11/08/2026
This conversation might be a bit much for some.
When a man and a woman meet s*xually, there are little markers that show you how each party intrinsically works. For a woman to reach a full and TRUE or**sm, she needs softness given to her. Once she requires “harder” and “faster” it means that she is either too much in the masculine (meaning she’s off balance) or he is too much in his feminine (meaning he is off balance). This is not to throw shade at people’s preferences.
By his nature he is inclined to get fulfilment from “seeing the results of his labour”. This is why moans and faking or**sms tend to make men finish quicker. Obviously not always. But he MUST keep his eyes open to see her progress through the process, which is immediate feedback of what he is doing. A man who is inward is simply chasing the feeling that his g***s is getting, which actually goes against his true or**sm. His true or**sm comes from his heart chakra. It’s the part that gets the “well done” and then sends the message of satisfaction throughout his system. Unfortunately this type can easily look like he’s getting a stroke, which can be a bit scary, at times for both parties because he has no control of his body in that moment.
By her nature she is inclined to get fulfilment from being “seeked and seen”. She has to keep her eyes closed and focus on what is going on inside, how her pulse is changing, how this and that feels, what her hands naturally want to do. If an or**sm is seeked, her true or**sm doesn’t show up because it feels like she is being used like a hand for wanking. This is why saying certain things to her tends to get her to or**sm quicker. Obviously not always. It’s the difference between “haaa haaa” and “Is this you? I didn’t know you were like this. What are you doing to me? You’re so beautiful. I love you” and stuff. Even the professional bum sellers have said on many occasions that they generally don’t or**sm at work but with men who say certain things it’s inevitable. It’s a sign of being seen. Unfortunately her or**sm too can be a bit scary because she also has no control of her body as her or**sm comes from her solar plexus chakra and is sent out to the rest of her body. It too can look and sound like she’s getting a stroke, even causing her face to twitch (which can obviously be a bit disturbing).
Phonodrafi can be very misleading because it teaches people that screaming means she’s or**smed when in reality the full body muscle contractions also affect her throat, which makes screaming a bit difficult. It also shows men pulling it out and finishing on the outside, which actually moves him from “seeing” her, to seeing himself. This is unnatural as it shows a s*xual disconnect, where he becomes more connected to seeing himself doing himself.
Basically like someone who likes to pray because they like to hear how they sound when they pray.
However, the s*xual connection, for both parties, starts looooong before clothes are removed. He NEEDS her to positively receive his actions, for his chakras to start being activated. This is why it’s usually so easy for unsavoury people who keep praising him for his work and achievements and whatever else, to get him lusting for them. The little “you bought that car? Yourself? Yoh when things are so tough out there for everyone? Heyi uyindoda emadodeni” will easily start the process. She NEEDS him to feel her energy for her chakras to start lighting up. The “Seeing you always lights up my day. Your smile makes me feel so safe. Hearing your voice gives me so much comfort” aaawu the process has started.
It’s also why women get peeved off by a man praising her accomplishments, and men feel belittled when you tell them about how you like seeing their smile. Obviously this doesn’t apply to every single situation.
A woman is at her best when she goes inward. When she relaxed her whole body and mind, and goes inward.
A man is at his best when he expresses himself outward. When he gets out of his head and does something.
These principles apply in s*x and with everything else.
Men shouldn’t actually pray by kneeling and speaking.
Women shouldn’t pray by walking around and saying loud things and clapping their hands and jumping around. These things cause a spiritual disconnect.
K thanks
