06/06/2024
CHAPTER THREE: DECISIONS. in my Book: Think-Inside-the-Box & Grow Rich
You have an important decision to make and that involves who isn’t working and what isn’t working.
So, let’s start with what isn’t working?
What Strategies, Tactics & Methods aren’t working, and habits are not working to make you wealthier, healthier, happier.
Be honest with yourself………………What isn’t working?
You must list them down, no one has to see what you list it down, but you have to start listing them one by one…...you must list them down immediately.
Now, let’s talk about who isn’t working? Oh…. Yah…...this is a touchy one.
See, here’s the thing. There are five different types of people in your life.
1. You have people who makes the same mistakes over and over again, ok?
2. Then you have the negative people in your life,
3. Then you have the people who don’t care about anything. These are the kind of people when you talk to them; “you say…. what’s happening in your life?” they say nothing all the time, there is nothing is nothing going in their lives, they don’t carry the weight, they’re living life by default and not by design.
4. And then there is the people who you feel drained…. every time you talk to them. They just drain your energy.
5. And finally, then are these people who always try and manipulate your time or try and manipulate you.
The unfortunate part of all five of these people, is that many times you can’t identify them immediately and that’s why it’s important that you for 72 hours to seven days, ok? Began to write down your conversations with them.
It is the late great Jim Rohn who said that we are the average of the five people we talk to the most.
So, you going to be able to narrow down from your work, your play, your social gatherings, your community, your personal life. Who isn’t Working!!!!
So, here is what you going to do you going to write down four columns or you can open an excel spreadsheet and do it.
So, column one is going to be subject; you going to have a moment where write exactly what you were talking about, you don’t have write word for word, just enough where you are paying attention to what the conversation is all about.
Then there is the second column, very important. What is the amount of time you spend to talk to this person, and then the.
Third, column, which is probably the most important column out of all of them. How did you feel after you had that conversation.
And, then the last column, is there name. Who did you actually talk too. See you want to be began to see who you are talking to.
You want to begin to track and see how much time you give to this person.
Time is the most important and valuable thing in the world that you have.
And how did you feel? You will begin to immediately identify the wrong people in your life. Now, how do you get them out of your life?
Very simple…hey let me ask you something? Why is that vultures fly in space?
The answer to that is that the environment is not conducive for them to do so.
Therefore, you going to develop your own environment that is not conducive for these five people types of people to come into your life.
Once you’ve identified them, this is how you going to either change them or get rid of them. Now, I know you can’t really change a person, but you can change yourself and therefore have an influence possibly changing them or their behaviour at most.
They’re either going to change like you changing or they’re going to go away. That’s the choices that are there for them.
So, how are you going to change them?
You are not going to be directly confrontational with them. Here’s what you going to do. You going to become busy……yes that’s all it is.
Here is what I mean by that……They cannot talk to you if they cannot reach you. They can’t email you if you going to continue respond and take your time by emailing them back.
Don’t dedicate your time your time to people, who unfortunately don’t matter. If you have identified them as one of those people who is not helping you to get to where you need to go, or are not thinking in the right place or sound like the type of person you want to be around.
Then why have them around? And why allow them to come into your life.
They might be nice people but nice people you can maybe talk to once in a while or once a month or so, nice people you can talk to every couple of months.
Hey…...I have some nice in my life!!!! I only talk to once a year or two.
They are nice people, but they have nothing going on that’s going to benefit you. And what I mean by benefit is, people who is going to build you up, people who’s going to speak great things into your life.
They don’t fit into any of these five types of people.
They're not draining you, they not trying to manipulate your time, they’re not doing the same foolish things over and over again, they care about something and not just every time you talk to them…...there is nothing going on, they most certainly aren’t negative.
You must begin to identify the people you allow in your daily and weekly life.
Because that’s going to determine your mindset moving forward.
We going to talk more about mindset in the chapter four – Mentality.
But you must begin to guard your mind, your thoughts or body and your soul, therefore becoming busy does that immediately.
The first time I did this, years ago, I discover that there was a friend who unfortunately continued to talk about themselves all the time……and I said wow!!! That’s really amazing, they talked about themselves all the time, that’s the only conversation they had that’s worth talking about…...them talking about themselves.
What I did was become busy. I mean why do want to listen to someone talk about themselves 24-for-seven.
That is not something I want to dedicate my life to, and I don’t think that is something anyone wants to dedicate their lives to. It is not that you don’t want to listen to a friend, keep in mind.
We have those moments that we want to share those frustrations with our friends and vent and yes, we listen to our friend’s lives, absolutely. But this is not what I am talking about.
I mean someone who is constantly and consistently having a me-fest and that’s not the type of person you want to dedicate your time to as you move forward in your goals.
Think about that for a moment?
Who are you walking with, you’re around. If you don’t make the conscious decision to identify the problem, you going to have a hard time solving it.
And the second part to it, is if you don’t make the decision to take action on it on a daily and weekly basis to remove it, you going to have a harder time moving forward.
As we go into step four mentality, remember this as we go into mentality and pouring positivity into your mindset is hard to get rid of those stains in the glass, if you don’t get a new glass or clean the glass, you don’t start fresh.
You got to clean your glass; this is what this decision part is all about.
You got to get out of your life what is not important, whether its strategy, tactics, methods or people and you have to begin to identify the groups of people who are not on your team.
They’re not necessarily hating you, but they’re not on your team. You have to realize that. They have a different agenda then yours. You have to surround yourself with like-mined people.
Listen, just on YouTube; Facebook; X alone there more than 25 billion people every day.
I guarantee you there is somebody will speak great things into your life, just as much as you will into their lives.
Let’s move on to the next chapter. Have a Blessed Day and We will meet tomorrow again.........same time........same place
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