Jani Rundall Coaching

22/04/2026

The deficit framing of ADHD has real consequences.

When you internalise ADHD as something missing...

Every struggle becomes evidence of personal inadequacy.

Every system that doesn't work becomes proof of something wrong with you.

Every gap between effort and outcome gets filed under failure.

But here's what's actually true...

ADHD brains tend to bring remarkable capacity for deep focus on things that genuinely matter.

Pattern recognition across disciplines that others filter out.

Responsiveness under pressure and genuine novelty.

Emotional depth that drives real connection and commitment.

None of those disappear just because the environment wasn't designed for them.

They just need different conditions to show up. 💙

What does your brain do well when the conditions are right?

20/04/2026

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1GuByZsKB1/

The way ADHD is diagnosed and managed is changing across the country. Here's the reason for the change and how it will work in each state and territory.

20/04/2026

One practical shift for relationships under ADHD and hormonal pressure...

Separate the biological from the relational.

When your nervous system is dysregulated, name it as that.

Not 'I don't want to talk to you.'

But:

'My brain isn't regulating well right now. It's not about you. Can we come back to this in an hour?'

Those two things can feel identical from the outside.

Naming the difference is an act of care for the relationship.

It gives your partner accurate information instead of a story to fill the gap with. 💙

Does this resonate? Save it for when you need it.

18/04/2026

You're not 'too much.'

Things are changing.

And change in one nervous system affects the whole system.

That's not failure.

That's information. 💙

16/04/2026

There was a period where my partner kept asking me what was wrong.

And I kept saying nothing.

Not because I was hiding something.

But because I genuinely didn't have language for it.

Something had shifted in how I was experiencing everything...
including him.

Small things felt enormous.
Normal conversations felt like effort.
I was withdrawing without meaning to.

And I could see it was confusing him. Which made it worse.

What I didn't know then was that my nervous system was running out of capacity.

Not for him.
For everything.

And that the most loving thing I could do wasn't to explain it perfectly...

it was to name that something biological was happening.

That it wasn't about us.

That changed everything. 🌿

Have you ever had something biological show up in your relationship before you had words for it?

13/04/2026

Something that often gets missed when relationships strain in midlife...

It's not about love.

It's about two nervous systems navigating changed conditions without a shared framework for what's actually happening.

When ADHD meets hormonal change, the emotional window narrows.

Things that used to feel manageable land harder.

Smaller things feel bigger.

Perceived criticism hits differently.

And from the outside... none of that is visible.

A partner sees the output.
The irritability.
The withdrawal.
The response that feels disproportionate.

Without the internal context... they make it mean something about the relationship.

It isn't about the relationship.

It's about biology that nobody named. 💙

What would change in your relationship if both of you had that context?

11/04/2026

You're allowed to redefine yourself.

Not because the old version was wrong.

But because you know more now.

And you get to use that. 💙

08/04/2026

There was a version of me that had everything organised.

The job title.
The schedule.
The systems that (mostly) held.

And then slowly, almost without noticing, those things started to loosen.

The energy wasn't there in the same way.
The certainty about who I was started to develop gaps.

And I spent a long time trying to hold onto the version of myself I understood.

What I didn't know then... was that the loosening wasn't failure.

It was space being made.

For something more honest.
More aligned.
More actually me.

The version that's emerging now is quieter.
And more certain than she's ever been. 🌿

What part of yourself is asking for more space right now?

06/04/2026

Something specific happens to identity in midlife...

The roles that once held everything together start to feel like they don't quite fit anymore.

The job that defined you.
The version of yourself people relied on.
The energy you used to have for everything.

And underneath all of it, a question that doesn't have a clean answer yet...

Who am I now?

Here's what's actually happening:

Identity destabilises in midlife not because something has gone wrong, but because the brain is updating.

The hormonal shifts of perimenopause affect how the brain processes self-concept.
ADHD adds another layer - when the systems that helped you cope stop working the same way, the identity built around them starts to feel uncertain too.

That uncertainty isn't loss.

It's recalibration. 💙

Has your sense of yourself shifted in ways that are hard to name?

02/04/2026

Attended the VTIC Leadership Series this week. Lord Mayor Nick Reece spoke about the exciting things happening across Melbourne right now.

𝗠𝗲𝗹𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗿𝗼𝘄𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟲.😀
After coming fourth in 2025, we’ve climbed to the top of Time Out’s global list.

From the most locked-down city on the planet…
to number one in the world.

That doesn’t happen by chance.

It’s the culture.
The events.
The food.
The people.

Melbourne isn’t just a place you visit.
It’s a place you experience.

Proud to call Melbourne home.

02/04/2026

Your body has been communicating all along.

The tiredness that rest didn't fix.

The overwhelm that came from nowhere.

The shutdown that looked like laziness from the outside.

That was information.

Not weakness. 💙