09/04/2025
Practice makes a difference. With practice, I have had the opportunity to switch negative patterns which for me had created obstacles. Can you relate? How can we counteract our habitual, go-to responses? I believe altering habits is possible with attention and practice.
Here’s a story. Over the last couple of years, in a playful way, I try to answer questions with a “yes” —not necessarily literally. For example: Someone asks me to join them for coffee on Friday and I’m not available. Responding in the affirmative, I could say, “Thank you. That would be great, however, could we find another time?”
Recently, an acquaintance approached me wanting to verify my name, saying, “Valerie, right?” Without even thinking, I said, “What a nice name! Thanks for trying to remember my name. I like the name Valerie.” We concluded that they could call me Valerie, if they wanted to. My practice in responding affirmatively has made a difference.
I grew up with an importance in being right. I’ve learned to connect, not be correct. Although I might still have vestiges of a former value, I’m aware and with practice, I’ve had an easier time with my intention to connect.
The beauty of the Conflict Resolution Fundamentals online course is that you have unlimited opportunities to practice within a year of enrollment. Enrollment is open. It’s self-paced, with role play videos, teaching videos, and downloadable PDFs, and monthly live sessions. Eight hours certificate of completion available.
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