Christi Engle - Perennial Coaching Services

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I was recently invited to join the lovely folks at Nyala Healing as they've curated a directory for individuals looking ...
06/02/2026

I was recently invited to join the lovely folks at Nyala Healing as they've curated a directory for individuals looking for holistic modalities, healers, and practices. Currently, I'm the only Enneagram teacher featured, and I'm excited to join their platform. Feel free to browse their directory or their website - I'll drop my profile link in the comments.

To connection, vitality, and health!

Have you noticed how the same conflict can bring out completely different reactions from person to person?Some people le...
05/19/2026

Have you noticed how the same conflict can bring out completely different reactions from person to person?

Some people lean into conflict and can even find it energizing! Others withdraw, and still others hold a lot in until they hit the breaking point.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably found yourself wondering:

• Why do we keep having the same argument?
• Why does this person shut down every time we disagree?
• Why do they come on so strong?
• Why am I the only one trying to talk about this?

One of the most helpful things the Enneagram teaches is that people aren’t just reacting to the conflict itself. They’re reacting through the lens of their personality, fears, motivations, and coping strategies.

When we understand that, we stop taking quite so much personally and start getting curious instead.

And curiosity is often where better conversations and deeper connections begin. 🌱



Credit this truth bomb to David Gate, poet. Boundaries don’t always have to do with others; sometimes the person we need...
05/12/2026

Credit this truth bomb to David Gate, poet.

Boundaries don’t always have to do with others; sometimes the person we need boundaries with is ourselves. 💥

Reach out if I can support your personal journey. And if you want a link to my $27 self-paced mini-course on Boundaries, comment “Boundaries” below and I’ll send it over to you.

Take good care of you. Reach out if I can support you directly. 📧💕

Ever walk away from a conversation thinking,“How did I get roped into THAT?”Yeah, me too.It happened so much in my young...
04/25/2026

Ever walk away from a conversation thinking,
“How did I get roped into THAT?”

Yeah, me too.

It happened so much in my younger adult years that I was left feeling like a doormat. Over time, I learned and built tools to help me get clear on what I want, and then communicate in a way that I didn't regret later.

Here’s a simple way to handle those moments while you’re in them:

Pause. Give yourself a second. You don’t have to respond immediately.

Name what’s happening for you:
“I’m feeling pressured.”
“I’m not sure about this.”
“This doesn’t sit right.”

Respond (one clear sentence):
“Let me think about that.”
“I’m not comfortable with that.”
“I need more time before I decide.”

That’s it.

Not perfect. Not polished.
Just clear.

Most people think they need the right words.

You don’t.

You need a way to stay with yourself long enough to say something true.

Try it this week and see what shifts. I'd love to hear about it - DM me with your story.

Most people were never taught how to handle difficult conversations.So when things get tense, it’s easy to fall back on ...
04/24/2026

Most people were never taught how to handle difficult conversations.

So when things get tense, it’s easy to fall back on what you do know:

avoid it
overthink it
soften what you really want to say
or say nothing at all

And afterward?

You replay it.
What you said.
What you didn’t say.
What you wish you had said instead.

You carry it with you longer than you want to.

Here’s the thing:

This isn’t about trying harder.
It’s a pattern.

And patterns can change.

It starts with understanding what’s actually happening in the moment
so you can respond in a way you’ll feel good about later.

I know… easier said than done. 🙂

But small shifts here can change a lot.

Let me know if this one hits. I’d love to hear.

Wanting to sound more confident in the spoken and written word? Here's a tip: Stop using (most) adverbs.Rather than sof...
04/19/2026

Wanting to sound more confident in the spoken and written word? Here's a tip: Stop using (most) adverbs.

Rather than soften or cushion your message, say it plainly.

Ever notice how the same situations keep playing out?The same tension.The same conversations.The same “why did I say tha...
04/17/2026

Ever notice how the same situations keep playing out?

The same tension.
The same conversations.
The same “why did I say that?” feeling afterward.

It’s not random.

Most of us are responding from patterns we didn’t even know we had.

We react.
We defend.
Or we pull away.

And then we replay it later, wishing we had handled it differently.

Here’s the shift:

Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?” (or them).
Start asking, “What’s driving this?”

That one question creates space.

And in that space, you have options.

You can:

· Pause instead of react
· Say what you actually mean
· Choose a response that aligns with who you want to be

This is where things start to change.

Not by trying harder.
Not by a regret spiral.
But by seeing more clearly.

04/08/2026

This message is SO needed because many of us didn’t get tools to self-regulate in real time when we’re anxious, upset, activated, or triggered.

Instead, we were told to “Ignore him” or “Go outside and play” or “Shake it off.” 🙂‍↔️

This is the type of self-talk that’s needed - self-compassionate, kind, non-judgmental, and accepting ourselves right where we are. 💗

This is what we mean by “reparenting ourselves.”

It’s a technique that I help my clients implement in coaching, and it comes from within - because first, I helped myself. 🫶

If you want to have a no-charge, no-strings conversation around reparenting or managing anxious thoughts, reach out via dm or email me. I can help. You can do this. You’re ok. You’re ok. ❣️


At the advice of a friend (thanks, Daria!) I created a four-minute meditative reset for my expo event last weekend. As c...
03/30/2026

At the advice of a friend (thanks, Daria!) I created a four-minute meditative reset for my expo event last weekend. As circumstances would have it, I was unable to use it at that event - but I am not letting it go to waste!

I'd love to offer it to you. It's a few moments of breathing, reflecting, and calming. It's a beautiful space in your day to pause and catch your breath. It might be your favorite moment of the day - and once you have it, you can come back to it whenever you want.

To get this free guided breath mediation, comment FOUR MINUTES below or send me a DM and I'll get it over to you. Feel free to share this post to anyone else you think could use a breather.

Come on in. Let's journey together.

I'm so glad you're here.
-Christi

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