08/29/2024
Five questions you should never ask when coaching your team.
Good coaching doesn't mean giving the person all the answers. It means helping them grow so they can figure out the answers for themselves.
How? It's all about listening and asking the right questions. However, lack of training may lead some managers to ask the wrong questions.
According to Madeleine Homan Blanchard, Master Certified Coach, these are the top five questions any manager should avoid when coaching their team:
"๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ ๐ต๐ฒ๐น๐ฝ?"
Though a well-intentioned question, it ultimately undermines the coachee's autonomy and capabilities by suggesting they need help.
"๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น?"
Along with "How do you feel about that?,โ these questions, borrowed from therapy, are often irrelevant and annoying, especially for executives, and have no place in coaching.
"๐๐ผ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐?"
Popularized by Dr. Phil, this question is often perceived as mocking or cruel, making clients feel inadequate. Coaching should avoid making clients feel judged or insulted.
"๐๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐โฆ?"
This question is a subtle way of giving advice, which can shut down the client's thinking, even when they don't notice it.
"๐ช๐ต๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐?"
โWhyโ questions can make clients defensive, divert them from problem-solving, and rarely generate anything useful.
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Wednesday, September 11, 2024
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