"Self Enhancement & Problem Solving Center" And "Domestic Solutions"

"Self Enhancement & Problem Solving Center" And "Domestic Solutions" Counseling services

01/30/2022

Confused people are characterized by having emotional contradictions that are incompatible with one another due to the presence of two or more ideas or opinions at the same time, which increases unstable feelings, while conflicting contradictory emotions that do not correspond with one another tend to multiply.
People who suffer from this state of emotional and highly disoriented conflict have a pattern of turbulent and high conflict behavioral pattern which tend to increase the conflict rather than reducing it or solving it because they seem to miss reasonable solutions through their disregard for facts, reality and truth, their stubbornness, control issues and insistence on following their unproven ineffective ways of solving problems, while they get distracted and instead focus their attention on blaming others while not taking any personal responsibility and denying reality and common sense, only to reinforce their confused and disturbed emotional turmoil, making it worse for themselves and others involved.
The stubborn and illogical belief of either solving all problems immediately and in the same manner, or refusing to solve any of them at all, is called; “black or white thinking”, which is limited to absolutes and to the tendency to see things to their fullest, no in-between while ignoring factual, proven evidence, logic and common sense which can be clearly seen by everyone, except for the befuddled disoriented person!

11/23/2021

I believe in what I call the “law of allowance or permissibility”, where I accept and allow others to be as they want to be within normal limits without any expectation, criticism, rejection, or discrimination; While I focus on understanding their unique situation, circumstances and different experiences.
In this way I am not responsible for what they do or say while I can focus on my responsibility for what I do or say; And if they do the same, we may have an honest, transparent, clear and fruitful conversation in which we learn from each other's differences recognizing our diverse and varied knowledge and experiences so that we can better comprehend the status quo to set things in the right direction allowing for effective and positive change moving forward for the benefit of all parties.

06/05/2021

Not validating someone’s feelings is one of the most harmful forms of neglect and emotional abuse.
It is evasive, spiteful, vindictive, offensive and unexpected, when they ignore you or pretend as if they did not hear you, or refuse to listen, believe or comprehend what you have expressed distinctly.
All that can cause one to feel double abused, insulted, injured, disappointed but worse of all, sorry for their lack of moral fiber...

08/19/2020

🎯 Psychological projection is a self defense tactic, people use on a subconscious level for self protection, in order to deal with difficult strong emotions and protecting certain imprinted habitual habits they own and are not willing to change and instead they hold on to them and defend them dearly and never admit to the truth which threatens their own self security.

🎯 In other words this process involves projecting which is the process of unfairly casting or employing one’s own undesirable, improper, and irrational behaviors and attitudes on the other person, instead of relaxing and calming down and admitting and accepting the truth in order to be able to deal with those unwanted liable feelings and resolve them once and for all consciously and rationally.

🎯 Also in other words, Projection which can be difficult to understand, is where one attributes personal habits they know that are unacceptable but never admitting to it, or completely unaware of them, so one would have to credit and charge them to the other person they are facing, and wrongfully accuse them of it.

🎯 A good basic example of projection is when a husband who has a pretty hostile nature would attribute this hostility he clearly displays yet unaware of, to his wife and tells her she is hostile and angry and doubles down and becomes more hostile as and when she refuses to accept his false accusations through his projection, while he may even dare turn it on her and say she’s projecting that on him although he’s the one who’s more hostile and the one who started the hostility in the first place but of course he’s in complete denial about it.
Here it can be very tricky and dangerous because the one who’s doing the projection could cry foul play and claim the other person is projecting which can be viewed as toxic and dishonest may be intentional behavior!

🎯 Other popular examples of projection are:
📍One who gets angry and screams at his partner while telling her she’s the one who’s angry and screaming just because she refuses to accept that charge which she’s obviously innocent of when he doubled down on her.
📍One who cheats on his partner accuses her of cheating on him, and doubles down when she refuses to accept the charge because she’s truthfully innocent.
📍One who is not loyal to his wife accuses her of not being loyal and doubles down when she refuses to accept that charge since she is truly loyal to him; and he’s the one who has the problem.
📍One who never honors confidentiality with his partner accuses her of breaking confidentiality while he even doubles down and breaks confidentiality publicly in front of her in a very hostile manner, yet doubles down on it, accusing her for being hostile although innocent, just because she refuses to accept false accusations about her!

08/15/2020

Believe in whatever you want to believe in, but never let your own personal belief system defraud others of what they believe in differently than you; because when you use your very own beliefs attacking other’s beliefs, then you are violating your own freedoms through violating theirs by giving permission to them to violate your own freedoms through behaving ignorantly and irresponsibly as and while violating theirs...

08/03/2020

Corona Pandemic emotional and psychological signs of mental stress are as follows:

1 - Sadness and Depression
2- Nervousness and tension
3- Feeling of anger
4- Feeling of fatigue and inconvenience
5- Lack of sleep or sleeping too much or too little
6- Lack of appetite or eating too much or too little
7- Racing thoughts and ideas
8- Memory impairment and difficulty concentrating
9- Moody and unpredictable
10- Reduced sexual desire
11- Negative thinking
12- Inability to make positive decisions
13- Suspicion and delusion
14- Constant anxiety and stress

08/03/2020

📌 "STRESS AND ANXIETY MANAGEMENT"

We are constantly stressed out and anxious due to multiple life stressors such as work, social pressure, traffic, relationships, political discourse, economy, beauty, health, family responsibilities and now the unfortunate COVID-19 virus crisis!
It seems like we never get much of a break long enough to relax and relieve stress and anxiety!
Increased stress levels are linked to high blood pressure, strokes, heart attacks, depression, anxiety and mood instability and disorders.

📌 Here are 5 easy ways to relieve stress:

📍1- Eat healthy;
Eating healthy food such as clean proteins, fruits, vegetables, and healthy fats restore balance and reduce the effects of stress on your body and help regulate your hormone levels, especially stress hormones.

📍2- Exercise;
Sometimes exercise even as simple as dancing or shaking, is a quick and effective way to relieve stress by releasing endorphins through exercise.
Endorphins act on the op**te receptors in our brains, reducing stress, pain and boosting pleasure, resulting in a feeling of happiness and well-being.

📍3- Sleep well;
Try to relax and get a good night sleep because if you can’t sleep, then you will not be prepared to handle the stressors of the next day, which could lead to more stress and anxiety.

📍4- Practice Deep breathing;
Breathing is easy, cause you're already doing it, I hope! Cause you're alive! Right??
Deep breathing has amazing healing powers because it slows down your heart rate, lowers blood pressure and relieves stress and anxiety and therefore it will help you relax and calms you down!

📍5- Practice Simple meditation;
Find a quiet spot in your home, where you can sit or lay down in a comfortable position and close your eyes and run your imagination and “FOCUS” on one positive and happy thought that pleases you and just get lost in it! Meditation releases endorphins which act on the op**te receptors in the brain, and reduce stress and anxiety, boosting pleasure and resulting in feeling better, more relaxed and calm. If you're successful getting there and staying a while, you'll be surprised how it will regulate your system and gives you some comfort and solace...
❤️ Good luck.

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