Essence to Essence : Imago Relationship Therapy

12/08/2022

Dating apps and a drastically changing relationship landscape.

05/10/2019

wired for connection

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01/05/2019

We have to know how to work with our own reactivity and how to “stay with ourselves.” By doing that we have much more space for our partner to be who they are. It’s paradoxical - the more we soothe ourselves and not sweat the small stuff, the more we can tolerate our partner’s small stuff. ⁣
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We can either go around in the world having that stuff bother us, or cultivate a sense of - big word here - “imperturbability.“ It’s like what they say - you can be right or you can be in relationship, you choose.

Credit: Evie Shafner, LMFT

08/10/2018

You will grow
Into someone else
With someone else
Not me
Not anymore
But when you're laying next to your future
And he mentions me
Don't falter
Push away the memories
Do not lie though. Tell him who I was to you
Don't give your opinion about me, he didn't ask for it
Don't tell him the way I ran my finger tips against your lips
And when he leaves your bed, don't take out that ring that you should have thrown Tell him you love him now but don't tell him I still linger in the dark corners of your mind Tell him he's your present and may even be your future but don't tell him that your mind often wanders to the past

Tell whoever you chose to fill your life with after me that you're happy now Don't tell them about the nights your pillow took on your tears and you wished it was my shoulder Don't tell them that when you make coffee you still think about the way I preferred it Whoever they are, smile for them. Never let them know, they won't replace what you and I used to be.

When you look at yourself, some time from now ,
Observe that your eyes don't look so tired but don't remember the nights you cried them red. Tell yourself you're finally over it, ignore the tiny part that breaks at the thought of being over it. Wrap your arms around yourself, but it might not be the same as the way I used to.

And if you ever do, don't worry or wonder about me.
Don't ponder on whether I ever moved on.
Don't consider calling to check up on me.
You know the answers to the questions you have.
I still look around the house and try to find you there,much like you do. I still have those movie tickets and the gloves you left behind
I still don't have the courage to go into what once was our favourite restaurant and chinese food still vaguely brings up your name in my mind.

You will grow
Into someone else
With someone else

Submitted by Rishabh Shukla
Artwork by Thomas Saliot

11/05/2017

Helicopter parents think that they're doing what's best for their kids but actually, they're hurting their kids' chances at success. In particular, they're ruining their kids' chances of landing a job and keeping it.

28/02/2017

Who is running your relationships: you or your brain chemistry? This is how your Brain responds to the potent neurochemistry of Love.

13/02/2017

Our overscheduled lives leave little time for contemplation and reflection. How do we enable each other to pause and reflect together and ask how our hearts are doing?

05/01/2017

Being in the crazy world of a narcissist ....

Dear Codependent Partner, What I’m about to say is not something I’d ever say or admit (to you), because to do so would end the winner-takes-all-game that is my main source of pleasure in life — one that effectively keeps you carrying...

16/11/2016

As a part of the Universal Children’s Day celebration, we are thrilled to share three weekly “gift bags” of downloads to share EQ with children.

17/07/2016

Keeping on

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02/07/2016