04/02/2022
I was on a call last week with a potential client.
She voiced her deep desire to make positive changes in her life and work on personal growth and development.
She was feeling stuck and lost with a lack of ambition, motivation and purpose now that she has reached this second stage of her life. And she was beating up on herself for feeling this way.
And it got me thinking about myself when I had what I can call my “mid-life awakening”. And how I struggled in silence for years because I could not seem to find the support and encouragement that I so desperately needed.
It seemed like for me at the time I was the only one who was going through this “transformation”.
😣I struggled to make sense of what I was thinking and feeling.
😣I struggled to express myself in a way that didn’t make me the “Debbie Downer” all the time.
😣I struggled internally because I felt embarrassed that I was stuck and struggling when it seemed like everyone else was thriving and moving forward.
😣I didn't feel in alignment with my who I truly was, who I am meant to be.
And because no one else in my immediate circle of friends and family could understand me, I thought there was something wrong with me.
What I started to do was fight with myself, beat myself up, have a negative internal dialogue with myself.
Which in turn only made matters worse.
It wasn’t until I finally acknowledged my feelings, emotions and thoughts and surrendered to them that I started to feel better.
I accepted them, I allowed them to be there and I gave myself permission to feel sad, depressed, anxious, lonely, angry, overwhelmed or whatever!
And once I gave myself the freedom to actually “feel” whatever it was that came up for me, I was then able to address it and finally “let go” of what was no longer serving any purpose.
As more time passed, things started to take a turn for the better.
I began to feel empowered and in control!
✅My depression subsided
✅I was able to manage my anxiety
✅I began to feel hopeful and excited about this next chapter in my life.
My message to you today is this….
Do not be afraid to honor your feelings No matter what!
Don’t be afraid to express yourself and ask for help!
Don’t beat yourself up for feeling sad and or depressed.
🌟Acknowledge your feelings
🌟Accept them
🌟Allow them to be there
🌟Address them
🌟And then…let them go.
I am not going to sugar coat it and say it’s “easy” because it isn’t.
You will have to work at it and it can get messy.
But trust me when I tell you….it will totally be worth it in the end!
And remember this, you are NOT alone!! 🙂
