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Colette Coiner Coaching, San Diego, CA (2026)

01/01/2022

Coaching to Avoid “NO” in Discovery Sessions?

What’s the most difficult part of enrolling new coaching clients?

For most coaches, it’s getting a “No”.

“No” means rejection.

“No” means no new coaching client.

“No” means stagnant coaching income.

But sometimes “No” is the best answer for your client.
Maybe coaching isn’t right for them…

…now…

…or ever!

What if you knew if “no” was the right answer for your client…

…even before they do?

Would you feel differently about “no”…?

Imagine that you knew it was the “right thing” to say “no” to coaching FOR your client.

Imagine that YOU were the one leading that conversation.

Would you still feel the rejection that usually comes along with a “No”?

Even better…

What if you discovered your own fear of rejection…

…was triggering your client’s tension or resistance?

What if you set your own validation aside…

…instead, acting solely on behalf of your client?

What if you took responsibility for the ‘No’?
What if you took the “lead” with the ‘No’?

Here’s what would happen:

Your worries around a potential “no” would disappear.

…then you’d focus 100% on contributing to your client…

…no matter what happened at the end of your discovery sessions.

And, if you focused 100% on contributing to your clients…

…you’d eventually get more clients saying “yes” than you’ll ever need.

When Should You Say “no” to Your Prospective Client?

NO #1: When you want it more than your client does
Often you can see how much your coaching will help your potential client.

And because you want to help so much…

…you could easily end up ‘wanting to coach’ more than your client ‘wants the coaching’.

But coaching doesn’t always help… no matter how much you want it to help.

And coaching especially doesn’t help clients who don’t want coaching!

If you find yourself…

Tense…
anxious about the outcome…
pushing for the enrollment…
…it’s a sign that you’re attached to them enrolling in coaching.

If you’re that attached…

…you likely want it more than they do.

The problem with ‘wanting the coaching’ more than your client does?

Even if coaching is a good fit for your client, they will sense your attachment to the outcome…

…which is ‘client repellent’.

Even if coaching is a good fit for your client, they will sense your attachment to the outcome…which is ‘client repellent’.”
Instead, develop a keen awareness of how much your prospective client wants the coaching, and don’t offer coaching to them if they don’t really want it. Even if YOU really want to coach them, tell them “I can’t offer you coaching because you’re not up for it at this time.”

NO #2: When your potential client isn’t willing to do the work

Some potential clients will tell you…

“I don’t have the money.”
“I don’t have the time.”
“I need to wait until… ”
…when they’re really just not willing to do the work.

You’ve got to hold your client’s feet to the fire on this.

Why?

If your client can’t be honest about their lack of willingness to put in the work, then they can’t take coaching from you.

Assuming they get honest with you, the next step is getting your client to commit to changing their ‘laziness’.

Why?

If your client doesn’t put in the work, then they’ll never get any results in coaching.

If your client doesn’t put in the work, then they’ll never get any results in coaching.”
If you can’t handle this with your client, don’t sign them up for your coaching. Just tell them “I wouldn’t coach you because you’re not willing to do the work.”

NO #3: When your potential client needs a therapist or psychiatrist

You may be able to work with clients who are already in therapy, but it’s beyond the scope of coaching to heal past issues and trauma.

You can support your client with referrals to therapy, but don’t try to substitute coaching for therapy.

NO #4: When you and your client are not a good fit

Everyone has a different definition of “good fit”, but here are a few examples:

If you don’t hold unconditional positive regard for your client because of their lifestyle, beliefs, goals, etc.

For instance, I was initially hesitant to help my client find a new bride after his previous wife hired a hitman to kill him, but I worked through my issues so I could be his coach.

If you don’t have the skills your client needs from you:

If your client needs help in a specific niche that you don’t have skills or experience to handle, support them to find someone who can help them.

If your client needs help in a specific niche that you don’t have skills or experience to handle, support them to find someone who can help them.”
Your potential client will respect your help, plus you’re avoiding a disappointing coaching experience for both you and your client.

NO #5: When your client has unrealistic expectations about what your coaching provides.

It may be tempting to egg a client on in their naive fantasy about a coaching “cure all”, but that sugar high quickly devolves into disappointment.

Bring your prospective client down to earth around what to expect from coaching or you’re better off showing them the door.

My ‘go to’ phrase to delusional prospects is “I guarantee nothing”.

BOTTOM LINE: Make sure they are clear about what you provide and what you expect from them so they’ll be successful.

When you’ve identified that a client isn’t a good fit…
…it frees you to work on other aspects of your coaching business.

Instead of ‘chasing’ a bad fit…
.which only makes you look desperate.

Know your value as a coach.

Be selective in your process.

As my mentor once said…

“It’s better to ride stallions than drag nags”

Look for clients who are ready now.

Look for clients who are willing to invest time and resources to achieve their dreams.

Don’t try to talk potential clients into something that isn’t a fit.
THAT is work.

THAT is a waste of time.

Instead…

Use your time to reach out to more people.

Use your time to clarify who you can best serve.

Be a stand for having amazing clients…

…who will make progress…

…because it’s a good fit.

Helping as much as you can…

…or holding off on something that you know won’t work…

…and having the integrity to know the difference…

…will make an unforgettable impact on your potential client…

…and you never know what will happen as a result.

Perhaps a “no” client today comes back to you when they’re ready for your coaching.

…and THAT’S when the miracles begin.

12/20/2021

3 Beliefs to Bring to Your Coaching Sessions

“How do I schedule more consults?” my new client asked me the other day.

She has a ‘coaching niche’…

…a beautiful website…

…and a program to help her clients.

She has invested thousands of dollars into her business.

But she was lacking in 3 crucial elements that could help her get more consults…

…and also help her enroll clients into her coaching programs.

In fact, these “3 Musketeers” come together to empower your entire coaching sales process.

Who are they?

Belief in Coaching
Belief in Yourself
Belief in Your Client

“But I already have those!” (My client argued after I shared this with her.)

“Of course you do… which is why you’ve made it to this point,” I explained.

“And to make it to the next level…

…you’ll need more belief.”

“Because the coaching game gets MORE intense as you expand your reach.”

I went on to explain to her how every part of the coach marketing process is heavily impacted by these beliefs.

Your Beliefs Permeate Your Marketing And Enrollment Process
People have a sixth sense about communications in almost every form.

And, since your communication is just a function of your beliefs…

…people can tell what you believe as well.

That interaction between people and your beliefs will create (or destroy) attraction before and during a discovery session.

Your belief is also apparent…

…when you post on social media, or write emails.

Your belief affects every stage of your sales process.

Here’s what I told her to do:
“Create a journal so you can develop your beliefs over time…

…to reference before and after coaching calls…

…and to identify growth opportunities in your beliefs.”

I told her to “write through” her beliefs about each element in that journal:

Coaching is 100% FOR YOUR CLIENT.“
Belief in Coaching:
Belief in coaching is the basis for both belief in yourself and belief in your client…

…because both you and your client are working within the context of coaching (at least, during your coaching relationship).

If you don’t believe in coaching…

…you won’t believe in either yourself or your client’s possibilities (at least not in the context of coaching).

The good news is that you already believe in coaching. You wouldn’t be reading these words if you didn’t believe in coaching at all.

But you’ll likely need to build this belief even more.

How?

Read testimonials written by other coaches and clients.

Watch examples of how coaching helps people.

Take notes.

Memorize methods.

Belief in coaching is the basis for both belief in yourself and belief in your client…because both you and your client are working within the context of coaching (at least, during your coaching relationship).”

Write about your own journey. Ask yourself questions like:

“What was my life like before I began my coaching journey? Where am I now? How did coaching help me get to where I am now?”
“Who have I already helped through coaching?”
“In what ways has coaching helped them?”

Belief in Yourself:
This is often the most difficult belief to master.

Why?

Because believing in yourself risks failure, disappointment, and rejection.

You risk failure by attempting new things because you believe in yourself… Failure is bound to happen when you try something new.

You risk disappointments from the ‘blue sky’ expectations that self-belief brings out… Those high expectations are liable to provoke a few disappointments here and there.

What about the rejection?

You’ll risk a few rejections coming from others that don’t believe in you the same way you believe in yourself. Just because you believe in yourself doesn’t mean that others around you always will.

Belief in yourself will probably suffer until you start seeing your clients achieve breakthrough results on a regular basis.

When your clients are struggling, you’ll likely blame yourself… but that’s not going to help anyone.

What’s worse?

When you’re deeply in doubt, you may not be willing to work on your self belief at all.

You might not feel strong enough.

It might be too painful.

If you find yourself hitting that wall… fall back on your belief in coaching.

When I first started coaching…

I was wracked with fear over my discovery sessions.

So, I asked my coach what to do.

I ‘borrowed’ his belief in coaching.

And even though my belief in MYSELF (MY coaching) was weak…

…I focused on my belief that coaching would help my potential client to succeed…

…with or without me.

But once you’re ready to deal with yourself… How do you strengthen your BELIEF in yourself?

Practice

Practice

Practice.

After each coaching session, ask yourself what went well.

Don’t skip this crucial step, because you’ll need it to encourage yourself before the next step…

…which is to identify 1 thing that could be improved, and then work on that one thing. (NOTE: Don’t overwhelm yourself with more than 1 actionable ‘work in progress’ at a time.)

Belief in Your Client:
This is the most pivotal belief of all.

Coaching is not about you.

At the deepest level, coaching isn’t even about a particular approach or method or process.

Coaching is ALL ABOUT YOUR CLIENT.

Coaching is 100% FOR YOUR CLIENT.

If you can’t believe in your client, no matter the reason…

…you’re automatically DISQUALIFIED from coaching them.

Very seldom (if ever) does coaching DAMAGE a client.

But THIS is where you WILL CAUSE DAMAGE…

…not believing in your client is the most damaging thing in coaching, and it could very easily overflow into your client’s life, mindset, and results.

“But, Colette, I have clients that are totally wrong about things… I can’t just ‘believe’ them, right?”

Yes, you can. Because…

Believing in your client doesn’t mean you have to AGREE with them.
Believing in your client doesn’t even mean you have to approve of your client’s plan.
Believing in your client just means listening to them through the lens of possibility.

What’s the “lens of possibility”?

When you see your client, do you see what’s possible? (or only limitations and problems?)
When your client tells you about their goals and dreams, do you hear those goals as possible? (or only why they can’t or won’t make it through?)
When your client tells you their plan to achieve their goal, do you know that they have all the tools they need to get there? (or do you predict utter failure due to lack of what it takes?)
Belief in your client isn’t rocket science! It’s actually pretty simple… but RARE.

Many people won’t bother to believe in your client…

…and THAT’S one big reason why you’re rare and valuable to them as their coach.

BOTTOM LINE: Believe in your client or DON’T COACH THEM.

12/04/2021

3 Coaching Questions That Uncover Bad Rules

Sometimes clients come to you really upset…

…about something in their life…

…their family…

…their business…

…or whatever they’re working on with you.

They go on with their story…

…and despite anything you say…

…nothing seems to help.

Why are they so upset?
When this happens…

…the only reason why your client is so upset…

…the only reason why your coaching doesn’t seem to work…

…is because one of your client’s rules has been broken.

Rules about how life should go…

…how their spouse or children should treat them…

…or what needs to happen for your client to feel ok.

Rules are so unconscious and automatic for your client…

…that it’s hard to see them.

Your client isn’t going to spontaneously bring up their rules in sessions. Why would they?

The fact is…

Your client’s rules are INVISIBLE.
Invisible to both YOU and YOUR CLIENT.

Yet these rules affect every aspect of your client’s life.

For example:

The other day I was at the grocery store with my son.

I forgot something…

…so I left him in line for a moment…

…and when I came back, the woman behind us was really upset.

She scolded me, “There’s a line.”

“I’m with him.” I said, pointing to my son.

And then, she began a tirade that I won’t repeat…

…but the upshot was “Your son let that man cut in front of him”.

Clearly my son and I broke a few of her rules.

I try to notice and understand my client’s rules.”
In her mind… we were in the WRONG.

And yet, I knew I was RIGHT (according to my own rules)…

But I let her go in front of us in line anyway (which was allowable under ‘my rules’).

Then my son asked me, “Should I have tried to stop the man from cutting in front of me?”

I replied, “It’s okay.”

“But mom, what should I do if someone cuts in front of me again?”

I replied, “It doesn’t make any difference now, honey… it’s all over.”

And finally, exasperated, he begged…

“Mom, what are the RULES?”

“I need to know the RULES!”

And I stopped dead in my tracks.

Suddenly, I realized that my son saw something for himself that I never attempted to tell him…

…that HIS WORLD IS RUN BY RULES.
And, even more importantly, his LIFE is run by rules.

And so I answered him very carefully.

“Honey, the tricky part is that everybody has different rules.”

“I can tell you MY rules.”

“I can tell you when you BROKE someone else’s rules.”

“But I can’t tell you THE rules…”

“…because there’s no such thing.”

“The best you can do is understand your OWN rules, and maybe improve them.”

“And then try to notice other’s rules.”

Then he asked, “Mom, is that what you do when you’re coaching?”

And, of course, again, he was right…

…that’s EXACTLY what I do when I’m coaching.

I try to notice and understand my client’s rules.

Rules that bother them.

Rules that make them rigid.

Rules that motivate them, but stress them out at the same time.

How do you discover your coaching client’s rules?
These 4 questions will help you get started:

Ask your client…

“What has to happen to feel love, happiness, success, etc.?”
This question will help you discover your client’s VALUE RULES… rules that serve as ‘gatekeepers’ to your client’s most valued feelings.

If your client complains that they have no love in their life, then ask them “What has to happen for you to feel love?”

Their answer will be their RULE for the love that they value so much, but aren’t currently experiencing in their life.

Make sense?

“How should people treat each other? How should they treat you? What should people do when _____?”
This line of questioning will help you identify your client’s RULES OF ENGAGEMENT… rules that they use to judge or evaluate other people’s behavior.

This is especially important in your client’s evaluation of behavior and communication towards THEM.

A guaranteed way to ruffle your client’s feathers is to break their rules of engagement towards them.

“What has to happen for you to feel angry, bothered, frightened, stressed, etc.?”
This question will help you discover your client’s TRIGGER RULES… rules that fire off painful emotions for your client.

If your client complains that they’re feeling stressed, then ask them “What has to happen for you to feel stressed?”

Their answer will be one of their TRIGGER RULES for stress.

“Who/How do you have to be?” or “How do you have to show up?”
These questions will extract your client’s IDENTITY RULES… your client’s ideas about who they need to be (whether they think they are, or are not that person).

As you start to identify your client’s rules, you’ll notice that many of those rules make it really hard for your client to enjoy their life, and make it really easy for them to feel lousy.

Here are a few ways your client’s rules trap them:

“Perfectionist” Rules Make Success Unachievable:
Some rules are not well-founded in reality… focusing on how things should be rather than how they ARE…

Here are a few examples of how perfectionist rules make it impossible to win:

“My house must always be cleaned up and ready to entertain company.”
“I must always accomplish everything on my to-do list.”
“I’ll only feel secure when I have tons of liquid cash.”

“Reactive” Rules Make Clients Hypersensitive:
Certain rules make it way too easy for your client to feel injured or damaged.

Reactive rules can make…
..feedback from a customer feel like criticism..a funny look from a friend feel like hatred..a struggle feel like a failure

I’ve seen reactive rules push even the most ‘sane’ client to:
..Assume that someone is out to get them..Act like a control freak..Get overly upset when they didn’t get what they wanted..Be fragile when people don’t treat them precisely the right way..Feel like a failure because they don’t have the right job or degree

“Claustrophobic” Rules Tie Clients in Knots:
Some of your client’s Identity rules keep them in a ‘box’, preventing them from…
..doing what they’d love to do (or even doing what’s necessary)...fully expressing themselves..being who they truly are.

Claustrophobic rules can make your client…
..tip-toe around certain relationships… “walking on eggshells”..stay in a job they hate..never get around to a dream vacation or something on their ...‘bucket list’..avoid telling a friend or family member what they really think

When your client’s rules are violated…

…they get upset.

When your client’s rules don’t fit their goals, life, or identity…

…they get stuck, or otherwise disempowered.

These rules run your client’s life…
…as if your client was a puppet, and their rules, the puppeteer.

And worse… your client doesn’t even know it.

But when you help your client be AWARE of their rules…

Rules don’t have to limit your client.

Rules don’t have to cage your client.

Rules don’t have to trap your client.

Why?

Because your client CREATED every rule.

And, since your client created their rules…

They can change them.

They can overcome them.

They can reinvent them.

When you help your client recognize that they have fallen into a disempowering rule trap…
…you give them a profound gift.

Instead of allowing your client to grope blindly for answers…

…they have an opportunity to turn those rules around...

11/21/2021

Accountability Coaching: Drill Sergeant vs Deep Dive?

Holding your client ‘accountable’ sounds like holding them ‘hostage’.

It sounds like convicting someone of a crime and punishing them with a prison sentence.

I know, I’m a coach.

And when I first started my coaching business, I was a hard driving accountability coach.

And I helped a lot of people make a lot of money…

…because they got stuff done.

Or else the ‘hammer’ would come down…

What would I say to get them to take action?
ME: “Why didn’t you finish your website bio like you committed to?”

CLIENT: “I didn’t have time, it’s been a crazy week .”

ME: “I don’t care about how crazy your week was! Don’t lie to yourself.

I know you could’ve gotten this done and yet you didn’t.

You have no integrity with your promises, and I want to know why!”

How would you feel if your coach got ‘in your face’ that intensely?

Some people loved it…

Others hated it and quit.

Until I took the Accountability Immersion Training (Just giving credit where it’s due.).

Shortly after I got my Accountability Certification, I tried out my newly found skills with a client who wasn’t following through…

ME: “What stopped you from making 6 hours of calls like you committed to?”

CLIENT: “I didn’t have time, my garage flooded when it rained.”

ME: “If you were unstoppable and 100% committed to getting this done, could you STILL have done it?”

CLIENT: “I guess I could’ve gotten it done.”

ME: “Any time you let yourself off the hook for not following through with a commitment…

…there is a story that covers up the real reason it didn’t get done.

Let’s just be curious for a moment…

Is it possible that the whole ‘garage flooding’ thing is a story?

Do you think it might be covering something else up?”

CLIENT: “Uh….I guess maybe?”

ME: “What might really be stopping you from following through (BEYOND the story about the flooded garage)?”

CLIENT: “I got stopped because I didn’t think it’d make a difference…”

ME: “Why?”

CLIENT: ”Because I’m not good on the phone.”

ME: “Why?”

CLIENT: ”Because I’m not sure what to say.”

ME: “What else does your story hide?”

CLIENT: ”It’s hiding that I don’t think I’m good enough.”

And at that moment she transformed.

CLIENT: “WOW…

…I didn’t realize that ‘I’m not good enough’ has been plaguing me for over a decade…

‘I’m not good enough’ has been robbing me of my life.”

She went from making $50k…

to $120k…

…in 3 months.

What did I learn that made the difference for this client?
The Accountability Immersion Training taught me that there are 2 types of accountability:

DRILL SERGEANT ACCOUNTABILITY: Become their hard-driving, in your face, take no prisoners coach.
DEEP-DIVE ACCOUNTABILITY: Identify what stopped your client from doing what they committed to, then create a new possibility for the future based on a more empowering set of beliefs.

Of course, DRILL SERGEANT ACCOUNTABILITY is harsh…

…often breaks rapport

…and creates resistance.

And while some clients thrive with this style of coaching (Hard driving achievers won’t respect you if you’re too soft)…

…other clients fail to make progress.

Why don’t clients do well with Drill Sergeant Accountability Coaching?
They have already beat themselves up for not taking action.

Harsh coaching just makes them feel worse…

And when you feel crappy, what type of action do you take?

Well… It’s not good.

DEEP-DIVE ACCOUNTABILITY requires you to identify what really stopped your client…

…not a story, but the real cause.

Your client needs to dive beneath their surface reasons…

…and identify what’s really stopping them.

Your client needs to dive beneath their surface reasons…and identify what’s really stopping them.”

What’s really stopping them is usually about..

Lack of commitment…

Fear…

Shame…

Or a belief that they’re not worthy….

As long as your client has a lack of power with their commitments…

…Coaching will be like trying to anchor their boat on a sandy bottom.

Without something solid, the anchor shifts with the tide.

And your coaching conversations will be the same way…

…drifting any which way the tide flows…

…so their life spirals out of control… into chaos.

Deep-Dive Accountability helps clients identify their blocks, move past them, and take action.

What type of action results from Deep-Dive Accountability?

Let’s just call it “Priceless”.

Yes, it’s a lot more work to play Sherlock Holmes and help your clients discover the real culprit that is holding them back from success…

But I love a challenge…

And it’s amazing when you’re able to support clients by holding them to their word…

…and helping them see what is really stopping them from achieving their goals.

That type of breakthrough creates raving fans.

11/17/2021

How to Create Your Own Coaching Business Planning Retreat

“I can’t do my coaching right now… my life is too full.”

That’s what a coach said to me the other day, just weeks after they signed up for our advanced program.

They were inches away from living their dream…

…and they bailed out at the last minute.

Have you ever thought that your dream of a coaching business…

…is impossible at this stage of your life?

That your life is so busy…

…there is no way you can add coaching to your plate?

…and you can’t see a way out?

The truth is…

YOU’RE TRAPPED.

And the better your life is…

…the stronger the trap.

And worse… you can’t see the trap…
…because you’re INSIDE the trap.

In the New York Times Best-Seller, “Untamed”, Glennon Doyle writes about a cheetah at a wildlife park…

…and how it was trained to run after a prop attached to a car…

…for the enjoyment of the visitors.

That cheetah wasn’t wild and free…

…but merely a tamed version of who she was truly created to be.

Glennon uses this analogy to describe how she felt for most of her life…

TRAPPED

TAMED

CAGED

I totally relate because I felt trapped when I started my coaching business journey.

Life had TAMED me…

…and I was chasing fake ‘meat’ to please the people around me.

I told my coach I was stuck.

I told him I felt helpless.

I told him I couldn’t see the way out.

I asked “How do I get out of this trap?”
He said “First you have to recognize the trap.”

So, I asked “How do I ‘see the trap’?”

My coach suggested…

“Get out of town.”

“Go away for an overnight trip…”

“…by yourself.”

“No family. No friends. No ‘teachers’ or ‘gurus’.”

“Just YOU.”

So I left town…
…to discover myself…

…who I wanted to become…

…and what I wanted to accomplish in my coaching business.

It was such a powerful experience…

…that I still give myself this gift every year or two.

I came home with…

New clarity for where I was going.
New confidence in my ability to get there.
New commitment to follow through.
I had finally taken ownership of my dream.

In fact, it was no longer just a dream, it was a goal with a realistic plan to achieve it.

Want to create your own coaching business mini-retreat?

Schedule a time when you can disappear for at least 22 hours.
If it sounds impossible, it’s all the more important that you do it.

The more challenging putting the time aside appears…

…the stronger your self-created cage has become.

You’ll have to break out of that cage long enough to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Go somewhere new.
Check into a hotel or an Airbnb, ideally one you seldom (or never) visit.

You need new views and experiences, so you’re not confined by your current comfort zone. Think of this as “wandering outside of your cage”.

No phone contact with anyone you know.
Tell close friends and family that you’ll be out of pocket so they don’t worry (and so YOU don’t keep worrying about THEM).

By getting away from familiar conversations with people who know you, you allow yourself the freedom to become whoever you want to become.

A quick note on friends and loved ones:

They aren’t the enemy, but you still need to ‘get away’ from them.
They are PART OF YOUR CAGE.

Even if it’s a nice, loving, friendly, comfortable cage… it’s still acting as a cage for you.

Don’t use your family and close friends as an excuse not to get away… otherwise, you make the people close to you into your JAILERS.

Bring a journal, laptop, or other method to document your plan.
Personally, I use an ‘old school’ hard-bound journal so I am not tempted to surf the internet, check emails, or watch movies.

Jim Rohn’s old saying around hard-bound journals was “Purchase a journal that’s expensive. It’ll challenge you to find something valuable enough to put in there. If you ever saw one of my expensive journals, you wouldn’t have to look very far to discover that it’s now worth way more than what I originally paid for it.”

When you arrive at your retreat… relax.
Allow yourself time to reflect and think.

Allow yourself to dream.

The next morning, your work begins.

Clarify your vision and goals, then create a plan.

I’ve worked with a lot of coaches that felt trapped in their lives, too…
…and NONE of them had gone on their own strategic vision retreat.

They say…

“Colette, you don’t understand.

I have young children…

…a spouse…

…a business.”

I know…

…that’s the reason you need to unplug…

…if you want to create something new in your life.

Most people merely create the same life…

…year after year.

Even if they achieve goals…

…they don’t grow outside of their current reality.

If you want to achieve something you’ve never achieved…

…you’ll have to become someone you’ve never become.

When I came home after my first retreat…
…my kids were drinking homemade smoothies in the backyard.

They were fine.

But when I saw my home…

Lady freaked out
…my kids…

…my life…

I FREAKED OUT!

I wondered…

…how can I achieve any of the coaching goals and plans I just created?

It seemed like my goals…

…that seemed so REAL while I was away on my retreat…

…were actually IMPOSSIBLE.

The discrepancy was as sharp as a slap in the face…

…I cried out in anguish…

“I’ll never be able to do this!”

This drama was all the proof I needed to realize…

…that getting away was essential to creating my plan.

But I felt like I had walked out onto a ledge of fear and terror…
…seeing my dream crumble upon returning to the reality of my life at home.

Thankfully, my coach talked me down off that ledge in my next session with him.

He assured me that this ‘slap in face’ happens to everyone when they get home from their first retreat.

”You can’t make a big jump in your life…

…while you’re trapped inside the context of your already existing life.”

You can’t make a big jump in your life…while you’re trapped inside the context of your already existing life.”
“You can’t make a quantum leap from the constraints that you’ve become accustomed to…

…not from your existing comfort zone.”

I realized going on this retreat allowed me to leave my cage and venture into the wild…

Retreat Del Coron
…even though it was only 40 minutes away from my home in San Diego.

But I followed the retreat rules…
…I allowed myself to be free…

…free to create my own destiny.

Eventually, I achieved all the goals I set during my retreat…

…even though they seemed impossible when I got home.

Sure, I had a lot of help from my coach…

…but I used the time outside ‘my cage’ to create something more powerful…

…than I could have ever created in the constraints of my life.

And who benefitted?…

You can’t make a quantum leap from the constraints that you’ve become accustomed to…not from your existing comfort zone.”
…Besides myself?

My kids…

…my spouse…

…my coaching clients…

…and, hopefully, you as you read this right now.

At some point, you need to decide…
…will you play it safe……and stay in the cage of the constraints you’ve created thus far in your life?

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Or will you be brave enough to explore the deepest parts of your soul…

…the parts that yearn to be set free…

…and to express your life in a way that sets others free as well?

No one can do this for you…

…you must decide to unlock the cage.

Colette Coiner Coaching

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