16/05/2026
Divorce is never easy — especially when children are involved. As a Conflict Resolution Practitioner, I often see how deeply children are affected not just by the divorce itself, but by how parents handle it.
Here are some important DO’s and DON’Ts to guide you through this process in a way that protects your children and supports their well-being:
🔹 DO put your child’s best interests first
In South African family law, the *best interests of the child* is always the top priority. This means decisions must focus on their emotional, physical, and developmental needs — not parental conflict.
🔹 DO encourage a healthy relationship with both parents
Unless there are serious safety concerns, children benefit from having meaningful relationships with both parents. Support contact and communication.
🔹 DO keep communication respectful
Even if emotions are high, try to communicate calmly and constructively. Children are deeply affected by ongoing conflict.
🔹 DO create a clear parenting plan
A structured parenting plan helps avoid confusion and conflict. It can be made an order of court and provides stability for your child.
🔹 DO seek professional guidance
A Conflict Resolution Practitioner or Family Mediator can help you navigate difficult conversations, reduce conflict, and reach agreements that work for everyone.
🚫 DON’T involve your children in adult issues
Children should never be messengers, decision-makers, or exposed to legal disputes.
🚫 DON’T speak negatively about the other parent
This can harm your child emotionally and may even impact court decisions.
🚫 DON’T withhold contact out of anger
Denying access can be seen as acting against your child’s best interests.
🚫 DON’T make decisions based on emotion alone
Legal processes require fairness, structure, and careful consideration.
💡 Why is a Conflict Resolution Practitioner so important?
Divorce doesn’t have to be a battle. A Conflict Resolution Practitioner helps:
✔ Reduce emotional stress
✔ Keep the focus on the child
✔ Prevent unnecessary legal costs
✔ Create workable, realistic agreements
✔ Turn conflict into constructive solutions
When handled correctly, divorce can be a transition — not a trauma — for your children.
If you are going through a divorce or need guidance with parenting plans, maintenance matters, or mediation, I am here to assist you with professionalism, care, and clarity.
📩 Contact Natasha Dixon
Conflict Resolution Practitioner | Family Mediator | Life Coach | Counselor
“Protecting your peace while prioritising your child’s future.”
