Hart to Heart Coaching

01/18/2026

So often this is how it starts…at least this has been my experience. Suddenly I noticed — I’m not anxious right now. That pit that I’d felt in my stomach most of my life just wasn’t there. And simply noticing it brought so much gratitude. It really didn’t matter that it might be there again later - it was awesome to not have it for a few minutes. Over time those minutes have stretched into hours and even days.

01/04/2026

Moving at the speed of trust

As therapists, we often hold a rare kind of clarity. From this vantage point, the shape of a client’s suffering can feel almost timeless. We see the parts carrying the weight, sense the pathways toward healing, and at the same time hold an awareness of the client as already whole. Some therapists also attune to the ancestral currents in the room, perceiving how inherited stories and survival patterns weave themselves into the present moment.

And yet, this is where the central tension of healing lives: the gap between seeing the truth and the client’s readiness to receive it.

Truth offered too soon can feel confusing. Even when an insight is accurate, delivered prematurely it can rupture rather than liberate, like breaking a cocoon from the outside. If structures dissolve before a client has built the inner strength to stand on their own, the result may be collapse not freedom. The client may take on our words and metaphors, but the change remains surface-level.

This is where upaya (skilful means) becomes essential. It is the ability to meet the client exactly where they are. It asks us to hold the full breadth of our understanding while offering only what can be metabolized now. The nervous system has a pace for truth - too much or too fast and it simply turns away.

Working at the speed of the slowest part honours the intelligence of resistance. Every defence once kept someone safe. Every place of stuckness once served as shelter. When we meet clients where they are we cultivate trust, and trust sets the pace.

In this kind of slowness, the therapist stops shaping and starts tending. We are not forcing emergence, we are creating the conditions that allow it to unfold safely. Mastery in this work is less about insight and more about patience. The most lasting change grows from the inside out, guided by its own timing and illuminated by its own light.

Laura Patyaras

01/04/2026

“I climbed inside my soul and sat beside my heart and sang her a lullaby.

I sang with all the love of all the grandmothers through all times.

I sang lamentations and I sang exaltations.

I held my heart like I would hold a newborn, precious, tender, vulnerable, wide open to receiving the love of the universe.

I sang my heart a lullaby and I ask her for her forgiveness for the pain and sorrows that had climbed inside and had hidden from me.

I sang a love song to the child’s heart that came into this world, wide eyed, innocent, longing to be seen, held and loved.

I sang to the old woman’s heart that had endured, that had been betrayed and betrayed, that had loved and lost love.

I sang to the strength of that heart that keeps on beating to the rhythm of the eternal heart beat.

May all sorrows that need to climb their way out of your heart, flow into a river of tears, that gush like a rushing river carving new wrinkles upon your brow, a holy rite of passage, scarification, marking endings, honoring mysteries yet to be born.

May your heart know peace, compassion and love in this New Year.”

~ Reda Rackley

01/03/2026

12/18/2025

So often people seem to think that we shouldn’t feel sad, mad or scared. The reality is feeling the full range of emotions is healthy and a sign of being awake!! And my hope for my clients is that they feel it all and can pause, check in with their parts and not just react. Being Self Led means we can listen inside and choose to pause or respond instead of being driven by our emotions.

12/08/2025

Imagination is a very powerful neuroplastic agent.
So the work that we do in IFS – which is very much imaginary – absolutely has neurophysiological effects on neural networks on the brain and on the body. It's a beautiful intersection between psychotherapy and neuroscience. - Frank Anderson