08/26/2021
On Friendship
The world appears to be enduring a seemingly endless stream of crises and chaos has materialized as the rule of the day. I am generally resilient enough to let most of the noise fade away accompanied by the crescendo of morning ragas and the transcendent perfume of Indian temple incense. For some reason my usual restful sleep was disturbed with fitful dreams and apocalyptic feelings of dread. Greatly was I discomfited when I first arose in the early morning gloom.
After a few minutes’ reflection I had a sensational revelation. Like Emerson “I awoke this morning with a devout thanksgiving for my friends, old and new.” My friends are the bedrock of my existence, an immovable, invariable, constant, and ceaseless source of comfort and joy. This exists no matter what maladies swirl about us.
In 1997, a friend of mine gave me as a birthday present a small book titled, “On Friendship”. I’ve kept on my bookshelf ever since and providentially it caught my attention this morning.
The author provided a brief prologue that I thoroughly enjoyed and think did an admirable job of capturing the importance of friendship to us all. It struck me so that I include it here.
“What is more welcome than the sound of a friend’s voice, the sight of their smiling face, the warmth of an embrace? It is one of life’s finest blessings t have a friend with whom you can safely discuss your fears and enthusiastically share our dreams – someone who accepts us totally as we are despite our shortcomings.
A true friend encourages us, comforts us, supports us like a big easy chair, offering us a safe refuge from the world. A true friend stands at our side during the best of times and the worst of times. A true friend listens when we need to talk through a problem. A true friend answers the phone at midnight and does not resent the call. A true friend will defend us to the world.
We speak of “friends and acquaintances” because we know the difference. Acquaintances we meet, enjoy, and can easily leave behind. But friendship grows deep roots. Even when we are separated by time and distance, friendship continues to grow and mature. We’ve all had the experience of meeting an old friend after many years and discovering that we are able to renew our relationship as if the separation had only been a few minutes.
A Nigerian proverb advises, “Hold a true friend with both hands.” True and faithful friends are indeed a treasure, touching our hearts and strengthening our spirit with their words, and sometimes just by their silent presence.”
I hope that no matter what is going on around you or how the current state of the world’s affairs is affecting you that you have friends that can double your joy and halve you sorrow.
“Think where a man’s glory most begins and ends
And say my glory is I had such friends.” (W. B. Yeats)