09/10/2026
When we reflect on a coaching or leadership conversation, it is easy to move immediately to evaluation.
What did I miss? What should I have asked? What would I do differently?
Those questions can be useful, but they are not the only place to begin. A self-reflective learning conversation starts by noticing what was distinctly strong, what seemed to repeat, what choice you made in the moment, and what else might have been possible.
Over time, those questions help us see our conversations with greater clarity. They help us recognize what is already working, become curious about our patterns, and expand the choices available to us in the moment. That is true in coaching, and it is equally true in leadership.
Notice before you evaluate.
That is where learning begins, because reflection helps us turn experience into greater awareness, more intentional choices, and stronger practice over time.
I’m bringing this developmental approach into my Founding Professional Development Cohort for Coaches, beginning September 16. If you’re looking for mentor coaching that helps you recognize strengths, notice patterns, and become more intentional in your coaching, DM me COHORT and I’ll send you the details.
