25/05/2022
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WANT TO UNDERSTAND A PERSON? LOOK AT THIS 5 SMALL DETAILS
The country of Greece has a fable that goes something like this: "There was a king who kept some monkeys in his palace. He trained them to dance and dressed them in beautiful clothes. They are human-shaped masks. When the monkeys dance, they look very human-like, leisurely, and flexible.
The king lets the monkeys dance for the courtiers to enjoy one day during a banquet. The monkeys' skilful acting received a lot of applause. But among the courtiers, one intentionally dropped a banana on the floor.
Seeing this, the monkeys took off their masks and rushed in to compete for bananas. As a result, the monkeys' elaborate show became a mockery for everyone."
The parable above shows that the nature of monkeys cannot be changed even if they learn to dance and wear masks like humans. Monkeys are still monkeys; they will reveal their original form when they see bananas.
Likewise, each person disguises himself with a smiling, friendly mask in everyday life. The petty man is wearing a mask and pretending to be a gentleman. The liar wears a show that makes ordinary people think he is an honest person...
The human expression may not be directly like that of monkeys, but no matter how they disguise themselves or encounter something in their heart of love, they will unconsciously and clearly reveal their true self. You cannot tell if someone is perfect unless you associate with them.
Not everyone is really friendly to you. To be able to see clearly the nature of a person, the following 5 perspectives can help you explore more deeply a person's psychology and personality:
1. THEIR BEHAVIORS WHEN MEETING PRESSURE:
Everyone has a habit of disguising their own true psychology. Still, most people cannot maintain this disguise when faced with great pressure. Faced with tremendous pressure, who only thinks about himself, who is a true gentleman, will be revealed sooner or later. In any relationship, when tribulation occurs, you will know if that person is worth trusting, being friends with or not by looking at the behavior and attitude of the other person.
Using fire to test gold and going through difficult pressure will clearly see people's hearts.
2. OBSERVE THEIR WAY OF CHOICE:
One can deceive people with disguises, but one cannot fool oneself with disguises. When faced with important life choices, the decisions they make at this point clearly reflect who they are.
For example, between options in terms of family, study, career, love, interests... you just have to observe that person's choices, whether brave or cowardly, decisive or indecisive, wise or stupid, hypocritical or naive... will all show the true nature of the other.
3. THEIR FRIENDSHIP RELATIONSHIP:
Everyone chooses people who have things in common with themselves to be friends. Most people who can become friends have similar interests, opinions, personalities, and positions in society. Therefore, no matter how disguised a person is, hiding the friends around is impossible. Someone said: "A person's personality is the average of the ten closest friends". From a psychological point of view, this statement is not without reason.
4. THEIR PERSON'S FAMILY:
The living environment has a significant influence on a person's personality. In particular, the impact of family on people's psyche is profound and often hidden inside. If you want to know if a person is worthy for you to date, look at the other person's parents and family relationships.
The way a person behaves with the people closest to them is their nature. In particular, the inheritance of psychological defects from generation to generation often accurately reflects a person's true personality.
5. MOST IMPORTANT METHOD: PERSONAL OBSERVATION
No matter how intelligent and accurate the way of observing and seeing people or how good the skill of judging the psychology of others is, it will not be possible to know with complete accuracy or see-through the personality of an individual at first encounter. Only time indeed shows the true nature of a person.
Take the time to look at the person after the first meeting, even if you and that person "have just met but look like they have known each other for a long time!" It also takes a long time of exposure and observation to understand naturally. When looking at people, you shouldn't let subjective emotions get in the way. Calmly observing the other person's behavior over time, you can clearly identify their likeness.
Using "time" is often easy to recognize the following types of people:
- Liars: Words that are not true will always have loopholes. Time is the best tool to test the truth.
- Insincere people: Because they are not honest, after the initial enthusiasm and rushing period, this person will quickly show indifference after not receiving benefits.
- Words do not match actions type: With this type of person, speaking and doing are two completely different things. Using "time", you can soon detect inconsistencies in their words and actions.
On the other hand, if you want to quickly understand someone's personality and mentality, you can also ask for advice from people who have been with each other for a long time.
In general, in the relationship between people and people, no matter what kind of people you are communicating with, from the above 5 aspects, you can accurately identify their personality and personality.
