10/15/2026
If your loved one answers every question with "I'm fine," you are not alone. It is the most common sentence I hear from families all across the Peninsula, and October is when a lot of them start wondering whether to bring it up before the holidays.
A few things I have seen work.
Start with what you noticed, not what you think they should do. "I saw the pill box was still full on Thursday, and it worried me" lands very differently than "we think you need help."
Pick a calm moment, not a crisis. Ask what they are worried about, because they usually have a list of their own. And plan on more than one conversation. The first one just opens the door.
You do not need the answer before you start talking. If it would help to think through how to begin, or what comes after, I am glad to sit down with you.
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