03/22/2024
Something politicians don't want to talk about: I've waited to say this until after I'm done. The reason for waiting is that like a lot of politicians, I don't want to look like I'm complaining and because doing so feeds and validates those who are creating this very serious problem.
Until I was Caucus Leader and unavoidably involved in very controversial issues I had no idea just how much online and in-person rage many politicians face. I also didn't know how much it affects one's psyche, sleep, decisions and family.
I've learned about how it affects other people in similar positions. Anything I've experienced is much worse for women, because some people become more unhinged around women and because it seems like there are more painful things that can be said about women.
There are many people, men and women who make a practice of vilifying politicians, journalists and other public figures. They also issue innumerable threats. I've learned that many people know the rules around threats and know that if you tell someone you are going to shoot them tomorrow at the capital, the police will come. If you say: "the Tree of Liberty must be watered by the blood of Tyrants and ### is a tyrant," it's threat but not definite enough to get you in trouble. Some of these people have further refined their threats by making remarks about the whereabouts of your family, or showing their weapons while hinting about you or your family.
The police can't do much. As I said, people who do these things know how much protection is provided by the 1st amendment and know where the lines are.
You might think that everyone in public life signs up for this and should be able to handle it. I don't disagree with that, but here is why everyone should be concerned. After years of this happening, I know it has changed me. Not because I'm afraid of violence, really. I'm often armed, there is good security in the capital and the odds of someone really following through on their vague hints is really, really low. But after years of seeing emails and on-lines posts from people, mostly who have never met me, talking about their hatred for me, calling me a coward, calling me a liar, a traitor, a greedy business owner...my assumption is that in every crowd there are people who really hate me and wish me nothing but misery and failure. It raises the psychic cost of every visit to crowds, especially political crowds, it diminishes my desire to take part in community events. The most important thing is that it raises the price every time I, as an elected official took a decisive action or stand, whether the people who would be angry are on the left or the right. It made it far more difficult to do my job for the voters.
So this was me, but imagine how this impacts someone who hadn't spent most of their life as an employer, as a public speaker as someone already fairly well known?
Imagine how it is for women, wives and mothers who seem to get so much more personal and extremely hateful comments. Imagine every day on-line speculation about infidelity, body shape, hair, their qualities as a wife and mother and all the foul, derisive names and descriptions that are applied just to women. It also seems that women always experience more scary comments about their children, too. It's not just elected women or journalists, either. It's most of the young women who help on campaigns, too.
As I said, politicians and journalists don't like to talk about this because to complain will always make it worse, that's why I'm writing this now.
What can you do?
If you are one of these cruel people, I don't think my writing will change you. I don't understand your motivation. I hope you change, but I don't have much faith.
If you are not one of these people normally, think before you hit enter if you are mad or if you are sending a strong message. Don't make it abusive or threatening.
Here's what I really hope you will do: Confront the people who don't behave. Let them know how normal people feel about their behavior. Let them know that they are being judged based on what they do online. If you know one of the people who organize this as a weapon, actively shun them and drive them away.
I am 100% sure this will get worse in the next 8 months. Please do your part for all of us, so we can get through this.