01/20/2024
Since so many of you prayed for my safety and even contacted me to find out if I had fallen off the end of the world, I promised that I would share the story of my disappearance... one that many of you are familiar with in some way. So grab your popcorn and sit back... it's a story of sadness, lessons and redemption. ( no it's not a hallmark movie!!)
Once upon a time many months ago.... I received what looked like a Facebook message asking if I had contacted my FB account from a foreign country halfway around the world. I was so tired of trying to determine if these messages were spam or real so I chose to ignore it. Boy, I wish I hadn't.
The next morning I popped out of bed and as some of you do, first thing, I checked my page. To my surprise I was blocked except for my PROFILE PHOTO which had been discarded and replaced with a very disturbing picture.... one that I came to find out was the image of a flag belonging to the terrorist group, Isis. This , according to Facebook's community standards, was off limits and fell under the axe of their technology which automatically banned me from anything Facebook, Instagram, Messenger and Marketplace and no one could see anything with my name associated with it either.
The powers that be left me with 1 page that just said that on July 24th, 2023 I violated the company's community standards and I had 180 days to make an appeal....and that it would only take a day or two for them to get back to me. If they determined that I had a violation then I would not be able to return to my page (which I began in 2009) and no one would be able to see it ever again.
So, I began checking Google for how to restore my account and profile page and, if you have ever been in this fix, you found out that there are hundreds of links to how to make this happen.... some of them from real people and others, very tricky scams, that you best not mess with. I began my period of confusion when nothing I tried produced the results that they promised. I began to think I was the only one that had been singled out to be a result of Big Daddy's hammer.
I tried everything ( within my limited brain bandwidth) and even the links Facebook.com/help or facebook.com/hacked would not help because I was not allowed to arrive anyplace that had the word Facebook on it. It felt like a hopeless situation. How does a guy make an appeal when he can't even contact the judge?
So I thought maybe if I could solicit the help of someone who grew up with social media and knew it like their shoe size, perhaps I could get some headway into this puzzle. So I talked to a friend whose daughter, Kelsey, who lived in another state, was a real pro at this stuff and she agreed to spend a few hours helping me via texting and emails. She was terrific in giving me suggestions and we even got to the place where I needed to prove who I am so I sent in my ID at the appropriate time. Sadly it was turned down .
( I guess I am not really who I am!!)
I want to thank Kelsey today for all the time she donated that evening to help me... frankly I was more sad that we hadn't broken the loop because she worked so hard and long to help a guy she barely knew. The next opportunity that came up was when I remembered my computer genius friend, Wink. This man shared my screen from another state and ran through all of the prompts with me to regain my page. After a few hours of his tireless suggestions I knew I was doomed when I heard the words " Dee... I'm sorry but I don't think I can help you any further"!!!! When your genius can't help you where do you go? Even my own brother spent a number of hours navigating me through the maze but to no avail.
I began to realize that God may not want me back on Facebook. I had to confess that my time spent on this media was often exceeding the amount of time that I breathed, and I wasn't willing to admit it ( some of you know exactly what I mean, right?). Also knowing that the Lord always has the best plan for my life, I gradually moved from begging him to restore me to my most prized position to agreeing that if He didn't want me on there then I would gratefully adhere to His plan for this season in my life, knowing that if He can be Sovereign over all the universe then He would easily know what is better for me than my own understanding. Honestly, when I came to this surrendering attitude, I acquired a large amount of peace knowing that He would use the gifts He gave me even if it wasn't using the Meta group of social media sites.
I was soon informed that my 180 days to appeal was down to 3 days and I had nowhere to go but to trust the only One who could change things at the 11th hour and 59th minute if it was His perfect will. I wasn't really even worrying about it at this point. AND THEN.... a good friend leaves me a text that he had shared my plight with a college student who had been an intern with guess where.... yup!!! Facebook!! ( you can't make these things up). This student talked to someone internally at the company ( which was as possible as me flying to Jupiter on a winged baboon) and within one day I was notified that a ticket was made for my situation and the rest was up to the good folks at Facebook to see what they would do.
The next morning I woke up and ran right to my phone to find that the " You Have Violated Our Community Standards" page was GONE!!!~ and in it's place was my email address asking if this was me.... I hit the YES button so fast I almost lost consciousness!!!
Before I knew it I was looking at my long lost Dee DeLoy page and right before I sent a victory message to a few friends, I shed a few tears and praised an Almighty God who is as personal as the hand attached to my wrist. Then I remembered something that a seminar teacher once uttered... that when the Lord wants to get our attention sometimes He will put an obstacle in front of our lives and if we listen and turn those issues over to Him or embrace the character that He so lovingly wants to instill in us ( for our own good) He may take those obstacles away.
This is one of those times that He did just that! And in it, I have seen His guidance to be where I need to be during this season of my life. Nothing feels better than to know that you are where God wants you to be..... Confidence comes in a big way and that without guilt or any manipulation.
So I will end this long but eye opening story by thanking everyone who cared, helped and prayed for me during these last 5 months and 28 days..... this includes the fast thinking folks at Facebook also.
Quite a time to realize that there is always more than meets the eye when what looks like a negative situation can really be a way for God to bring trust, faith and confidence to us through His specific direction of our lives..... the kind that produces more fruit and wonder than we could ever bring about on our own.
How interesting that this verse became more alive to me after the amazing results of this situation.
"He will lead you and guide you in the way you should go, He will council you with His eye upon you."
I'm so glad to be BACK!!! To all my friends here.... LET'S get back to the party!!