09/07/2026
Dear Fairygodmentor®,
I work remotely, and I’m struggling to build a strong relationship with my manager. I’m never sure how often to update them, what information they want, or whether my work is visible.
I’ve heard that I should “manage up,” but that sounds political and manipulative. What does managing up actually look like when I just want us to work better together?
-Trying to Manage Up
Dear Trying to Manage Up,
Managing up is not manipulation. It’s making the working relationship between you and your manager more successful.
And in remote or hybrid workplaces, you cannot afford to leave that relationship to guesswork.
I can't stress the importance of having regular one-on-one conversations with your manager. Whenever I had a new manager, I set up the cadence of regular meetings so we could set expectations, improve communication and strengthen your business relationship. Pro tip- this is also a great way to minimize micromanaging because you're keeping them apprised of what you're up to.
Ask your manager four things:
• What matters most right now?
• How do you prefer to communicate?
• Where do you need more visibility from me?
• What does a strong update look like to you?
Then create a simple rhythm.
Send a concise update that connects your progress, priorities, and roadblocks to what the business needs.
And if your manager keeps avoiding these meetings? (Yeah, it has happened to me a couple of times)
It's time to be professionally persistent.
Kindly remind them that the goal of these meetings is to collaborate effectively for the organization's benefit.
You’re not managing your manager’s personality. You’re reducing confusion, building trust, and helping both of you work more effectively.
🧚🏾♂️Your Fairygodmentor® Friday Move:
This week, agree on one communication habit that will make your manager's relationship easier.
🤔What’s one expectation you need to clarify with your manager? Tell me in the comments!
You got this!
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