Bridges of Peace

08/05/2024

One of the primary reasons I started “Co-creating Peace” was because of challenges we humans have in being able to have peaceful conversations when we have differences of opinion, especially when those differences are around topics about which we care a great deal, and therefore have high emotion around. We lack these skills because they were never taught to us!

In this episode, “Teaching Civil Dialogue as a Tool for Peace”, Episode #140 of Co-creating Peace, I have an intriguing conversation with Charlie Young, author of “Constructive Communication – Civil Dialogue”, and a passionate advocate for teaching civil dialogue, both at home, and from the earliest stages of our formal education.

Highlights of our conversation include:

• the concepts of civil dialogue/constructive communication and methods of teaching these skills to youth

• the vital significance of teaching essential skills like validation, empathy, clarifying, summarizing, non-judgmental observation, and mindfulness.

• pivotal skills in bridging cultural and racial differences, fostering forgiveness, and promoting societal harmony

• agreement isn't necessary to achieve mutual understanding

Charlie Young was born, raised and educated in MA. He came to Oregon in 1958. His life experiences are many including directing an office of education with emphasis on adult learning, serving in the Naval Reserve, being a flight instructor, corporate pilot, head trainer for developing efficient and effective work processes for a large electrical contractor and upon retirement being a mediator. His book “Constructive Communication – Civil Dialogue” brings together his life experiences and continued education for developing better ways to communicate and resolve differences.

To learn more about teaching civil dialogue in schools, contact Charlie directly at: [email protected].

Educators: To get your copy of his book, “Constructive Communication – Civil Dialogue”, click here or go to: books.friesenpress[.]com and search for “Constructive Communication” by Charlie Young

Or you can find it on Amazon by clicking here or searching for “Constructive Communication” by Charlie Young.

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One of the primary reasons I started this podcast was because of challenges we humans have in being able to have peaceful conversations when we have differences of opinion, especially when those differences are around topics about which we care a ...

07/15/2024

Trauma is a part of life, as the world we’re living in continually shows us. Yet we don’t have to carry that trauma throughout our life. That’s why it’s so important to listen to “EmotionAid® – 5 Steps to Reduce Trauma and Deactivate High Emotion”, Episode #139 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

Join me for this enlightening episode as I welcome back Jeffrey Goldstein to discuss the transformative power of " EmotionAid®”, a set of five practical tools created by the International Trauma Healing Institute in Israel to help manage and de-escalate emotional responses during times of trauma, conflict or high stress. Jeffrey explains how these tools work to dissipate residual adrenaline, re-center and re-orient ourselves, release the trauma from our body, and find wisdom and strength through the experience. By regulating the nervous system and our psychological responses with these techniques, we can release the residues of the trauma response and transform that energy into creative and positive outcomes, promoting well-being and peace within ourselves and in our interactions with others.

Highlights of our conversation include:
• Recognizing & honoring our trauma responses for what they are
• The importance of discovering where our trauma(s) reside in our body and how to release them
• The 5 steps of EmotionAid®
• The extraordinary value of utilizing the 5th step of EmotionAid® (Resourcing) to fill the spaces that remain when we’ve released the residues of our trauma(s)
• Understanding that growth and positive outcomes can result from consciously working through our trauma

Contact Jeffrey via:
Website: JeffGoldsteinAttuner[.]com
Ph./WhatsApp +972-52-655-7195
E-mail: [email protected]
Join his Peace Vigils Sun.: 20:15 UTC/GMT; Wed.: 17:00 UTC/GMT on Zoom. Contact him for more information.

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Trauma is a part of life, as the world we’re living in continually shows us. Yet we don’t have to carry that trauma throughout our life. Welcome to “EmotionAid® –  5 Steps to Reduce Trauma and Deactivate High Emotion”, Episode #139 of Co-crea...

06/22/2024

As we approach the election season, I will be ramping up my in-person peacemaking work with groups and individuals, so for the time being, Co-creating Peace is going to a once-a-month format, airing new episodes on the first weekend of each month. Of course, you can always listen to all episodes of Co-creating Peace at any time on your favorite podcast provider, or by visiting the podcast page of my website: https://bridgesofpeace.com/podcast-co-creating-peace.

I would love to hear from you with any input, feedback, or suggestions for episode topics! Contact me at: [email protected]. If you’re seeking a particular conscious communication or conflict transformation tool, feel free to reach out to me and I can guide you to the episode(s) that would be applicable, create a new episode to address that, or offer tools to you directly.

I encourage each and every one of you to find new ways to co-create peace in your life and in the world! Our very survival as a specie depends on it!

06/10/2024

In Episodes #20, #76 & #77, of Co-creating Peace, I had some great conversations with guests about boundaries. Today’s guests, Jan & Jillian Yuhas, twin sisters who are both psychologists and mediators, have a unique take on working with boundaries that emerged from their 20 years of experience in interpersonal psychology and mediation.

Learn new ways to communicate and negotiate boundaries in this week’s episode: “Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method for Elevating Your Value and Relationships” Episode #138 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

Highlights of our conversation include:
• Using I-statements to talk about our boundaries and our values
• The importance of exploring shared values to help us find common ground
• Using open-ended questions as “discovery” questions to help us respond to a triggering statement from a heart-centered, non-reactive place.
• Moving from “me” to “we” to inspire collaboration and help elevate relationships

Jan Yuhas, M.A., MFT, and Jillian Yuhas, M.A., MFT, are Relationship Experts, Boundary, and Conflict Resolution Consultants, and the authors behind 'Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method For Elevating Your Value and Relationships.' Jan and Jillian are dedicated to helping value-driven entrepreneurs and companies cultivate mutually beneficial relationships, facilitate respectful conflict resolution, and empower others to master the art of setting personal and professional boundaries. With over two decades of experience in interpersonal psychology and mediation, the sisterly duo specializes in unlocking others’ inherent value, amplifying their personal development and professional performance, and guiding them toward relationship growth.

To learn more about Jan & Jillian Yuhas, and the wonderful resources they have to offer, visit: janandjillian.com. To learn more about their book, “Boundary Badass”, visit: boundarybadass.com.

To learn more about values, tune in to Episode #27. To hear more about negotiation, you can listen to Episode #4, boundaries in Episodes #20, #76 & #77, I-messages Episode #10 & open-ended/“discovery” questions, Episode #6.

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In Episodes #20, #76 & #77, I had some great conversations with guests about boundaries. Today’s guests, Jan & Jillian Yuhas, twin sisters who are both psychologists and mediators, have a unique take on working with boundaries that emerged...

05/27/2024

Beginning June 8th, you’ll hear new episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication & conflict transformation, where we bring you insights & wisdoms from experts in mindfulness & peacemaking from around the world.

Meanwhile, I hope you'll listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights & wisdoms you will find there & continue to share Co Creating Peace with others.

Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:
• Episode #29 – “The Power of the Positive”: This episode builds upon what I discussed in Episode #14 on re-framing our perspective. The Power of the Positive is about focusing on the things that are positive in life, in people, in situations – even in the presence of the aspects we see as detrimental or undesirable in those same things. We can use The Power of the Positive to help us co-create peace.

• Episode #30 – “We See What We Believe”: In this episode, I share my thoughts on an interesting psychological phenomenon known as “confirmation bias”. I also share a letter with you from someone who wrote to me about how she used Appreciative Inquiry, which I talk about in Episode #29.

• “Episode #97 – How to Move Beyond Blame, Live Your Highest Purpose and Become an Unstoppable Force for Good” Dr. Fleet Maull joins me to talk about Radical Responsibility, and how practicing it can empower us to better co-create peace with others. Highlights of our conversation were:
– The value of mindfulness & emotional intelligence to help us co-create peace
– Radical Responsibility
– The Drama Triangle & its relationship to conflict
– The power of dialogue

• Episode #100 – “From Drama Triangle to Circle of Empowerment”: Susan Partnow shares insights on the drama triangle and how to transform it into a circle of empowerment. Highlights of our conversation include:
– The 3 roles in the drama triangle & how they interact
– How to move from the drama triangle into the circle of empowerment
– How to invite others to join us in moving from the drama triangle into the circle of empowerment.

Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co-creating Peace! All episodes of Co-creating Peace can be found wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts and at: https://bridgesofpeace.com/podcast-co-creating-peace.

Please support Co-creating Peace:
• Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider
• Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching
• Share on social media & tell the world about Co-creating Peace!
• Become a patron at www.patreon.com/CocreatingPeace

Visit BridgesofPeace.com to learn more about me and my work.

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Beginning June 8th, you’ll hear new episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world. Mean...

05/12/2024

This is a great time to catch up on past episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world. (see updated list of suggested episodes below)

While I am taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace during April and May, I hope you will listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co Creating Peace with others.

Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:

· Episode #10 – “The ‘I’s Have It” This episode is about using “I-messages” to help you deliver information in a way that feels safe for others to hear by self-referencing when voicing our opinions or experiences, and avoiding “You-messages” which feel accusatory, such as “You make me so...!” or “You always....” I’ll also read a letter that I received from a couple of listeners and share with you the advice that I gave them, which directly relates to this topic.

• Episode #13 – “Conflict Is an Opportunity” How often have you thought of conflict as an opportunity? Most people don’t see conflict that way at all! In this episode, I’ll tell why you will find it helpful to seek and find the positive opportunity in every conflict in your life.

• Episode #14 – “If You Change the Way You Look at Things, the Things You Look at Change” This episode is part 1 of a 2-part series on re-framing. I will tell you about what I consider to be one of the most powerful tools I know for both peacemaking and psychological well-being: re-framing your perspective.

• Episode #15 – “How You Say It Affects How They See It” This episode is part 2 of a 2-part series on re-framing. In Episode #14, I told you about what I consider to be one of the most powerful tools I know for both peacemaking and psychological well-being: re-framing your perspective. In this episode, you’ll learn how to use re-framing in your communication to help you more skillfully navigate challenging communication and difficult conversations.

Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co-creating Peace! All episodes of Co-creating Peace can be found wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts and at: https://bridgesofpeace[.]com/podcast-co-creating-peace.

Please support Co-creating Peace:
• Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider
• Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching
• Share on social media & tell the world about Co-creating Peace!
• Become a patron at www.patreon[.]com/CocreatingPeace

Visit BridgesofPeace[.]com to learn more about me and my work.

This is a great time to catch up on past episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world....

04/29/2024

This is a great time to catch up on past episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world.

While I am taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace during April and May, I hope you will listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co Creating Peace with others. Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:

• Episode #6 – “I See You” on how to meaningfully acknowledge other people, their experiences and their perspectives

• Episode #7 – “What’s Your Style” which explores the different styles with which we approach conflict, and which is most likely to get your needs met

• Episode # 8 – “Don’t Believe Everything You Think” discusses our filters and assumptions, and the role they play in creating and fostering conflict. You will also learn about The Iroquois Rule of Six. In Episode #58, "Here Comes the Judge", I discuss more about this topic with Michael Lightweaver.

• Episode #11 – “Speak Their Language” brings to light the modalities with which each of us processes and communicates information, how that affects misunderstanding & conflict, and how mindfully communicating using another persons modality can build rapport

Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co Creating Peace!

Please support Co-creating Peace:
• Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider
• Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching
• Share on social media & tell the world about Co-creating Peace!
• Become a patron at www.patreon[.]com/CocreatingPeace

Visit https://bridgesofpeace[.]com/podcast-co-creating-peace to hear all episodes, and explore BridgesofPeace[.]com to learn more about me and my work.

This is a great time to catch up on past episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world....

04/15/2024

I hope you are enjoying Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world.

I will be taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace during April and May as I relocate my home and my sound studio. During that time, I hope you will listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co Creating Peace with others.

Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:
• Episode #2 is all about the structure of Conscious Communication
• Episode #3 provides insights into the Actions Iceberg, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs/Universal needs, in detail & with examples,
• Episode #4 teaches you about Needs-based negotiation
• Episode #5 tells you all about The Chain of Conflict and how to break it.

Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co Creating Peace!

03/25/2024

Do you sometimes wonder how you can contribute to world peace with everything else you have going on in your life? Listen to “Energy Ball for Peace Ceremony", Episode #137 of Co-creating Peace for a simple, yet powerful answer to that question!

Jeffrey Goldstein & I embark on an intriguing exploration of how each of us can harness the natural energy within us to foster peace & healing for ourselves & others. Jeffrey guides us through forming an energy ball, a technique using the healing energy inside each of us.

Join us as Jeffrey describes the Energy Ball for Peace ceremonies, which he has been using & teaching in Israel & Palestine for many years. These ceremonies harness the power of collective intention & the positive ripple effect that can create. Using this powerful tool, we can all contribute to a more united & peaceful world.

Jeffrey's vision of global harmony through individual & group energy work provides a beacon of hope in a world often divided. Listen deeply & you may discover new ways to channel your inner energy towards co-creating a more peaceful existence for all.

Highlights include:
• The healing energy within us all
• How to form & utilize an Energy Ball
• Exploring Energy Healing Techniques
• Transforming Energy for Positive Change

Jeffrey Goldstein SEP lives in Yefe Nof, Jerusalem, Israel. His professional focus is Body Oriented Trauma Therapy with a Spiritual Approach. Modalities are Attunement, Somatic Experiencing®, and EmotionAid®. He offers private sessions, classes, & trainings in Israel, Switzerland, USA, and online. He's a Dedicated Spiritual Peace activist with a strong desire to spread inner peace. He conducts Peace Vigils 2x/week since Oct. 7, 2024.

• Website: JeffGoldsteinAttuner[.]com
• E-mail: [email protected]
• Books: Energy Ball For Peace Ceremony: Personal Health & Global Blessing; Energy Ball: For Health & Spiritual Growth

Zoom offerings:
• Attunement Class Level 1: Nervous & Endocrine Systems – 4/1/24: 17:00 UTC/GMT & 4/2/24: 09:00 UTC/GMT
• Spiritual Resilience April 11: UTC/GMT
• Join Peace Vigils: Sun.: 20:15 UTC/GMT; Wed.: 17:00 UTC/GMT
• Safe~Peace Zoom gatherings Sundays: 19:00 UTC/GMT

IMPORTANT NOTE: I will be taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace during April and May, as I relocate my home and my sound studio. During that time, I hope you will listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co-creating Peace with others. Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co-creating Peace!

Welcome to “Energy Ball for Peace Ceremony".In this episode, Jeffrey Goldstein and I embark on an intriguing exploration of how each of us can harness the natural energy within us to foster peace and healing for ourselves and others. Jeffrey guide...