09/06/2024
Ever have a couple of days where everything that could go wrong sorta annoyingly did?!
I’m NOT talking about the big stuff …
.. the tragic days, or the grief or shock-filled days …
I’m referring to:
the flat tire, the stye in your eye, the fuse that blew, the smoke detector that went off in the middle of the night, the empty tank of gas your teen left for you ...
.. the allergies that made your head feel like it was in a vice, the glass bottle that slipped from your hand in one second and the forty minutes it took to clean it up …
Those kinda days.
As in … the small stuff, but still, the frustrating stuff.
I get it.
Oh, trust me, I do indeed.
You may find yourself exasperated, perhaps even on the verge of tears or anger -- maybe at some point you even feel a lil rage.
As in, “Really, the dog stepped in his own p**p and just tracked it all over the house?!”
True story. Fun times.
And then, in the middle of your “woe as me” moment, a thought creeps in:
"I shouldn't be feeling this way. Other people have it worse. So much worse. How can I even be upset when there’s so much bigger pain happening in the world right now? What’s wrong with me?!"
That tension, right there, that tug of war between your own frustration and the guilt you experience for even feeling frustrated can be draining — leaving you caught in your angst or just plain “off.”
AND on top of that, you're wondering why you can’t just be more grateful more of the time. Ooof. 🤦
First, you’re not alone.
Second, we all have tough days and pretending we don’t doesn’t make the world a better place or any of us a better steward in it.
Stay with me — because I know you, and you might just be shaking your head in disagreement with me and thinking,
“Please, we all just need to get our heads out of our asses and get a grip.”
I’m not necessarily disagreeing that a perspective shift is needed … I just want to share a more effective practice than beating yourself up — which just delays the shift you truly desire.
Immediately comparing your day to another’s day isn’t the best first step. As in, many of us experience the guilt and want to jump straight to,
“I’m not allowed to feel disappointed, I had a warm meal tonight.”
- Or -
“I shouldn’t get upset about this thing in my life, look at the headlines.”
As strange as it may sound, it’s actually NOT “selfish” or “wrong” or “bad” to first acknowledge your real human emotions.
They’re valid. You are having a rough moment.
In fact, the sooner you honor your emotions, the sooner you begin healing and re-centering yourself so you can move forward faster toward resiliency and a more expansive heart.
Once you’ve invited your feelings to dinner, so to speak, and allowed them to have their say, thank them. Seriously. Thank them, and let them know they’ve been heard and that you know they are simply trying to help you.
Whether it’s to help you heal, or course-correct, or show yourself more love, or set a boundary, or manage your energy, or say no to the nonsense, or whatever …
.. acknowledging your feelings helps you to transmute them into something good.
Now that you’ve been a compassionate witness to yourself, you’re ready to begin cultivating a broader perspective -- one that shifts your focus and elevates your energy.
Journaling can be helpful, but if you aren’t a fan, then perhaps you might take a lil walk with yourself and contemplate the following questions to help you navigate the tension between understandable human frustration with your own challenging circumstances, and any guilt you have for feeling your feels.
1) How might I fully embrace & process my emotions, knowing that self-love and healing will strengthen my resiliency & ability to serve the world?
2) What practices might I use to heal my pain while deepening my empathy and readiness to help others?
3) How can processing my struggles today better prepare me to support others tomorrow?
4) What five blessings can I truthfully recognize right now, even amidst tough circumstances, to shift my perspective, my story, and shift my energy too?
By allowing yourself to feel your feels first, to take a moment to transmute your pain into power, and to then shift your perspective outward —
you can move through challenging emotions with greater grace, honoring your experience while keeping sight of the bigger picture.
And that’s a pretty darn magical conversation to have with yourself.
Hugs n hugs,
AmyK ...
Some of the most important conversations are the ones we have with ourselves, and it always starts with being real & raw about what we truly desire to change — and ELEVATE — in our lives, such as:
"I want to STOP letting that difficult person in my life "get" to me and let go of the tension I feel around them once and for all."
"My energy has been low lately, and I'm ready to create the necessary mindset shifts and actions to bring myself back to my full vibrance again."
"I'm feeling overwhelmed and have no time to myself. I must learn to draw proper BOUNDARIES — and uphold them — for my own health and wellbeing."
"I'm so over wasting my time in Soul-Sucking meetings. I'm ready to take the lead, reclaim my time & energy, and create inspiring & engaging meetings instead!"
☝️ So which Magical Conversation will you have with yourself next?
Come join these conversations and more at the Magical Conversation ACADEMY: https://www.shegetsit.com/academy
Because the life you desire lies on the other side of them. 🌻