01/03/2023
Know when you belong in a room and never let anyone tell you differently. I’ve been there, present by invitation, validated by the confidence of people that matter, by the people who are in the know, by the decision makers. Accepted before I arrived and welcomed by everyone, everyone except that one cynic, the person least qualified to speak looks at you with irrelevance, offers a cold shrug, and asks “Why are you here?” The cynic doesn’t know why you are in the room, or why you were even invited, this is because like everyone else who is pompous, they look to see your credentials on your forehead and some affirmation on your chest. Their vision isn’t good enough to see that confidence that you stepped in the room with, their senses aren’t sharp enough to feel how your presence added to the stature in the room.
Know when you belong in a room, speak with confidence, walk with confidence, know why you are there, listen keenly to the other qualified leaders in the room, learn as they speak and add value when you do. Leaders find the qualities that are useful in others, they seek reasons to qualify not disqualify. Leaders are self- critical and self-admonishing, What they ARE NOT is self-deprecative, they don’t have to say it, their very aura will tell you, “pay attention long enough and you will know my name”.