06/18/2019
[ BEAUTIFUL, RICH AND STILL SINGLE ] I wonder why?
That’s the question I ask myself daily. You see: I’m happy, I love who I am & where I am in life.
So what does more look like for a woman “like me” when the biological clock keeps tick, tick, tickin’ —
And it’s forcing me to be honest: although I’m happy, I’m looking for the same love Ms. Bradshaw yearned for.
Do you all remember to Season 6 of “Sex in the City” where Carrie bravely cries through her words, lips trembling and the pain of her statement palpable through our television screens.
“I’m someone who is looking for love.
Real love.
Ridiculous.
Inconvenient.
Consuming.
Can’t-live-without-each-other love.”
Is this so unrealistic and impossible?
WHEW!!! [insert heartbreak emoji]
It may be.
Daily, we, the risen and wild women of the world are reading quotes like this:
“a positive attitude and incredible sense of self-worth, no guy will ever want to be with her for the long term.”
This is an excerpt from an article I read recently.
Man, these internet streets are mean!!!
But it hit home: I am “that” woman & insecurities crept as I stood in the mirror and faced my reflection:
😦 I studied my arm fat.
😦 I studied my stretch marks.
😦 I studied my skin on my thighs, cellulite and all…
💔 I felt less than.
💔 I felt like I deserved to be single.
💔 I felt ashamed of what I saw.
I realized that after reading that article, all I could think about was what was wrong with me, why I wouldn’t be wanted and that I was doomed for loneliness for life.
Queue the violin because honey, I was singing a sad song.
Reading this article [and yes, I realize it was a horrible article] but one thing he said was men will go for a younger woman who is undefined so that they’re a part of her “growth process” and less challenged since they’re inside the journey. WTH?!
Sigh.
This made me weep for the young women I know who are now prey for unconscious, toxic masculinity that can often flow through men who don’t trust who they are enough to be around women who do.
🗞️ CNBC reports that women are 84% less likely than men to have a personal 1 percent status and only 4.5 percent of us earn enough to qualify for this elite sect of the world.
So when we break the pack, who’s there to meet us?
Is loneliness the consequence of success?
I honestly hope not & only time will tell if that’s my story.
But right now I have a choice & you do to.
I choose to not view being single as a curse.
I choose to stop singing the same ol’ sad song.
I choose to accept & love my body just as it it.
I choose to not settle for toxic relationships.
I choose to continue to break the pack.
AND I choose to take amazing women with me to build wealth, community & legacy.
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XO!
Allyson 😘