for can become one more task.

Try something specific: “I’m going to the grocery store. What can I pick up?” Or, “Could I bring dinner on Thursday?”

And if you’re the caregiver, you’re allowed to say, “Actually, yes. That would help.”

You don’t have to make things look manageable so everyone else feels comfortable.

If you’ve cared for someone, what was one small thing another person did that made your day easier?

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Most of us don’t casually bring up dying over dinner. We’re more likely to talk about the weather, what needs fixing, or...
10/05/2026

Most of us don’t casually bring up dying over dinner. We’re more likely to talk about the weather, what needs fixing, or what somebody’s neighbor did.

But sometimes I wonder how many important conversations never happen because everyone is waiting for someone else to start.

You don’t have to begin with a big discussion about death. You could simply ask, “If you were seriously ill, what would you want me to understand about what matters to you?”

You might already know the answer. You might be surprised.

What makes these conversations hardest for you—finding the words, choosing the moment, or worrying about the response?

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When you make an important decision, whose voice do you hear first?Is it your own, or do you immediately start thinking ...
10/01/2026

When you make an important decision, whose voice do you hear first?

Is it your own, or do you immediately start thinking about what other people will think?

Before asking for opinions, try sitting quietly with the decision and complete these sentences:

*What I truly want is.....
*What I'm afraid others will think is.....
*If I trusted myself, I would.....

You can consider other people without handing them authority over your life. What would change if you listened to your own voice first?

09/24/2026

To everyone who purchased Life Beneath the Layers: thank you. It means so much to me that you chose to spend time with these pages.

If you’ve had a chance to read it, I’d love to hear what stood out to you. Would you consider leaving an honest review on Amazon? It doesn’t need to be long—a sentence or two in your own words is plenty.

I wrote this book hoping it would reach someone ready to ask, “Who am I beneath everything I’ve felt I had to be?” Your review can help that person find it. Thank you for being part of its journey. ❤️

To make it easy, here's the link!
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Yesterday, I asked whether there is something you keep telling yourself you will do “someday.”Sometimes we are waiting f...
09/23/2026

Yesterday, I asked whether there is something you keep telling yourself you will do “someday.”

Sometimes we are waiting for more money, more time, or better circumstances. But sometimes, if we are honest, we are waiting for permission.

Permission to change our minds. To disappoint someone. To want something different. To rest. To travel. To begin again. To make a choice that may not make sense to anyone else.

Working with people at the end of life has taught me that most of us do not regret failing to meet other people’s expectations. We regret the parts of ourselves we ignored and the experiences we kept postponing.

You do not have to change your entire life today. But perhaps you can take one small step toward something that matters to you.

Make the phone call. Look into the trip. Start the conversation. Write the first paragraph. Put a date on the calendar.

This is one of the central messages of Life Beneath the Layers: we do not have to wait until time is running out to begin living as ourselves.

What is one small step you could take today?

Why This Book Matters NowWe live in a time of so much noise telling us who we should be, what we should believe, how we ...
09/22/2026

Why This Book Matters Now

We live in a time of so much noise telling us who we should be, what we should believe, how we should look, and what a successful life should look like.

It is easy to get lost underneath it all.

We take on roles such as being the one who manages everything, the yes man, the caretaker, the high achiever, the person who keeps the peace. There was a time when these roles may have once helped us feel safe, loved, or needed. But eventually, some of them begin to weigh us down. We may look fine on the outside while sensing that something inside doesn’t feel right or true.

I call these roles layers. After spending years beside people facing the end of life, I have seen how quickly the layers fall away when time becomes precious. The titles, expectations, and others' approval matter far less.

What remains are the questions we often save for later:

Did I live a life true to myself?
Did I express my love enough?
Did I allow myself joy?
Did I spend my life waiting for permission?

That is why Life Beneath the Layers matters now.

We should not have to wait for a diagnosis, a loss, or the end of life to remember who we are. This book invites you to notice what no longer fits and begin living with greater honesty while there is still time.

Because someday is not promised.

Life Beneath the Layers: The Courage to Meet Yourself is available now.

Get it here: https://a.co/d/0bcgNE0m

The longer I work with death and grief, the more convinced I become that death awareness is not only about preparing to ...
09/21/2026

The longer I work with death and grief, the more convinced I become that death awareness is not only about preparing to die but also about remembering to live.

So many of us spend years doing what is expected of us. We care for other people, meet our responsibilities, and keep putting our own needs and desires somewhere further down the list. Then something happens—a loss, an illness, a birthday, or simply the realization that time is moving faster than we expected—and we begin to ask different questions.

Am I living a life that feels like mine?

What have I been putting off?

What important conversations do I need to have?

What would I change if I stopped assuming there would always be more time?

These questions sit at the heart of my work as a death doula and in both of my books.

Walking Each Other Home explores how we accompany one another through death, dying, and grief. Life Beneath the Layers asks us to look at what we have hidden, accepted, or outgrown so we can live more honestly now.

Going forward, I want to talk more about all of it: living, dying, grief, preparation, authenticity, and what it means to make the most of the time we have.

So let me begin by asking you:

Is there something you keep telling yourself you will do “someday”?

Get yours here:

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We spend a lot of time trying to avoid thinking about death. Yet awareness of death can teach us something important: we...
09/18/2026

We spend a lot of time trying to avoid thinking about death. Yet awareness of death can teach us something important: we are here now, and this life is meant to be lived.

I don’t mean someday, when everything is settled, when fear is gone, or when everyone else approves. I mean, now.

Life Beneath the Layers invites you to let go of what has kept you hidden and to begin living as the person you truly are.

Because before we die, we need to remember to live.

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