10/29/2024
Asa in looking at today’s American Culture proper but world culture in general in my opinion there is a big misunderstanding as to what Marriage is and what is expected from men and women in these roles.
What is actually promoted is having a large house a nice car and money in the bank. Real life goals future and children don’t make the list at all. The roles of marriage and love are grossly overlooked and misunderstood.
I was having a discussion with a young woman about her relationship and she was explaining how she has a new boyfriend and they were seriously considering marriage.
But she said the one thing that she didn’t understand was the fact he wanted multiple wives.
I tried to explain to her that as uncomfortable as it may seem that is really his decision. Somehow most people believe they are responsible for directing their mate when they get married. That couldn’t be further from the truth.
As far fetched as it may seem it is the Man’s responsibility to guide the family not the Woman.
Far too long the woman has been placed in that role and marriage is failing miserably.
Well brother these are modern times and things have changed. Yeah like no family structure no concern about the children which by the way our future.
I see people crossing the street and it is the child who paying attention to the oncoming traffic not the parent.
This is why Allah SWA (G_D) sends a Prophet and Messenger to guide us back to the proper natural understanding as to how human life is to be instructed and conducted.
From my humble perspective we are not getting the proper understanding as to what the Prophet and Messenger’s role is as it pertains to life. His role is to bring us back to nature and natural balance.
The role of the Man is to guide protect and maintain the family. It is the job of the wife to look after the wellbeing of the Man first and then the family. Cooking is an art and it is to be done with with the goal of preservation and love for the Husbsnd and family.
My wife is Haitian and when she met me I weighed 336 pounds and now I’m down to 289 on my way to 250 because of the way she planned and cooked the meals. She tells me. “I rehabbed you”. lol.
My point is roles in marriage have to be redefined and retaught because the roles the modern world has given is not conducive to sustaining a healthy marriage or healthy lifestyle.
“Néw Africa Cultural Translation “.
