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🎶 COMPOSERS & MUSIC CREATORS…THIS ONE IS FOR YOU! 🎶My colleagues (and current Creative Evolutions client!) at Third Coas...
10/13/2026

🎶 COMPOSERS & MUSIC CREATORS…THIS ONE IS FOR YOU! 🎶

My colleagues (and current Creative Evolutions client!) at Third Coast Percussion are seeking a music creator for their Currents Creative Partnership! 🙌🏾

And here's what I LOVE: This isn't just about commissioning music. It's about investing in a creative relationship that encourages exploration, experimentation, and GROWTH!

🎵 NO APPLICATION FEE!
📅 DEADLINE: OCTOBER 31, 2026
💰 $2,500 honorarium
✈️ Travel reimbursement: Up to $1,000 domestic / $1,500 international

So here's my ask:
👉🏾 TAG A COMPOSER!
👉🏾 SHARE WITH YOUR NETWORKS!
👉🏾 OPEN A DOOR FOR SOMEONE ELSE!

🎶 COMPOSERS & MUSIC CREATORS…THIS ONE IS FOR YOU! 🎶What if we invested in artists the way we invest in entrepreneurs? 👀N...
10/13/2026

🎶 COMPOSERS & MUSIC CREATORS…THIS ONE IS FOR YOU! 🎶
What if we invested in artists the way we invest in entrepreneurs? 👀
Not just celebrating their brilliance, but giving them the TIME, SPACE, RESOURCES, and RELATIONSHIPS to create something extraordinary!

Well, here's an opportunity worth sharing! 🙌🏾

My colleagues (and current Creative Evolutions client!) at Third Coast Percussion are looking for a music creator for their Currents Creative Partnership!

What I LOVE about this opportunity is that it's about more than commissioning a new work. It's about building a creative relationship that allows an artist to explore, experiment, and GROW!

🎼 THE OPPORTUNITY:�✨ The opportunity to collaborate with an incredible ensemble�✨ Participate in 3 in-person creative workshops�✨ Develop a NEW work to be performed during the 2027–2028 Chicago Concert Season!

🎵 NO APPLICATION FEE!�📅 DEADLINE: OCTOBER 31, 2026!
💰 💰 💰 -$2,500 honorarium
�✈️ Up to $1,000 domestic / $1,500 international travel reimbursement�

We have to stop asking artists to simply survive and start creating ecosystems where they can actually THRIVE! 💜

Here's my ask:
👉🏾 TAG A COMPOSER!�
👉🏾 SHARE THIS WITH OTHER ORGS AND INSTITUTIONS�
👉🏾 SEND THIS TO SOMEONE WHO NEEDS TO SEE IT!

Sometimes opening a door for someone else is as simple as saying, "I thought of you when I saw this."
🔗 Application details: LINK IN BIO (or visit Third Coast Percussion's website!)
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We Teach Girls to Be Good, Then Wonder Why They Struggle to Choose Themselves.The “good girl” is familiar in many homes....
10/13/2026

We Teach Girls to Be Good, Then Wonder Why They Struggle to Choose Themselves.

The “good girl” is familiar in many homes. She respects her elders, helps without being asked, and knows when to swallow her words. Respect is important, but when does teaching a girl to respect others become teaching her to disregard herself?

A girl can learn good manners without believing her opinions are an inconvenience. Yet when she repeatedly hears that a respectable woman endures, a good daughter obeys, and a proper woman considers what people will say, she may eventually stop asking whether the things she is expected to accept are fair.

Look at the woman told to endure a difficult marriage to protect her home. The daughter expected to forgive an offence because the person who hurt her is older. The employee who does the work of three people but fears asking for better pay lest she appear ungrateful.

Different situations, one troubling lesson: a woman’s goodness is measured by how much discomfort she can absorb without making others uncomfortable.

And when she finally speaks up, she is proud, disrespectful, or has forgotten where she came from. We celebrate the daughter who sacrifices for her family, but do we celebrate her when she makes a decision her family dislikes?

This is not an argument against respect, family, or culture. It is an argument against expectations that demand a woman’s silence in exchange for belonging. Respect should not require her to accept injustice. Patience should not be a virtue demanded only of the person with the least power.

Perhaps when we call a girl “good,” we should ask more than whether she obeys. Can she recognise unfairness? Can she disagree without feeling guilty? Can she love her family without surrendering herself?
Our daughters should inherit our values, not our unexamined silences.





We Teach Girls to Be Good, Then Wonder Why They Struggle to Choose Themselves.The “good girl” is a familiar figure in ma...
10/13/2026

We Teach Girls to Be Good, Then Wonder Why They Struggle to Choose Themselves.

The “good girl” is a familiar figure in many homes. She greets her elders properly, does not answer back, helps without being asked, and knows when to swallow her words. In many families, respect is an important value, and rightly so. But there is a question we do not ask often enough: when does teaching a girl to respect other people become teaching her to disregard herself? A child can learn good manners without learning that her own opinions are an inconvenience. The danger begins when these two things become indistinguishable.

Growing up, a girl may hear that a well-brought-up daughter does not raise her voice at her parents, that a respectable woman knows how to endure, or that she must consider what people will say before making certain decisions. These expectations are not always imposed with cruelty. Sometimes, they come from parents who genuinely want their daughters to be accepted and protected in a society that judges women harshly. Yet good intentions do not erase consequences. When a girl is repeatedly rewarded for her silence, she may eventually stop asking whether she agrees with what she is expected to accept.

Consider the woman who is told to endure a difficult marriage to protect her home, while the man is rarely asked to demonstrate the same capacity for sacrifice. Consider the daughter expected to forgive an offence because the person who hurt her is older. Consider the female employee who does the work of three people but hesitates to ask for better pay because she does not want to appear ungrateful. These situations are different, but they can share a troubling lesson: a woman's goodness is measured by how much discomfort she can absorb without making other people uncomfortable.

And when she finally objects, the language changes. She has become proud. She is no longer humble. She has forgotten where she came from. Sometimes, she is accused of having been corrupted by education or independence. Notice how quickly a woman's growth can be recast as a character defect when it threatens an arrangement that benefits everyone except her. We celebrate the daughter who makes sacrifices for her family, but do we celebrate her when she makes a decision her family dislikes? We praise the woman who keeps a marriage together, but do we ask what the marriage is doing to her?

None of this means we should abandon respect, family responsibility, or the values that hold communities together. It means those values deserve honest examination. Respect should not require a woman to accept injustice. Family loyalty should not depend on her silence. And patience should not become a virtue demanded exclusively of the person with the least power. We can honour our cultures without pretending that every expectation handed down to us is fair. Tradition is part of our inheritance; so is the responsibility to question what causes harm.

Perhaps the question we should ask when we call a girl “a good girl” is not simply whether she listens, obeys, or behaves well. It is whether she is learning to recognise unfairness, express disagreement, and make decisions without believing she has betrayed everyone who raised her. I want us to raise daughters who know how to respect other people without being afraid of them, who can love their families without surrendering themselves, and who understand that being a good woman does not mean being an endlessly accommodating one. Our daughters should inherit our values, not our unexamined silences.





Last Week Happened. It Does Not Get to Decide What Happens Next.A new week begins another stretch of our lives, but we d...
10/12/2026

Last Week Happened. It Does Not Get to Decide What Happens Next.

A new week begins another stretch of our lives, but we don't always enter it with the freedom we imagine. We bring Friday’s disappointment into Monday morning: the email that never came, the opportunity that went to someone else, the work that consumed our time but produced little we can point to. Somewhere between making breakfast and opening our laptops, we begin to expect less of ourselves. We have not tried anything this week, yet we are already preparing ourselves for disappointment.

There is something particularly painful about trying sincerely and having so little to show for it. It is one thing to fail at something you barely attempted; it is another to give something your time, intelligence, and hope, only to find yourself exactly where you started. People rarely talk about the private embarrassment of this. You tell your friends you are fine. You go to work. You answer messages. Meanwhile, you wonder whether all this effort shows persistence or that you are getting something terribly wrong.

Sometimes, you are getting something wrong. Perhaps the approach is not working. Perhaps you need to learn something, ask for help, or stop pouring yourself into an opportunity that has repeatedly shown you what it can offer. But there is a difference between recognising a mistake and deciding that you are the mistake. One invites you to think; the other teaches you to shrink.

Psychologically, repeated disappointment can shape our expectations. We begin anticipating rejection before submitting the application, failure before beginning the project, conflict before having the conversation. We call this realism, sometimes, when it is actually yesterday’s pain making predictions about tomorrow. Experience deserves our attention, but it does not possess the authority to predict every outcome.

And so, Monday does not require you to arrive overflowing with confidence. You may still be tired from last week. You may have questions you cannot yet answer. Begin there. Revisit the proposal. Improve the application. Have the conversation you postponed. Change the strategy where necessary.

Last Week Happened. It Does Not Get to Decide What Happens Next.A new week begins another stretch of our lives, but we d...
10/12/2026

Last Week Happened. It Does Not Get to Decide What Happens Next.

A new week begins another stretch of our lives, but we don't always enter it with the freedom we imagine. We bring Friday’s disappointment into Monday morning: the email that never came, the opportunity that went to someone else, the work that consumed our time but produced little we can point to. Somewhere between making breakfast and opening our laptops, we begin to expect less of ourselves. We have not tried anything this week, yet we are already preparing ourselves for disappointment.

There is something particularly painful about trying sincerely and having so little to show for it. It is one thing to fail at something you barely attempted; it is another to give something your time, intelligence, and hope, only to find yourself exactly where you started. People rarely talk about the private embarrassment of this. You tell your friends you are fine. You go to work. You answer messages. Meanwhile, you wonder whether all this effort shows persistence or that you are getting something terribly wrong.

Sometimes, you are getting something wrong. Perhaps the approach is not working. Perhaps you need to learn something, ask for help, or stop pouring yourself into an opportunity that has repeatedly shown you what it can offer. But there is a difference between recognising a mistake and deciding that you are the mistake. One invites you to think; the other teaches you to shrink.

Psychologically, repeated disappointment can shape our expectations. We begin anticipating rejection before submitting the application, failure before beginning the project, conflict before having the conversation. We call this realism, sometimes, when it is actually yesterday’s pain making predictions about tomorrow. Experience deserves our attention, but it does not possess the authority to predict every outcome.

And so, Monday does not require you to arrive overflowing with confidence. You may still be tired from last week. You may have questions you cannot yet answer. Begin there. Revisit the proposal. Improve the application. Have the conversation you postponed. Change the strategy where necessary. There is no wisdom in repeating what failed without reflection, but neither is there wisdom in abandoning possibility because one attempt hurt. Last week happened. Let it teach you something. But do not let it make decisions for a week that has not even had the chance to begin.





WE GOT THROUGH THE WEEK. BUT DID WE ACTUALLY LIVE IT?Spending time and living it are two different things. Spending time...
10/09/2026

WE GOT THROUGH THE WEEK. BUT DID WE ACTUALLY LIVE IT?

Spending time and living it are two different things. Spending time is what happens when we move from one obligation to another, answering emails, meeting deadlines, solving problems, and keeping promises. Living time is something else. It is being conscious of the life unfolding while we manage it. The troubling part is that we can spend an entire week doing everything expected of us and still feel strangely absent from our own lives.

Adulthood has a way of making this absence look respectable. We call it discipline, ambition, responsibility, and hard work. Sometimes, it is all of these things. Bills must be paid, careers must be built, and people depend on us. But somewhere along the way, we can become so accustomed to postponing ourselves that we stop noticing what we are postponing. We will rest when the project is done, enjoy ourselves when the money comes, and spend proper time with loved ones when work becomes less demanding. There is always another condition to satisfy.

And work is particularly good at making this arrangement seem reasonable. There is measurable satisfaction in clearing an inbox, completing a task, or watching a project move forward. But how do we measure the conversation we were too distracted to have, the laughter we barely noticed, or the person who stopped telling us things because we were always too busy to listen? Our achievements leave records. Some of our most important losses leave none.

This is not an argument against productivity. For many people, slowing down is a privilege their circumstances cannot afford. It is, rather, a question of whether our responsibilities have become so consuming that we recognise our lives only through what they demand from us. Being tired after a meaningful day is different from being exhausted by days we barely remember.

That is why Friday deserves more than the excitement of finishing work. It offers a small opportunity to look back without immediately planning what comes next. Before the weekend becomes another schedule of errands, obligations, and preparation for Monday, perhaps we should ask what this week gave us.

WE GOT THROUGH THE WEEK. BUT DID WE ACTUALLY LIVE IT?Spending time and living it are two different things. Spending time...
10/09/2026

WE GOT THROUGH THE WEEK. BUT DID WE ACTUALLY LIVE IT?

Spending time and living it are two different things. Spending time is what happens when we move from one obligation to another, answering emails, meeting deadlines, solving problems, and keeping promises. Living time is something else. It is being conscious of the life unfolding while we manage it. The troubling part is that we can spend an entire week doing everything expected of us and still feel strangely absent from our own lives.

Adulthood has a way of making this absence look respectable. We call it discipline, ambition, responsibility, and hard work. Sometimes, it is all of these things. Bills must be paid, careers must be built, and people depend on us. But somewhere along the way, we can become so accustomed to postponing ourselves that we stop noticing what we are postponing. We will rest when the project is done, enjoy ourselves when the money comes, and spend proper time with loved ones when work becomes less demanding. There is always another condition to satisfy.

And work is particularly good at making this arrangement seem reasonable. There is measurable satisfaction in clearing an inbox, completing a task, or watching a project move forward. But how do we measure the conversation we were too distracted to have, the laughter we barely noticed, or the person who stopped telling us things because we were always too busy to listen? Our achievements leave records. Some of our most important losses leave none.

This is not an argument against productivity. For many people, slowing down is a privilege their circumstances cannot afford. It is, rather, a question of whether our responsibilities have become so consuming that we recognise our lives only through what they demand from us. Being tired after a meaningful day is different from being exhausted by days we barely remember.

That is why Friday deserves more than the excitement of finishing work. It offers a small opportunity to look back without immediately planning what comes next. Before the weekend becomes another schedule of errands, obligations, and preparation for Monday, perhaps we should ask what this week gave us beyond its completed tasks. When you look back at the week, will you remember only what you accomplished, or can you name moments when you were genuinely present in your own life?





PEACE: THE ACHIEVEMENT NOBODY ANNOUNCES. Peace is the ability to live without feeling that every part of your life must ...
10/09/2026

PEACE: THE ACHIEVEMENT NOBODY ANNOUNCES.

Peace is the ability to live without feeling that every part of your life must be defended, explained, or proved to someone. It is not the absence of problems, but the gradual understanding that not every problem deserves to become a personal war. And unlike the achievements we proudly announce on LinkedIn, peace often arrives without witnesses. Nobody applauds you for finally sleeping well, leaving an argument unfinished, or no longer rehearsing what you should have said to someone who hurt you.

There is a particular exhaustion that comes from needing to be understood by everyone. You explain your intentions, defend your decisions, revisit conversations, and spend precious hours trying to correct somebody else's version of you. Eventually, you begin to realise that being misunderstood is sometimes the price of making choices that are right for you. Not every accusation deserves a response, and not every disagreement needs a winner. Sometimes, maturity is recognising that your energy is better spent living your truth than campaigning for public approval.

Our relationship with ambition makes this even more complicated. We celebrate the promotion, the growing business, the bigger salary, and the impressive title. Rarely do we ask what these achievements are costing the person pursuing them. What does professional success mean when Sunday evenings are filled with dread, family conversations compete with unanswered emails, and your mind cannot rest even when your body finally does? A life can look enviable from the outside and feel unbearable from within.

Perhaps this is why peace is such an overlooked achievement. We have measurements for productivity, wealth, influence, and professional advancement, but no universally celebrated milestone for becoming less resentful, less reactive, or less desperate to prove our worth. Yet these changes can require more courage than acquiring another qualification or climbing another rung on the career ladder.

Of course, peace is not silence in the face of injustice, nor is it tolerating disrespect to appear emotionally mature. Sometimes peace requires a difficult conversation.

PEACE: THE ACHIEVEMENT NOBODY ANNOUNCES. Peace is the ability to live without feeling that every part of your life must ...
10/09/2026

PEACE: THE ACHIEVEMENT NOBODY ANNOUNCES.

Peace is the ability to live without feeling that every part of your life must be defended, explained, or proved to someone. It is not the absence of problems, but the gradual understanding that not every problem deserves to become a personal war. And unlike the achievements we proudly announce on LinkedIn, peace often arrives without witnesses. Nobody applauds you for finally sleeping well, leaving an argument unfinished, or no longer rehearsing what you should have said to someone who hurt you.

There is a particular exhaustion that comes from needing to be understood by everyone. You explain your intentions, defend your decisions, revisit conversations, and spend precious hours trying to correct somebody else's version of you. Eventually, you begin to realise that being misunderstood is sometimes the price of making choices that are right for you. Not every accusation deserves a response, and not every disagreement needs a winner. Sometimes, maturity is recognising that your energy is better spent living your truth than campaigning for public approval.

Our relationship with ambition makes this even more complicated. We celebrate the promotion, the growing business, the bigger salary, and the impressive title. Rarely do we ask what these achievements are costing the person pursuing them. What does professional success mean when Sunday evenings are filled with dread, family conversations compete with unanswered emails, and your mind cannot rest even when your body finally does? A life can look enviable from the outside and feel unbearable from within.

Perhaps this is why peace is such an overlooked achievement. We have measurements for productivity, wealth, influence, and professional advancement, but no universally celebrated milestone for becoming less resentful, less reactive, or less desperate to prove our worth. Yet these changes can require more courage than acquiring another qualification or climbing another rung on the career ladder.

Of course, peace is not silence in the face of injustice, nor is it tolerating disrespect to appear emotionally mature. Sometimes peace requires a difficult conversation, a firm boundary, or the courage to leave. The difference is that you stop confusing constant conflict with strength and constant availability with worth.

As this working week ends, perhaps the most important question is not what you achieved, but what you can finally stop carrying. What is the point of building a life that impresses everybody else if you cannot find peace within it?





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