12/29/2021
Goodbye, 2021.
I always feel a mix of emotions this time of year—exhaustion after finally slowing down, some disappointment about what didn’t get accomplished, wonder at what might be possible in the coming year, and a little nostalgia as time marches on.
One thing that helps me release and realign is to do a ritual. I do this every year around New Year's Eve to help me see the bigger picture, celebrate what I’ve learned, and reset my compass.
I wanted to offer it to you, too.
Find some paper and a pen (this really does require paper and not a digital device, because at the end you will burn it) and a safe place for a small fire. Here are the questions:
1. What am I celebrating this year?
Make a list of everything you did this year. Small successes, new skills, things that were hard for you—put it all on the list.
This helps me reframe things when I am being hard on myself or focusing only on the things that brought the most tears.
This year, I walked away from a lucrative job opportunity to follow my heart and my integrity, re-started my business, and took on my first corporate client, which turned out to be one of my favorite projects all year! (I also got married! Not the big wedding we planned pre-COVID, but a beautiful ceremony barefoot on the beach with lots of champagne. Hiccup.)
2. What do I want to manifest this year? What do I want to let go of?
Instead of putting the pressure on yourself to make massive changes, I like to draw a line down a piece of paper with two columns: What do I want more of, and what do I want to let go of. Where am I getting in my own way and what is no longer serving me?
On my manifestation list this year is to surround myself with people who have already accomplished the things I dream of, so that my unconscious brain can witness it, and to spend less time with people who make me feel small. And on my list of things to let go of, the negative self-talk that keeps me from speaking up more about social impact and philanthropy.
3. Where am I playing small and how am I complacent in the things in my life that I do not want?
Accountability and honesty are hard. They are also essential in charting your path forward. This list isn’t an exercise in judgment or shame—it’s about course correcting. What were the moments when you could have spoken up, but you stayed quiet? When were their times when you could have used your influence differently, but you chose to play it safe? When did you let someone else choose for you?
After answering these questions, how will you walk differently into 2022? How will you step forward and create a life of joy, justice and hope?
I do this ritual every year with loved ones, and after we make our lists we burn them in a ceremonial fire (usually my fireplace or an outdoor firepit, but one time in a trash can to represent the dumpster fire that was that year…) and release it into the air.
Here's to an amazing 2022!