Hart to Heart Coaching

01/18/2026

So often this is how it starts…at least this has been my experience. Suddenly I noticed — I’m not anxious right now. That pit that I’d felt in my stomach most of my life just wasn’t there. And simply noticing it brought so much gratitude. It really didn’t matter that it might be there again later - it was awesome to not have it for a few minutes. Over time those minutes have stretched into hours and even days.

01/04/2026

Moving at the speed of trust

As therapists, we often hold a rare kind of clarity. From this vantage point, the shape of a client’s suffering can feel almost timeless. We see the parts carrying the weight, sense the pathways toward healing, and at the same time hold an awareness of the client as already whole. Some therapists also attune to the ancestral currents in the room, perceiving how inherited stories and survival patterns weave themselves into the present moment.

And yet, this is where the central tension of healing lives: the gap between seeing the truth and the client’s readiness to receive it.

Truth offered too soon can feel confusing. Even when an insight is accurate, delivered prematurely it can rupture rather than liberate, like breaking a cocoon from the outside. If structures dissolve before a client has built the inner strength to stand on their own, the result may be collapse not freedom. The client may take on our words and metaphors, but the change remains surface-level.

This is where upaya (skilful means) becomes essential. It is the ability to meet the client exactly where they are. It asks us to hold the full breadth of our understanding while offering only what can be metabolized now. The nervous system has a pace for truth - too much or too fast and it simply turns away.

Working at the speed of the slowest part honours the intelligence of resistance. Every defence once kept someone safe. Every place of stuckness once served as shelter. When we meet clients where they are we cultivate trust, and trust sets the pace.

In this kind of slowness, the therapist stops shaping and starts tending. We are not forcing emergence, we are creating the conditions that allow it to unfold safely. Mastery in this work is less about insight and more about patience. The most lasting change grows from the inside out, guided by its own timing and illuminated by its own light.

Laura Patyaras

01/04/2026

“I climbed inside my soul and sat beside my heart and sang her a lullaby.

I sang with all the love of all the grandmothers through all times.

I sang lamentations and I sang exaltations.

I held my heart like I would hold a newborn, precious, tender, vulnerable, wide open to receiving the love of the universe.

I sang my heart a lullaby and I ask her for her forgiveness for the pain and sorrows that had climbed inside and had hidden from me.

I sang a love song to the child’s heart that came into this world, wide eyed, innocent, longing to be seen, held and loved.

I sang to the old woman’s heart that had endured, that had been betrayed and betrayed, that had loved and lost love.

I sang to the strength of that heart that keeps on beating to the rhythm of the eternal heart beat.

May all sorrows that need to climb their way out of your heart, flow into a river of tears, that gush like a rushing river carving new wrinkles upon your brow, a holy rite of passage, scarification, marking endings, honoring mysteries yet to be born.

May your heart know peace, compassion and love in this New Year.”

~ Reda Rackley

01/03/2026

12/18/2025

So often people seem to think that we shouldn’t feel sad, mad or scared. The reality is feeling the full range of emotions is healthy and a sign of being awake!! And my hope for my clients is that they feel it all and can pause, check in with their parts and not just react. Being Self Led means we can listen inside and choose to pause or respond instead of being driven by our emotions.

12/08/2025

Imagination is a very powerful neuroplastic agent.
So the work that we do in IFS – which is very much imaginary – absolutely has neurophysiological effects on neural networks on the brain and on the body. It's a beautiful intersection between psychotherapy and neuroscience. - Frank Anderson

11/18/2025

COPIED

“My parents beat me as a child and I am not traumatized," said the man whose ex-partner reported him for physical violence.

"When I was a child they left me crying alone until I fell asleep and it was so bad I did not go out," said the man who spends long hours in social networks, affecting his sleep.

"They punished me as a child and I'm fine," said the man who, every time he makes a mistake, says to himself words of contempt, as a form of self-punishment.

"As a child, they put a heavy hand on me and I suffer from a trauma called 'education'," said the woman who still does not understand why all of her partners end up being aggressive.

"When I became capricious as a child, my father locked me in a room alone to learn and today I appreciate it," said the woman who has suffered anxiety attacks and can not explain why she is so afraid of being locked in small spaces .

"My parents told me they were going to leave me alone or give me to a stranger when I did my tantrums and I do not have traumas," said the woman who has prayed for love and has forgiven repeated infidelities so as not to feel abandoned

"My parents controlled me with just the look and see how well I came out," said the woman who can not maintain eye contact with figures of 'authority' without feeling intimidated.

"As a child, I got even with the iron cable and today I am a good man, even professional," said the man his neighbors have accused the police for drunk hitting objects and yelling at his wife.

"My parents forced me to study a career that would make me money, and see how well off I am," said the man who dreams of Friday every day because he is desperate in his work doing something every day that is not what he always wanted.

"When I was little they forced me to sit down until all the food was finished and they even force fed me, not like those permissive parents" affirmed the woman who does not understand why she could not have a healthy relationship with food and in her adolescence came to develop an eating disorder.

"My mother taught me to respect her good chancletazos to the point," said the woman who smokes 5 ci******es a day to control her anxiety.

"I thank my mom and my dad for every blow and every punishment, because, if not, who knows what would happen to me," said the man who has never been able to have a healthy relationship, and whose son constantly lies to him because he has fear.

And so we go through life, listening to people claiming to be good people without trauma, but paradoxically, in a society full of violence and wounded people.

*COPIED*

Here's a path forward:

1️⃣ Recognition: The first step is to acknowledge the existence of trauma and its impact on your life. This can be challenging, but remember, you're not alone.

2️⃣ Seek Support: Reach out to mental health professionals, join support groups, or connect with trusted individuals who can help you navigate this journey.

3️⃣ Gentle Parenting: As parents or future parents, we have the power to change the narrative. Gentle parenting focuses on understanding, empathy, and respect, replacing punitive measures with loving guidance.

4️⃣ Nonviolent Communication: Incorporate the OFNR approach - Observe, Feel, Need, Request. This promotes open, empathetic, and effective communication, helping to resolve conflicts and build stronger relationships.

5️⃣ Self-Care and Self-Love: Prioritize your well-being. Practice mindfulness, meditation, and physical activities that you enjoy. Love yourself unconditionally, for you are deserving of love and happiness.

6️⃣ Spiritual Practices: Engage in spiritual practices that resonate with you. It could be yoga, prayer, energy healing, or simply spending time in nature. These practices can help you connect with your inner self and the greater cosmic energy.

Remember, healing is not a destination, it's a journey. Each step you take towards breaking the cycle of generational trauma brings you closer to peace, love, and self-realization. As we heal ourselves, we heal the world.

We're all in this together, growing, healing, and transforming. Let's continue to support and uplift each other on this journey. 🌱💛🌍

*COPIED*

11/07/2025

Great training with the IFS Institute today!!

11/05/2025

I've excited to be headed to Portland to spend a couple of days with the Founder of Internal Family Systems, Dr. Richard Schwartz and his AMAZING partner and wife Dr. Jeanne Catanzaro. (Don't tell Dick but I think I'm a Jeanne fan girl). It is truly amazing to sit in the room full of people who are interested in learning how to live their lives led by Self -- instead of their Parts (which is often referred to as the Ego in other modalities). I'm so grateful I was exposed to this modality -- it has been life changing for me and has improved my life in pretty much every way possible.

I love that I wasn't looking for IFS -- I was looking for help in a particularly dark night of my soul. I found (through the help of a friend) a therapist and started working with him. I knew he was Hakomi trained and had also studied the Course in Miracles -- but I didn't know anything about IFS. After months of working together -- and him patiently and compassionately meeting all of my resistance and the story that I had -- which was that I was BROKEN -- I started to experience something different. At first I thought he was a great meditation coach because I would experience so much CALM, CLARITY and self COMPASSION in our sessions. I was telling a friend about it and she clued me in that it just might be IFS. When I looked it up I found out that is exactly what it was -- with a strong HAKOMI flavor. I got so excited about it I jumped in with both feet and listened to everything I could about it. Eventually I decided to pursue IFS training and continued to learn everything I could about this amazing model -- because after years of therapy, 12-step work, meditation retreats, shamans and everything else -- I was experiencing healing and peace I'd never felt before. It has become my spiritual practice and I'm so incredibly grateful!!!

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10/31/2025

The consistency of attuned connection — heals!!