05/06/2026
Some of the most difficult stories I hear from clients are about their experiences with abuse in the workplace. Most of my own workplace trauma comes from toxic and hostile work environments.
Toxic behavior can come from supervisors, leadership, and even coworkers. It could even be you.
Here’s what I know after working across government, nonprofits, startups, and corporations:
🚩 Toxicity is a system, not a personality quirk. The same playbook runs in every sector: gaslighting, credit-stealing, public humiliation, manufactured urgency, etc. Different logo, same script.
🚩 Toxic managers fail up because the cost is invisible. They hit numbers, charm their way up the chain, and ignore the wreckage (burnout, turnover, legal risk).
🚩 Discrimination wears a lot of faces. Implicit bias, explicit bias, sexism, ageism, homophobia. Sometimes it’s a joke. Sometimes it’s a pattern. Both are real, and both do damage.
🚩 Document everything with dates and details. Find your allies before you need them. Name the behavior, not just the person. And know when it’s time to go.
🚩 What you’re feeling is not weakness, it’s wiring. Workplace trauma keeps your nervous system on high alert long after you’ve left. The symptoms look like anxiety or burnout. The symptoms can manifest physically (extreme weight loss or weight gain, hair loss, headaches, indigestion). Most people never connect the ailments back to the job.
🚩 Screen the workplace before you say yes. Watch how they treat a junior colleague. Ask why the last person left. Talk to people who left on their own terms. The answers will tell you everything.
🚩 Don’t be the one causing it. Do a real self-audit: Are you giving credit? Are people walking on eggshells around you? Are you telling hard truths or just comfortable ones? This is ongoing work, not a one-time check.
What’s one thing you wish you’d known earlier about surviving (or spotting) a toxic workplace? Have you survived a toxic boss, colleague, or work environment? How did you overcome the challenge?