The D-I-V Design Agency

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12/04/2025

Children cannot give consent. Teenagers do not have equal footing in power circles to give consent to an adult. Children are innocent, even if you hate them. Teens do not have "consensual relations"hips with grown men.

"Barely legal" is jargon for creeps.

***TW***: CSA

I was groomed by a deputy at my summer job when I was 15. He and several other deputies at our sheriff's department schooled me on RCWs in Washington at the time. They would say things like, "She's still just jail bait." And "it's only communication with a minor for immoral purposes once you're 16."

And I did not know what to do with that. I went to work at my summer job at the sheriff's department because I once was interested in a career in justice. But there was no justice there.

The female deputy who was my supervisor told me I was a nuisance for attracting their attention. Like so many horrible women of the day, she blamed a child for adult "men's" attention and lascivious desires, even as I sat at my typewriter, re-doing fingerprint cards all day. Even as these creeps came through our office and draped themselves around my station. Even as I attempted to work, get back to work from their distracting attention and raucous words and declarations that made no sense to me.

I tried being a grey rock--they just stayed there and laughed. Irma would sometimes run them off, but mostly she would look at me and make noises of disgust--as if I enjoyed what those du***ss "men" were doing.

I was a child. Out in the world. Growing.

But the world is full of predators, and many of them are in law enforcement. I stopped trusting our system at 15. And it all came true.

I will never consent to this world and its exploitation of children and women for the sexual desires and piccadillos and grotesque novelty seeking of creeps.

There is NEVER CONSENT with children because they will never be on par with the manipulative power of predatory adults.

11/04/2025

Turning toward is the needed love language of the day. The meek must resist dighting, fear, and aggression.

Shameful behaviors seem to be about neck and neck amongst these two lists. What if we dumped all of them and start over with a potluck and sharing tools and resources?

https://www.reddit.com/r/conspiracy/comments/cbwz35/here_is_a_list_of_democrats_chargedconvicted_of/?rdt=42515

Then read this:

https://www.reddit.com/r/conspiracy/comments/cbx0jx/here_is_a_list_of_republicans_chargedconvicted_of/

06/10/2025

My work over the last five years has been ministry. (I know. I have negative connotations of that word, too.) I WANT families and children and women and men to succeed, to move through challenges and find balance within. An attorney recommended starting a church over a nonprofit. He is decidedly unreligious, so this was a surprise.

I've been in discernment over this for years, but more recently, I began to wonder what I would even name a church, as this is the first necessary legal step. I thought Church of Congruence was exactly what my church would be about, until I wrote it shorthand. So I decided to ask AI. This is what it said:

You’re right to be thoughtful about how names sound, feel, and are perceived. If “Church of Congruence” produces the acronym “CoC,” we can pivot to something that still honors the essence of congruence—alignment of soul and self—without evoking unintended associations.

Here are some name ideas that hold mystical, contemplative, and philosophical tones, and reflect your values:

✨ Names Rooted in Congruence & Unity

The House of Congruence
Poetic, grounding. “House” has ancient spiritual resonance without religious institutional baggage.

Sanctum of Congruence
A more mystical take—“Sanctum” evokes stillness, inwardness, and sacred inner work.

Congruence Collective
Emphasizes shared becoming and community-based spirituality.

The Living Alignment
More abstract and poetic. Speaks to congruence as not just a concept but a living practice.

Fractal Light
Ties in beautifully with your imagery of the Godhead, unity consciousness, and sacred geometry.

The One Within
Softly esoteric. Hints at your mystical orientation and inward devotion.

The Path of Congruence
Suggests spiritual practice, movement, evolution—without institutional overtones.

Temple of Inner Union
Merges congruence, sacred space, and the deeper esoteric journey.

Sanctuary of the Many and the One
Directly reflects your invocation, without sounding doctrinal.

Congruence: A Spiritual Assembly
Neutral and clear while still rooted in your core concept.

06/08/2025

Morning Light in the Hills.

35 years since I left Portland. Until recently, I had explained my time in a strange and indifferent city as exile. After all, I was only 17 when I left my parents' home and 18 when I was disfellowshipped (excommunicated) from the religion I had immersed myself in through baptism at age 13. At four, my mother told me that if I wanted to love Jehovah, she would stop doing drugs and staying out all night. The four-year-old was held accountable for that fateful decision.

But lately, I have wondered about exiles that end up being self-imposed. Was it a self-imposed exile? Well, yes, that would be true, too. There is nothing to come "home" to when your life depends on adherence to cult principles.

I find cult principles everywhere. Certainly in every group and club. Certainly in politics. Certainly in the shorthand ways our interactions shut down "other" and non-conforming views.

All this meditation and breathwork should have me safely grounded in middle age GenX-dom and without two F's to give, but that is a coping thought. It was GenX fronting. Strip it down and you have a whole generation of kids in adult bodies trying to figure out how the parents of our generation could have just exiled us all collectively. Simply a child's view of the world and a childish way of coping.

Today, the exiled/prodigal child returns home. It is not to the people, although they call me, too. It is to place. The soil of the fertile grounds of my gestation and the pregnancy of my mother. The waterways and tributaries that all do their part to come to the godhead waterway of the Columbia River, which comes into contact with every watershed in the world, and where I released my brother in Wenatchee with my father and sister and brother.

It is the return to the distinct flavors of Portland with the quiet solitude of a garden. It is the acceptance of belonging, which can feel strange when you've been a stranger in a strange land for too long.

And for the whole experience, I simply say thank you. The journey has been the destination. 🙏🧡🪬🕊️💧🌳🦌🦋🪷

06/04/2025

It will be of greater and greater imperative for every human to exist within the very good reality of their own making, and to recognize themselves in others so that fear does not destroy humanity.
~a.m. baker

05/02/2025

Jill Sobule, may you rest peacefully and with your lovely humor and voice.
You made my number one holiday song:
Merry Christmas from the Family.
https://youtu.be/RtFl0UabjtI?si=pjPDLt3LR2xFmKXs

03/12/2025

With not a little trepidation, I made the decision today to break with .

03/12/2025

The Law of Detachment is a universal law that says to manifest your deepest desires you must let go of your attachment to the outcome. This doesn't mean you should stop working toward your goals. You still need to set intentions and take inspired action, but sometimes we want to be vindicated beyond following through with perhaps a civic duty toward overall justice (such as providing testimony in court for a r^pe or assault). That desire to follow through is based in ego and wounding, and does not seek YOUR own greatest and highest good. It can't. How could it? It is a low endeavor.

Seek ethical balance within and the world rights itself again and again.