09/23/2026
Happy Bi Visibility Day, from our founder, Liz.
Happy Bi Visibility Day!
Yes, I met a young man as a freshman in college, and we eventually got married and raised a family. AND I always knew that I had the capacity to love and be attracted to a person regardless of sex/gender.
Those who know me well know that I only finally really acknowledged it to myself and then publicly around the age of 35 because of the work I was doing and the understanding that , but nothing about who I married changes who I am or how I was created.
I occasionally get asked, "Why did/do you come out?" or "What does it matter if you're bi/pan/queer if you're married to a man?" in a way that sounds like, "Why do we need to know your sexual orientation? It doesn't even matter because you're married to a man."
And well, the answer for me is pretty simple. In my work, I realized visibility and .
It matters for the bi/pan/queer kid who needs to be able to see themselves as a whole, authentic grown adult, ideally also healthy, happy, successful and loved no matter WHO they love.
It matters because I/we/the world needs you to know that we're EVERYWHERE, all the time.
We're your restaurant servers, computer consultants, custodians, wheat harvest summer help, educators and consultants. (Yes, all jobs I've had.)
We're you're kids and grandkids, your cousins, your neighbors, your work colleagues, your clients and your patients.
We're in sports, in the bleachers at kids' games, in board rooms, in PTAs and in other professional meetings with you.
It matters because we need you to *really understand* that it's past time to stop assuming that everyone is straight and help us dismantle the heteronormativity default that causes harm to everyone who doesn't fit in that small category.
Get it now? It's simple, right? 🙂
[Images is a headshot photo of me, a white woman with medium brown, below-shoulder-length, wavy hair over one shoulder with a bit of purple peeking out at the bottom. I'm wearing a black blouse with white pin stripes, glasses, and smiling at the camera. The photo is in a graphic in a circle of gold rings and gold sparkles on a black background.]