Envision Resolution Conflict Management Services, LLC

07/24/2024

"This is my ex wife and her husband.
Our 3 kids and their 2 kids.
Tonight they invited me over for dinner.
5 years ago she and I had to have a police es**rt just to pick up and drop off our kids.
We only communicated through lawyers.
I wanted to punch her boyfriend (now her husband).
Tonight we broke bread, laughed, played with the kids and had a great evening.
Never give up friends.
PEACE is a choice.
It's YOUR choice.
Not THEIR choice.
"Yea but he does..."
"Yea but she does..."
What your ex does is IRRELEVANT.
YOU CHOOSE how and what you say.
YOU CHOOSE how and what you do.
Even when they are trying to fight with you.
ESPECIALLY when they are trying to fight with you.
CHOOSE to create PEACE by LIVING PEACEFULLY."

Credit Goes To : Whalen

12/12/2022

I remember very clearly a discussion with my priest when contemplating a separation from my spouse. I didn’t want my kids to learn that promises didn’t matter, and that quitting was OK. He very clearly said, ‘no matter what you do you’ll be teaching your kids something. If you stay in an unhealthy marriage, you teach them that bad relationships should be tolerated.’ Padre dropped some profound wisdom that day.

If you stay in a marriage, it’s your responsibility to your children to commit to doing everything you can to make it better. If you can’t do that, or you try and it doesn’t work, it’s your responsibility to decide to model healthy coparenting throughout and after your separation or divorce.

The foundation for that lies in pledging to reach agreement on your parenting plan and separation contract through collaborative mediation, and avoiding litigation. It is so important during this time to practice self-care and allow everyone involved time to heal. Ideally, that includes establishing a relationship with a good therapist.

The stats are stacked against adult kids of divorced parents. Good thing you're not a statistic!

04/28/2021

There are several parenting schedules that can work very well for families. The mediation process allows divorcing parents the opportunity to decide together the ideal residential schedule for their children. Shielding the children from parental conflict, and normalizing the new routine are equally important factors in assisting kids to do well with having two homes. This mother developed a nice tool to help her daughter with transitions.

A calendar made by a California mom to coordinate how her daughter splits time between two households is having viral moment on TikTok.

11/26/2019

Very interesting read. I view these observations as being consistent with the rise in the number of gray divorces we are seeing.

Some of these women completely forego dating while others opt for ‘living apart together’ (LAT) arrangements, in which partners in committed relationships choose to keep separate residences

04/30/2019

Divorce negotiations are never easy, and they became more complicated this year, thanks to the tax overhaul. Here are four tips for taxpayers to consider.

03/02/2019

“The first principle is that you must not fool yourself – and you are the easiest person to fool.”
— Richard Feynman

01/28/2019

Differing perspectives are inherent in every dispute. A professional family mediator provides a process and environment which allows parties to share, listen, and contemplate those perspectives. That in turn creates the foundation for effective interest based negotiation, and durable settlement agreements.

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01/20/2019

I was trying to find the secret to strong relationships between girls and their dads. Three things were raised repeatedly and backed by experts.

01/11/2019

American society has branded marriage as an institution of love, and yet we cling to old-fashioned narratives about divorce. Astro Teller and Danielle Teller argue that this is harmful to individua…

01/10/2019

Family comes first for a couple, even after separation. Their advice? “Have compassion for each other and don’t say anything to the kids until you have a plan.”